Guys (and girls...) would you date a 40-year-old woman?

I've met an amazing woman! She's beautiful, funny, intelligent...I could go on! The only problem is, she's 40 and I'm 22.

We've met up a few times and I really don't see her age as an issue, but I know that my family will. She looks and acts so much younger than her age, so I've never felt uncomfortable with the age gap.

She has told me that she'd like to take things further, but only if I'm completely sure about it. A lot of people would have a problem about the circumstances in which we first met, so we need to be careful about it.

Should I go for it?

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Reply 1

Confused20111

Original post by Anonymous

The age gap wouldn't bother me but the bit in bold sounds a bit worrying!

Reply 2

gingerben

cant say it would bother me if we hit it off...in what way did you guys meet?

Reply 3

Scaramouche11

My neighbour's 40 and she's absolutely gorgeous, so the age gap wouldn't put me off! How did you meet? Teacher?

Go for it! YOLO and all that...

Reply 6

R4INBOW

Cougar!!!!

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Reply 7

Bellissima

well if you like her, what's the problem? i wouldn't date a 40 year old woman, but i'm not you. i think you should go for it!

Reply 8

Neimad

Original post by Anonymous

A lot of people would have a problem about the circumstances in which we first met, so we need to be careful about it.

I'm picturing a very cliche porn scenario here...

Reply 9

DudeRugs

The problem is that when you're 30, she will be 48 and you probably wont be physically attracted to her then, and you will still be horny.

Reply 10

Jonese

This has got me thinking! I'm bi and would date a 40-year-old woman, but wouldn't feel comfortable dating a 40-year-old man...

Anyway, I think you should go for it! (Although I'm curious about how you met!)

Reply 11

tehFrance

Original post by Anonymous

I've met an amazing woman! She's beautiful, funny, intelligent...I could go on! The only problem is, she's 40 and I'm 22.

Is she good looking? the oldest I have been with was 36... I normally draw the line at 35 but if the woman is beautiful and looks younger then why not? :smile:

Reply 12

King Kebab

Yeah, if you like her, I don't see why not.

Reply 13

MancBoy

I got to be honest with you mate. I've been out with an older woman and trust me it doesn't end well. In my case she became needy, jealous of younger girls, dependant etc. She was also considering taking things even further i.e marriage...and I just couldn't see it happening. Don't do it. It will be a waste of both of yours time.

Reply 14

The Puppet Master

Is she was fit, then hell yes.

:sexface:

Pics?

I'm in a relationship with a 41 year old (18 year age gap). In the past, I have been involved with a 44 year old (26 year age gap).

Whether it works depends on the people and the circumstances, like all relationships. If one of you is bouncy and reckless, and the other is looking for a quiet life, it might not work. If one of you wants kids NOW, and the other isn't interested, it might not work. If one works a lot and needs to be away for long periods f time, and the other wants a cost family life with lots of time together, it might not work.

A lot of people have a prejudice about 'large' age gaps. Why? Sometimes it's a fear of an older predator looking for someone naive and vulnerable, or perhaps a young gold-digger looking for someone desperate/frail/vulnerable. Sometimes it's because people are wary of insurmountable differences and believe that is linked to age. Different 'life stages' and all that. Some people don't like the aging process and can't understand why you wouldn't settle for youth and youthful beauty. In reality, it takes all sorts.

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Reply 17

Grey_Fox

^ This.

C'mon OP - what gives - teacher/student?

Reply 18

Alpharius

Original post by Anonymous

If I'm being honest OP, for the majority of the post, I was just thinking "Cougar time! :sexface:

"

Then I saw the bolded. Care to elaborate, because at the moment I get the impression she's a prostitute/escort, or you met through a porn shoot.

Otherwise, if its what you want, and you'll be happy, **** the haters. Have fun, but expect some looks from strangers who initially think she's your mother.