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I've only ever been physically attracted to white girls, a problem?

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Weird is subjective.
Only if you don't live in a predominantly white girl country.
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Original post by Mr Smurf
Its not a problem to have a racial preference. Im an Oriental guy and I have always liked white girls. But finding a white girl who likes Oriental guys is like getting blood out of a stone. :frown:







Last week I saw this Oriental guy picking up this stunning "white" girl near Trafalgar square. She was taller than him too.



put yourself out there dude, and stop complaining.....!
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Original post by ANM775
Last week I saw this Oriental guy picking up this stunning "white" girl near Trafalgar square. She was taller than him too.



put yourself out there dude, and stop complaining.....!


haha, what did he say?
Original post by ravvv
Yes I agree, lets call the police.


she's just echoing the op's sentiments. If the op was arrested I'd bet he'd want to get handcuffed by a white girl. :wink:

Nice to meet another Asian liberal. Thought I was the only one .. I'm female btw.
Totally random but what are your views on premarital sex ? Do u have preferences for a particular race as well. So many Asian guys and girls seem not to prefer their race why is that?
Original post by ANM775
Last week I saw this Oriental guy picking up this stunning "white" girl near Trafalgar square. She was taller than him too.



put yourself out there dude, and stop complaining.....!


Brick wall, love.
Original post by MancBoy
You need to see more girls mate. Go out and look. There are loads of hot girls of different races.

What difference is that gonna make though mate. I've seen tons of girls on TV & at my Uni but I only get boners when seeing white girls for some reason :rolleyes: It's just my personal preference to only be physically attracted to them & I believe that it's something that you're born with & will not change. I'm happy to be friends with girls of all races though :cool:
Original post by ravvv
They wouldn't look at you twice buddy. Get all the boners you want, it's not going to leave your pants if that's how you think. Setting yourself up for failure. Your life I suppose.

X

Pardon? It's not like I get boners all the time lol.
Original post by ravvv
I think you should realise buddy that whilst you may be attracted to them, they are almost certainly not going to be attracted to you. Why be a fool and waste your time? This doesn't mean you're doomed, I would suggest you open your mind a bit more. It's not a genetic thing, it's socialisation and what the beliefs you have from what you've seen/done. You've probably got some silly beliefs about girls from other ethnic backgrounds and I'd change them if I was you or you'll struggle later on. People will tell you different things but they will not have the same problem as you. Do what you want though.

X

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Original post by ravvv
You genuinely think you've got a chance? Good luck lol

X


are you genuinely more attracted to non-white girls or are you just saying that because you think that no white girls will go for you and therefore are settling? because honestly i think it's better to be true to yourself and only go for people you genuinely like even if it means that they reject you and you are single.
-just wondering :h:


i don't think it matters that you have racial preferences unless it's for weird reasons.

I don't have any racial preferences and i'm south-asian. ^ ^
Original post by ravvv
Yes. Not into anything else tbh.

Edit - I don't struggle so do not need to settle for anything lol :smile:


ohh, well the way you talked to the other guy and suggested that white girls won't go for brown guys kind of made it seem like that.
Original post by ravvv
K then I probably should leave giving relationship advice then doesn't seem like I'm that good at it haha! I just thought you need to be blunt with some people, I thought it'd help, I genuinely thought it'd be easier for him but whatever I suppose.


ahh lol i'm, dense so never-mind me.


But why do you think it's an issue that he's got preferences? :colondollar::confused:
Original post by ravvv
K if you're that dense I'll just carry on then! Yeah it's an issue for that guy because I don't think it's something that really occurs in society and as such it'll be more difficult for him, I thought as a young gent he might want to maximise his chances but I guess he just might not be too bothered about that. No other problem with racial preferences though, was speaking to my missus about it the other day, she's Asian and all her previous boyfriends have been white but now she's with me so it's like whatever.


yh but surely you think it's more important that he dates/sleeps with people he actually is physically attracted to than just anything that is willing to sleep with him?
Original post by ravvv
There's sort of an underlying issue though isn't there in that he doesn't feel attracted to his own race. That for me spells some underlying insecurities from within the individual. You can actually address that and have a more open minded approach in future, which is why I was trying to bust his balls there. Better off in the long term tbh. However, even so, you do sort of have to be pragmatic sometimes and play to your strengths.


-the thing is that you're probably right. But in current society it would be abnormal if he wasn't attracted to white people unless he is from some isolated tribe.

-but yh most people who have very strong racial preferences do have issue in my experience.
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Original post by ravvv
There's sort of an underlying issue though isn't there in that he doesn't feel attracted to his own race. That for me spells some underlying insecurities from within the individual. You can actually address that and have a more open minded approach in future, which is why I was trying to bust his balls there. Better off in the long term tbh. However, even so, you do sort of have to be pragmatic sometimes and play to your strengths.

Pardon? I'm not attracted to my own race but white girls a still humans. Racial preferences aren't much preferences aren't much different to height or hair colour preferences imo. I know most people would date people within their own race but that doesn't mean I should just give up. I'd rather be single than be with someone I'm not physically attractive to just because I could't find anything else. No one likes to be 2nd best & I wouldn't enjoy that either.
Original post by darkxangel
ahh lol i'm, dense so never-mind me.


But why do you think it's an issue that he's got preferences? :colondollar::confused:

it's more than preferences it's like he's rejecting a whole group just because of background. That's quite wrong.
Original post by brownchocolateice
it's more than preferences it's like he's rejecting a whole group just because of background. That's quite wrong.


ohh well i thought it was more that he wasn't physically attracted to them which i find hard to understand since i've got no preferences. but if it's because their brown rather than because he is not sexually attracted to them then yes that is wrong.
dude why don't u like Asian girls I mean seriously they're really good looking and come in all colours and types. Maybe you just having let the right Asian girl. But if ure not attracted it's best to find your type and not lead a poor Asian girl on
Original post by darkxangel
ohh well i thought it was more that he wasn't physically attracted to them which i find hard to understand since i've got no preferences. but if it's because their brown rather than because he is not sexually attracted to them then yes that is wrong.

I guess it could be either but just saying he is not attracted to Asian girls is a bit strange. Many Asian girls look European and they're not a monolithic category so it seems strange to outright say that. I dobt get it not just with guys but girls who only like white or black guys. Dont you think its narrow minded to just reject Asian guys based on that? Whets with u'ls that ppl from diff races and our own seem to reject us
Original post by brownchocolateice
I guess it could be either but just saying he is not attracted to Asian girls is a bit strange. Many Asian girls look European and they're not a monolithic category so it seems strange to outright say that. I dobt get it not just with guys but girls who only like white or black guys. Dont you think its narrow minded to just reject Asian guys based on that? Whets with u'ls that ppl from diff races and our own seem to reject us


i guess so but there are plenty of people who aren't like that like me or you. And it depends on whether there in no physical attraction to begin with or whether it's like they see someone attractive and then they aren't attracted to them, because they are not their preferred race. :rolleyes: ohh and yh like south-asians aren't a proper race so to say, they have "white" features so i guess it;s kind of stupid. ohh and i always thought that it was odd that people like that say that they aren't attracted to non-their preferred race when they reject people rather than you know, erm i don't see you in that way-it's a little stupid and harsh.

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