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    I'm not sure if this is going to make sense when I type it out but eh, I'll give it my best shot.

    I play in a steelband and we had a rehearsal last night. We kept playing this one song over and over and because I kept getting it wrong (I was trying to improve, I really was), I was repeatedly singled out and laughed at. It was completely mortifying for me and because I knew I was going to burst into tears at some point, I left the room. I went to the toilet to try and clear my head.

    About 10 minutes later one of the girls came and found me and checked to see if I was alright, which was really nice of her. I ended up leaving rehearsal and walking home because I couldn't face going back in and have everyone treating me differently. (Pathetic, I know.)

    The thing that has really annoyed me about all of this is that my so-called "best friend" did not try and help me in any way. I don't even know the girl that helped me that well, but she's obviously a lot nicer than my friend. My best friend stood there and laughed at me with everyone else while I was obviously embarrassed. My prom is tomorrow (we met through steelband and now go to the same school) and I'm going to have to see her, and I'm not sure how to approach her. I don't want to make a scene and ruin prom for either of us, but I can't let this slide.

    Any advice?
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    Find new friends. Perhaps get closer to the nice girl that helped you.

    I don't think you should have gotten so annoyed, perhaps they were only laughing out of banter? You should have laughed with them and not taken it so seriously?
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    (Original post by Miracle Day)
    Find new friends. Perhaps get closer to the nice girl that helped you.

    I don't think you should have gotten so annoyed, perhaps they were only laughing out of banter? You should have laughed with them and not taken it so seriously?
    I think I would have been okay if it had only been said the one time, but they just kept going. I am a bit too sensitive really. It's just a bit hard to think straight when there's a room of 20+ people looking right at you and laughing.
    Thanks for the help


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    (Original post by sheridanamber)
    I think I would have been okay if it had only been said the one time, but they just kept going. I am a bit too sensitive really. It's just a bit hard to think straight when there's a room of 20+ people looking right at you and laughing.
    Thanks for the help


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    Oh I didn't know there were 20.. wow that is harsh
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    If you so called friend is going to behave like, perhaps you would be better off without her in your life. Everyone makes mistakes, there was no need for them to be picking on you like that.
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    That sounds like a horrible situation to have been in
    But my advice would be to let it slide, like you said you don't want to ruin prom for either of you and saying something will cause tension no matter no nicely you try to put it. Likewise dwelling on it will increase your annoyance at her so if I were you I would try to forget it, it took me a long time to get this. Remember people aren't perfect, they have flaws and make mistakes, especially when they are a close friend, your expectations of her are higher than who she actually she is and if you keep them up she'll disappoint you again. Another piece of advice would not be to have one close friend, branch out, get a wider circle of friends! So if one person annoys you there are others to confide in or turn to.
    Good luck with whatever you decide to do, enjoy prom and I hope this ends well!
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    Friends come and go, if she actually cares i'm sure she'll realise you're upset (if you haven't told her already) and apologise.
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    She's texted me and apologised, I was all for leaving it until after prom but i changed my mind and told her why I was upset. All i really wanted was for her to realise that she hurt my feelings, because i didn't think she knew, and she has. I think things are going to be okay.
    Thanks everyone

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