[Anonymous]

Hi guys, am just looking for a few opinions/bit of advice.

Basically, I'm a 17 year old guy, single & currently working in a shop at weekends where I've met a really, really nice girl. We chat quite a lot at work, and have recently started chatting occasionally on facebook, although only really about when our next shifts are/holidays and other pointless stuff to do with work :P Personally I think we get on reasonably well, however, I have two problems:

1) She's 19 (and turns 20 soon after I'm 18)
2) I'm awful with girls, especially when it comes to asking for numbers/dates etc

Personally, I don't care about the age gap, and I'm not too worried about people judging (its not really their business), but I'm just worried about how she'd feel. I mean, I'm a virgin, have never had a girlfriend, can't go out, can't drive & still go to school everday. What are other peoples opinions on this? Girls, would you date someone two years younger?

The other thing is, does anyone have any tips on how I could ask her about her feelings on the whole age thing, or even for her number/out on a date?

Thanks in advance

[Powersymphonia]

Ask her out on a date. Two years is not a long time. My partner is five years older than me and we get along great. There's ten years between my Aunt and Uncle and they've been married five years!

[Sovix]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi guys, am just looking for a few opinions/bit of advice.

Basically, I'm a 17 year old guy, single & currently working in a shop at weekends where I've met a really, really nice girl. We chat quite a lot at work, and have recently started chatting occasionally on facebook, although only really about when our next shifts are/holidays and other pointless stuff to do with work :P Personally I think we get on reasonably well, however, I have two problems:

1) She's 19 (and turns 20 soon after I'm 18)
2) I'm awful with girls, especially when it comes to asking for numbers/dates etc

Personally, I don't care about the age gap, and I'm not too worried about people judging (its not really their business), but I'm just worried about how she'd feel. I mean, I'm a virgin, have never had a girlfriend, can't go out, can't drive & still go to school everday. What are other peoples opinions on this? Girls, would you date someone two years younger?

The other thing is, does anyone have any tips on how I could ask her about her feelings on the whole age thing, or even for her number/out on a date?

Thanks in advance

im on the same boat kinda.. Al thought im not a virgin and i finished school. I also like a girl at work, but i think shes like 22 and im 20 lol. Mehh, mate just go for it, we only live once.. For me its even harder, the girl i like, is living with her bf lmao.. If shes single go for it.

[BKS]

I started uni at 17, almost 18. Within weeks I was going out with a 4th year who had also taken a year out and was English so started at 18/19 which made her 5 years older than me. I was a virgin, terrible with women, unsure of myself ect I had to ask her out by facebook because it was the only way I could bring myself to. But she liked me so it didn't matter. I'm glad I went for it because I had nothing to loose

Moral of the story- that isn't much if she's into you

[TruetoMyself]

2 years isn't that much at all. Dont be negative-dont say your terrible with women. You just lack some confidence and have a few nerves which most dudes have when it comes to making a move on the opposite sex. If you really cant bring yourself to ask her in person, ask her via facebook. You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. Good Luck

[natcho]

2 years is nothing.

[King Kebab]

Two years is nothing. I have friends who go out with people with a bigger age gap than thatand they have been going out for years. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Cheers guys, I didn't see two years as a problem, and now that the rest of you don't it reassures me she will probably be okay with it

[Foo.mp3]

In general guys in their late teens shouldn't aim higher (in terms of age/out of their league) unless they're a baws.. unless they wish to learn a few more things about rejection

[dgeorge]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi guys, am just looking for a few opinions/bit of advice.

Basically, I'm a 17 year old guy, single & currently working in a shop at weekends where I've met a really, really nice girl. We chat quite a lot at work, and have recently started chatting occasionally on facebook, although only really about when our next shifts are/holidays and other pointless stuff to do with work :P Personally I think we get on reasonably well, however, I have two problems:

1) She's 19 (and turns 20 soon after I'm 18)
2) I'm awful with girls, especially when it comes to asking for numbers/dates etc

Personally, I don't care about the age gap, and I'm not too worried about people judging (its not really their business), but I'm just worried about how she'd feel. I mean, I'm a virgin, have never had a girlfriend, can't go out, can't drive & still go to school everday. What are other peoples opinions on this? Girls, would you date someone two years younger?

The other thing is, does anyone have any tips on how I could ask her about her feelings on the whole age thing, or even for her number/out on a date?

Thanks in advance

If you're worrying about how she'd feel about the age difference, then you're probably a bit too immature/inexperienced (NOT in a bad way) to handle her.

It's not about age, it's about confidence and self belief. I would encourage you to try, however, because you never know.

If you're looking for tips, the best one is DON'T ASK AND DON'T CARE. The less you are concerned about it the better.

The best idea would be a group/event date idea. Say that you're going somewhere with friends (movies, bowling, etc) and ask if she wants to come.

Otherwise, tell her that you're going for coffee or something (I'd say a pint, but you're under 18) and that she should join you.

Also, make jokes, be interesting, have interesting things to say. Unfortuantely, I can't give you too much help because it all depends mostly on your interpersonal skills, and the only way to improve these is to put yourself out there. Just remember to value yourself and your time, and make it a learning experience as opposed to simply something you MUST do

[LavenderBlueSky88]

I think age gaps like this (a couple of years either way) seem to matter so much more when you're young, once you get over the age of 18 it really doesn't make much difference as you're both adults. So in that logic, seeing as you'll be 18 when she's 20 it's not really a big deal.

However, take into account the different life stages you're at: you say you're still at school, are you planning on going to uni? Is she at uni? That's more likely where any problems would lie...not the age gap itself.

If you like her I'd say it would be good to build up a bit more of a rapport with her first, talk to her a bit more and not just about work stuff. You might be able to tell if she's sees you more than just a boy she works with...at the end of the day, you've not really got much to loose, the worst that can happen is she will say she's not interested.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by dgeorge)
Otherwise, tell her that you're going for coffee or something (I'd say a pint, but you're under 18) and that she should join you.

Yeah, I'm definitely thinking of asking her to Starbucks, gives us a good chance to chat outside of work

(Original post by LavenderBlueSky88)
However, take into account the different life stages you're at: you say you're still at school, are you planning on going to uni? Is she at uni? That's more likely where any problems would lie...not the age gap itself.

If you like her I'd say it would be good to build up a bit more of a rapport with her first, talk to her a bit more and not just about work stuff. You might be able to tell if she's sees you more than just a boy she works with...at the end of the day, you've not really got much to loose, the worst that can happen is she will say she's not interested.

Yeah, we've actually chatted about this ahaha :P She's not at Uni yet, and neither of us are 100% sure what we want to do, but yeah its definitely something I need to consider...