[hopingtobeadentist]

Sex has been hurting me so bad recently, it hurts like burning when it goes in, when it's in and after it. But that's with a condom, without a condom it hurts much less but the same amount of pain occurs after it's finished.

This is the first time it's happened to me and I don't feel any pleasure. And yeah there is a lot foreplay before that so I was definitely in the mood.

But no matter how much foreplay there is, it get's really hard for me to get wet. I've never had to go through this before

[Pitt1988]

Allergic to condoms? Don't know it that's possible or what.

[hopingtobeadentist]

(Original post by Pitt1988)
Allergic to condoms? Don't know it that's possible or what.

It hurts without condoms too

[Lucia.]

Part of sex is psychological. Do you feel like you can relax into it? Also you say there's plenty of foreplay but maybe there still needs to be a bit more...

[Sovix]

Ur hole is tight.

[hopingtobeadentist]

(Original post by Sovix)
Ur hole is tight.

It didn't hurt before, it started recently

[hopingtobeadentist]

(Original post by Lucia.)
Part of sex is psychological. Do you feel like you can relax into it? Also you say there's plenty of foreplay but maybe there still needs to be a bit more...

We've done less foreplay in the past and it felt really good and didn't hurt at all, we tried our best this time and done plenty, but it's not getting moist, it will get moist for a while but when it enters, it will go extremely dry, I don't know why this is happening

[Lucia.]

Try to relax.

[Anonymous]

Op, you should get checked by a doctor. This pain with intercourse is called Dyspareunia
Is there any discharge? Does it feel red and itchy? It could be an infection or inflammation of the vagina. It can happen if the vagina is really dry and needs lubrication.
Sorry if I'm giving too much info I did a project on it and it happens freq and there are a number of causes

Firstly it seems to hurt on entry So it seems to be superficial which can be caused by conditions affecting the vulva. There are lots of treatments available so dont panic but def get checked
Do any particular positions hurt more? Is it itchy? Is it it painful or hard to menstruate how gave your cycles been? is it difficult passing urine or going to poo? Is the pain sharp or tearing? Does it get better with the pill or any topical lubricants? Apparently some oral contraceptives can reduce lubrication .
I'm just a student but I really recommend medical advice there are some training programs you and ur partner can go to which can help.

[hopingtobeadentist]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Op, you should get checked by a doctor. This pain with intercourse is called Dyspareunia
Is there any discharge? Does it feel red and itchy? It could be an infection or inflammation of the vagina. It can happen if the vagina is really dry and needs lubrication.
Sorry if I'm giving too much info I did a project on it and it happens freq and there are a number of causes

Firstly it seems to hurt on entry So it seems to be superficial which can be caused by conditions affecting the vulva. There are lots of treatments available so dont panic but def get checked
Do any particular positions hurt more? Is it itchy? Is it it painful or hard to menstruate how gave your cycles been? is it difficult passing urine or going to poo? Is the pain sharp or tearing? Does it get better with the pill or any topical lubricants? Apparently some oral contraceptives can reduce lubrication .
I'm just a student but I really recommend medical advice there are some training programs you and ur partner can go to which can help.

I really can't go to the doctors at the moment for a number of reasons:
- My doctor is really ****, everytime I go, they say "take paracetomal" that happens everytime, even when I had a vaginal infection - "take paracetomal" it's a joke.
- And secondly, because of my age, I'm really nervous and I don't feel ready. It hurts sometimes when I go to urinate just after sex and it hurts more in the position where I'm the one taking contol (me on top).

[Beige_Angel]

OP, if you feel you can't see your local doctor why not go to your local GUM clinic? It's their job to provide free, confidential sexual healthcare and they're completely independent from your local GP so they wouldn't be involved in your treatment. You can even specifically ask the clinic not to share information with the doctor your're registered to

If you go to a drop in session they'll usually take some swabs there and then and be able to send you an e-mail/text within a few weeks with results in case if is an STI. You'll also be able to ask any questions to do with your sexual health and a decent clinic will have loads of information available to you.

If urination hurts it sounds like it could be a Urinary Tract Infection. These are pretty common and can be fixed easily so a visit to the the clinic is a really good idea.

(Original post by Pitt1988)
Allergic to condoms? Don't know it that's possible or what.

It is for both men and women, people can have latex allergies or reactions to the chemicals in the lubricant on the outside. Although I doubt this is the case for the OP if she hasn't had this reaction before...

[hopingtobeadentist]

(Original post by Beige_Angel)
OP, if you feel you can't see your local doctor why not go to your local GUM clinic? It's their job to provide free, confidential sexual healthcare and they're completely independent from your local GP so they wouldn't be involved in your treatment. You can even specifically ask the clinic not to share information with the doctor your're registered to

If you go to a drop in session they'll usually take some swabs there and then and be able to send you an e-mail/text within a few weeks with results in case if is an STI. You'll also be able to ask any questions to do with your sexual health and a decent clinic will have loads of information available to you.

If urination hurts it sounds like it could be a Urinary Tract Infection. These are pretty common and can be fixed easily so a visit to the the clinic is a really good idea.


It is for both men and women, people can have latex allergies or reactions to the chemicals in the lubricant on the outside. Although I doubt this is the case for the OP if she hasn't had this reaction before...

It hurts without the condom too but yeah I can try that, I just can't speak to other people about it that's why it's hard for me to do that, if only I knew exactly what it was

[RealistVwoli]

Gurl, you're probably doing it wrong! He probably stuck it in your ear! awww! see, i already feel your pain! next time, ask him to put it in the VAGINA! And maybe, if you're feelin rebellious! In THE *******!

[Redheaded_Dancer]

Well it might be that you're not really relaxed enough, do you find it hard to relax during or before sex?
If you're not relaxed during sex your body can tell, which is why it can be hard to get aroused properly and also stops the production of natural lubrication.
It might be that you're not producing enough natural lube and if that's the case there's loads of different types of lube on the market from companies like Durex, they're actually really helpful and a little goes a long way.
I've had this from time to time and it's almost always because I wasn't relaxed enough or was anxious about other things in my life, is there anything stressing you out right now? You might find it useful to talk to your partner/doctor/whoever you want to about anything you're stressed about, which helps lots of things actually as well as making you more relaxed

[hopingtobeadentist]

(Original post by RealistVwoli)
Gurl, you're probably doing it wrong! He probably stuck it in your ear! awww! see, i already feel your pain! next time, ask him to put it in the VAGINA! And maybe, if you're feelin rebellious! In THE *******!

How old are you?

[hopingtobeadentist]

(Original post by DaniStark7)
It's more like psychological as Lucia. mentioned. Have you had a bad FIRST experience?

I don't know what you mean?

[Redheaded_Dancer]

(Original post by hopingtobeadentist)
I don't know what you mean?

They mean what were your other experiences of sex like. If you've had a traumatised or even just uncomfortable past with sexual interaction you might on a subconscious level still be worried about it.

[hopingtobeadentist]

(Original post by Redheaded_Dancer)
They mean what were your other experiences of sex like. If you've had a traumatised or even just uncomfortable past with sexual interaction you might on a subconscious level still be worried about it.

No none yet but I've always feared rape if that may help?
Like to the extreme, I think about it everyday

[Redheaded_Dancer]

(Original post by hopingtobeadentist)
No none yet but I've always feared rape if that may help?
Like to the extreme, I think about it everyday

Ah, this may be why then. If you're worried about things like that then it can be hard to relax for obvious reasons.
Try talking to your boyfriend about it, but it might help you to see your doctor because this seems like something that really bothers you