[Anonymous]

4yrs and counting...for about 2 and a half of those 4yrs he didn't even know I existed! Didn't have the fairytale ending I had hoped and I'm still heartbroken maybe another 4yrs from now I'll be over it...

[Anonymous]

12 years and in about 3 weeks they will know my feelings, fingers crossed big time

[AGumby]

Around 4 months, became friends with her it slowly progressed, we talked all the time and eventually led to me admitting it to her. It went well for a while then we started college and went down hill and then it ended. Only started talking to her again recently which is nice but I still spend time thinking 'what if' but that's probably because I'm not very confident and therefore got attached to someone who showed an interest in me.

[KTCI]

Eight months, though I'm trying to pack it in now that I'm sure that nothing's going to happen and it's getting a bit depressing.

[Anonymous]

Just over 9 years. We used to be friends, but we drifted apart after he went to uni and didn't swim anymore (we met at a club). We since meet up every so often with other friends that used to swim, but it's not the same.
He's naturally flirty anyway so I know he doesn't feel the same. I've kinda accepted that nothing will ever happen between us but I still think about him a fair bit.

[natcho]

(Original post by nosceteipsummm)
I'd say about a few months.

I've learned recently, though, that if someone isn't sure what they want when it comes to relationships, chances are they don't want you.

Know your worth. Act on it.

VERY good point

[kpwxx]

(Original post by Something-Silly)
10 years.
Told him after all my friends eventually "thought" they could tell that he liked me.
I finally confessed to them that I liked him, told him and no
Our once close friendship is over now.
Hurts too much, still trying to move on. (Told him how I felt in Nov)


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Though it feels awful now this is the best thing to happen. Before you would have been clinging, if subconsciously, to the possibility of being together one day. Now you know that's not gonna happen. Yes it hurts a lot more but it will get better with time and now you will be allowed by your mind to move on... one day you'll just realise that you don't like this person as note than a friend any more. So this is going to allow that to happen, and soon it won't hurt any more at all.

Xxx

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[Anonymous]

Uhm...three years? Yes. Three years.

Am I still waiting? Probably subconsciously, the only way I can get her out of my mind is if I pretend she doesn't exist, which makes me sad.

[DANdeLion5]

I waited 2 months to tell him. Which seems like no time at all. And I waited for him for an extra month. He said he likes me back but I guess he doesn't like me enough to do anything about it. So I'm not waiting around for something thats not going to happen - today I'm moving on and not looking back.

[abc101]

(Original post by Anonymous)
3 years. Yep, you have nothing to complain about. Together now though

You give me hope!

A year and a half so far. I have the ability to wait for/chase someone for a very very long time, and the ensuing inability to get over someone, which worries me

[ViceVersa]

1 year iirc

[Sockpirate]

2 years. Still waiting

[Maccabees]

9 months and counting....

[Chumbaniya]

Discounting schoolboy crushes as they can go on a long time without any significance attached to them (so from age 16 onwards) I don't think I've chased anyone for more than a month. I had someone waiting for me for about a year, though, (happens when you're young and too stupid to realise it) and that resulted in a relationship of about 10 months.

[Something-Silly]

(Original post by kpwxx)
Though it feels awful now this is the best thing to happen. Before you would have been clinging, if subconsciously, to the possibility of being together one day. Now you know that's not gonna happen. Yes it hurts a lot more but it will get better with time and now you will be allowed by your mind to move on... one day you'll just realise that you don't like this person as note than a friend any more. So this is going to allow that to happen, and soon it won't hurt any more at all.

Xxx

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Thanks
That's what I'm trying to tell myself and know that's right, I have a good few friends helping me through it.
Just difficult having felt this way and only imagining being with him for so long, lost him as a friend aswell :/
It's like you said though, it's for the best.
Wouldn't recommend anyone waiting that long!


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[tehFrance]

(Original post by tigger01)
What is the longest you have chased someone you like before giving up or getting together? why did you give up/make a move?

I'd say 7 months... I kept making moves on her when we were in the club but she kept rejecting me in the end I gave up but she was never clear on what she wanted until the day I left when we had a heart to heart... that said we are seeing each other when I am back in London

[chocolate buttons]

About 2 years. Gave up. I still hope I see him every time I go to his town, though. Sad.

[Anonymous]

About 11 months, was abosultely crazy about this guy, who didn't feel the same...was really sad about it at the time and thought i'd never get over it, but after a while I woke up one day I woke up and BAM. I was over him Time really is the best healer!

[Lumos]

4 years from the start of year 10 to now. he has had a constant string of girlfriends ever since, one of whom was my best friend. seeing as cruel twists of fate have landed us both in the same uni, looks like I'll be waiting another 3 years before I can get over him. fun times.

[BexiG]

3 years and counting... Met him online spoke on and off during that time... Recently met up about 3 months ago as he worked on a project of mine. Been meeting up regularly and speak often. We flirt now and again and it some times gets deep lol but we both pull away, trying to keep things professional. I do like him a lot but I wouldn't want it to just be about sex. Just slowly getting to know him and see if it goes anywhere...


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