Did I do the right thing for ignoring this guy?

Just talk to him :/

He sounds like a shy guy

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Shockolate

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If he's that creepy why did you give him your number in the first place?

Also, if he's told you he fancies you within 30 minutes of meeting you, he's definitely not shy!

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You shouldn't really have given him your number in the first place, though I can understand that it can be difficult to say no if asked for it. No-one wants to look mean or rude or put themselves in an awkward situation.

I think you probably need to just send him a text saying that you're sorry you gave him hope by giving him your number but you are not at all interested and that you want him to stop texting you.

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Unknown?

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Original post by Anonymous

No matter how odd he came off, you treated him as if he was subhuman. No you did not do the right thing, have some respect.

Now if he is a creep then its best not to encourage him. The girl did the right thing in regards to her own safety. The guy is either a creep or is just socially awkward. Chatting up strangers on the bus is not generally common behaviour

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Original post by Unknown?

Now if he is a creep then its best not to encourage him. The girl did the right thing in regards to her own safety. The guy is either a creep or is just socially awkward. Chatting up strangers on the bus is not generally common behaviour

If you don't pursue what you like, then you'll get nowhere.

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Unknown?

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Original post by ct2k7

If you don't pursue what you like, then you'll get nowhere.

And this stranger thought that it was probable that confronting this girl on the bus with all of his soically awkward characteristics which he should only be aware of and then proceeding to hit on her during their first meeting would have woed this girl?

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Original post by Unknown?

And this stranger thought that it was probable that confronting this girl on the bus with all of his soically awkward characteristics which he should only be aware of and then proceeding to hit on her during their first meeting would have woed this girl?

It doesn't really look socially awkward from my POV. People have their ways.

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Original post by ct2k7

It doesn't really look socially awkward from my POV. People have their ways.

Public transport is by and large not a socially acceptable place to chat people up.

Neither is being overly complimentary having just met someone, neither is telling someone you like them after a 30 minute conversation. There's also the fact that he's 5 years older than her.

From a girls' point of view that all spells creepy.

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Classical Liberal

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Original post by ct2k7

Just talk to him :/

He sounds like a shy guy

No he doesn't.

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Classical Liberal

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Original post by Historophilia

You shouldn't really have given him your number in the first place, though I can understand that it can be difficult to say no if asked for it. No-one wants to look mean or rude or put themselves in an awkward situation.

I think you probably need to just send him a text saying that you're sorry you gave him hope by giving him your number but you are not at all interested and that you want him to stop texting you.

Correct.

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Original post by Classical Liberal

No he doesn't.

Not shy in the classical terms, but obviously shy in the relationships side.

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Original post by Historophilia

Public transport is by and large not a socially acceptable place to chat people up.

Neither is being overly complimentary having just met someone, neither is telling someone you like them after a 30 minute conversation. There's also the fact that he's 5 years older than her.

From a girls' point of view that all spells creepy.

It happens on trains etc, it happens.

Whilst it's not very comforting having someone overcomplementing, it generally does happen if the feelings have been there for a while.

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Classical Liberal

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Original post by ct2k7

Not shy in the classical terms, but obviously shy in the relationships side.

No. He is clearly a ****ing weirdo.

Reply 16

Birdman1234567

Imo, it does come off as a bit rude to completely ignore him and act like he wasn't there. I can understand why you did it and do agree that this guy is a bit awkward, however I wouldn't use the word creepy, I think people overuse that word nowadays and it can be very hurtful. On the whole I think it would have just been a bit polite to say hello back, but yh you shouldn't have given this dude your number in the first place, I also don't think you should feel to bad, you don't owe him anything. I agree with the above poster just text him to clear up the air.

Just out of interest OP, how attractive was he?

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Original post by ct2k7

It happens on trains etc, it happens.

Whilst it's not very comforting having someone overcomplementing, it generally does happen if the feelings have been there for a while.

But she hasn't known him for a while. He's a complete stranger that she spoke to for half an hour.

He's definitely creepy.

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Original post by Classical Liberal

No. He is clearly a ****ing weirdo.

He is clearly not. I've had people chatting to me on the bus people, even trains. People have told me that I'm attractive, and people have asked if I'm single.

Original post by Historophilia

But she hasn't known him for a while. He's a complete stranger that she spoke to for half an hour.

He's definitely creepy.

I don't think creepy is the right word - but then if OP wasn't comfortable, why did OP give him her number?

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