[Emmie3303]

(Original post by Rhubarb1)
yeah... her house isnt really london and i dont think he realises this!
he really frustrates me!

Maybe it's worth pointing that out to him if you try to persuade him . He's probably constructed loads of senarios in his head with you getting into trouble in London.

[Deziah]

I'm the same age as you, and I doubt that my mum would let me get the train to London on my own. I've been catching buses by myself since I was fourteen, I actually do it every week, so it's not like she doesn't trust me with public transport. It's just, she's not familiar with the idea of trains as they're not used in everyday life, like buses, where I am from. They're obviously pretty safe nowadays, but it'd be hard to persuade her, unless I went with a friend first.
I doubt your Dad doesn't trust you, or doesn't think you're independent enough. Maybe he just needs persuading a bit more? You could try negotiating?

[Rhubarb1]

(Original post by DanzaKuduro)
Maybe it's because I am the youngest child in the house and he's quite afraid of the crime rate :/

Ahhhh I'm an only child :/

[Rhubarb1]

(Original post by Hopple)
I'd probably work up to a weekend away in a different city rather than jumping straight there as it seems you're intending to do. Does he even know your friend? Have you stayed over at a friend's house before, anywhere?

If you have done all that, then ask him to buy you a gun. If you aren't safe even with your experience, the only thing that'll convince him is if you're packing heat.

It's my cousin, he's met her. She's 30, has a fiancé and her own flat. I've stayed out before.

Haha :P

(Original post by Deziah)
I'm the same age as you, and I doubt that my mum would let me get the train to London on my own. I've been catching buses by myself since I was fourteen, I actually do it every week, so it's not like she doesn't trust me with public transport. It's just, she's not familiar with the idea of trains as they're not used in everyday life, like buses, where I am from. They're obviously pretty safe nowadays, but it'd be hard to persuade her, unless I went with a friend first.
I doubt your Dad doesn't trust you, or doesn't think you're independent enough. Maybe he just needs persuading a bit more? You could try negotiating?

Thanks I'm trying negotiation for sure :P

[Hopple]

(Original post by Rhubarb1)
It's my cousin, he's met her. She's 30, has a fiancé and her own flat. I've stayed out before.

Haha :P

Yeah, sounds like he's being unreasonable. Might there be some bad feeling between him and your cousin? Or maybe her fiance?

[Rhubarb1]

(Original post by Hopple)
Yeah, sounds like he's being unreasonable. Might there be some bad feeling between him and your cousin? Or maybe her fiance?

Not that I can think of... She's a lovely person we don't like her brother and his wife but they live near us!
My dad has only met her fiancé once or twice hes a great person too! I honestly just think its that he likes to have control!

[helpmeoutbro]

at least he cares about you most men don't you don't know how lucky you are

[DanzaKuduro]

(Original post by littleone271)
you're 17 and you're not allowed to get on a bus? What happens next year if you go off to uni?

I am an international student and will be going to the UK for degree . I guess I will start learning everything when I am in the UK :/

[Rhubarb1]

(Original post by helpmeoutbro)
at least he cares about you most men don't you don't know how lucky you are

He's my DAD...

[littleone271]

(Original post by DanzaKuduro)
I am an international student and will be going to the UK for degree . I guess I will start learning everything when I am in the UK :/

Ouch.. Does he not think it would be better to ease you into independance gradually? That's going to be one hell of a shock to the system if you've never got on a bus by yourself and then you'll be coming to a different country on a plane and living there completely independantly. Have you spoken to him about this?

[LiLix]

Lol I had a friend who used to be followed(literally) by her father in the car. We would be walking in the shopping centre and see her dads car drive slowly around the centre... If that makes sense but yeah you get my drift! Just ensure you don't do anything for him not to trust you and you are 16 so still a child in any parents eyes, so just maybe talk to him and find a way for him to be assured your safe whilst your out

[DanzaKuduro]

(Original post by littleone271)
Ouch.. Does he not think it would be better to ease you into independance gradually? That's going to be one hell of a shock to the system if you've never got on a bus by yourself and then you'll be coming to a different country on a plane and living there completely independantly. Have you spoken to him about this?

I told him about this matter too but he said the public transports in my country are really not safe to use compared with the ones from other countries :/

[Tatenda1990]

1st of all sit down with your daddy & ask him politely without any attitude, if he refused then try to ask your daddy to drop you*off or yr couzin must cme & pick u up if possible. Ask yr mum to talk to yr daddy aswell. London is a very busy & dangerous area, so he is scared of that.