[Anonymous]

Odd situation really. There's a girl I like who I know for a fact likes me, and wants something to happen between us. We've already got together before but that was only one night about a year ago. But now I know she wants more than that, and so do I.

Difficulty is that we've broken up from uni for summer and I don't know her well enough to have casual chat, and actually I don't want to get too pally yet anyway. We're awkward around eachother because we both know we like eachother and I don't want to change into something more friendly and platonic.

So how do I keep me in her mind over summer without messeging her too much. The odd facebook two liner in a couple months time? Casual invite to somethibg with other friends (even though geographically it is very unlikely she could come to anything)? I know this sounds like playing games but I will be more direct when we get back, just for now keeping the flame alive until then. Any advice or ideas would be great.

[prema32]

Sounds like a pretty annoying situation for the both of you! You don't have to use my advice obviously but this is my opinion: I think to 'keep the flame burning' you should try and talk to her a bit, not loads/every day, but a little more than a two liner in a couple of months! Don't worry - if a girl likes you, when you speak you won't drift into the friendzone - just allow yourselves to get to know each other a little bit and keep it flirty if possible, like her latest picture on facebook and things like that haha. It would be nice if you could meet up at least once, an invite to a get together or maybe meet halfway - go see a band or something...try and do something you both have in common. Good luck

[Scatach]

You're ready for a relationship but can't have a casual chat with her?

[LavenderBlueSky88]

If you've liked each other for over a year already then a few months over summer isn't going to hurt. Act normally (if you used to talk on facebook, carry on) and then when you see each other start to take things to the next level.

[Lucia.]

(Original post by Scatach)
You're ready for a relationship but can't have a casual chat with her?

That's what I was thinking.

I've had casual chats with people I don't know very well. How about if when you see her online, you IM with a simple message asking her how her summer is going? I can't see how you can go wrong there. Honestly, take the risk. If she likes you now, you'll have saved yourself some hassle. You can't always assume that attraction will be there for a while.

[blondyx]

If you both know you like eachother there is nothing weird about messaging her. You would expect there would be alot of conversation..