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Guys (and girls...) would you date a 40-year-old woman?

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've met an amazing woman! She's beautiful, funny, intelligent...I could go on! The only problem is, she's 40 and I'm 22.

    We've met up a few times and I really don't see her age as an issue, but I know that my family will. She looks and acts so much younger than her age, so I've never felt uncomfortable with the age gap.

    She has told me that she'd like to take things further, but only if I'm completely sure about it. A lot of people would have a problem about the circumstances in which we first met, so we need to be careful about it.

    Should I go for it?
    Your dating her - your family is not

    if you like her then go for it
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    Haha, no, she's definitely not a prostitute! She used to be my teacher. She taught me for 2 years (GCSE). I left school 6 years ago, but I'm worried that people won't approve. She still works at my old school, so most of her colleagues will know that I used to be a student there. I don't want to ruin her reputation, as she's brilliant at her job. If we'd just met in a club, I'd definitely go for it!
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    I wrote a really long post and it hasn't come up but, basically....

    She used to be my teacher (at GCSE level).
    I left school 6 years ago.
    She still works at my old school, so most of her colleagues will know that I used be a pupil there.
    She's brilliant at her job, so I don't want to ruin her reputation.
    When I was at uni, one of my housemates was her cousin and so I started chatting to her at his 21st (hadn't really seen her since I left school).
    Exchanged messages (innocently) on Facebook and then met up for a drink, with no romantic intentions.
    We got on really well and have met up quite a bit since.
    We haven't had sex as we don't want to get to involved if we're not going to make a go of it (we don't want people to find out about us if we're not really going anywhere).

    I guess I'm just looking for reassurance
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've met an amazing woman! She's beautiful, funny, intelligent...I could go on! The only problem is, she's 40 and I'm 22.

    We've met up a few times and I really don't see her age as an issue, but I know that my family will. She looks and acts so much younger than her age, so I've never felt uncomfortable with the age gap.

    She has told me that she'd like to take things further, but only if I'm completely sure about it. A lot of people would have a problem about the circumstances in which we first met, so we need to be careful about it.

    Should I go for it?
    Age is just a number so why not?

    The only problem is a young man like yourself will want different things out of life at the moment. You don't really want to settle down agt 22 do you.

    Most 40 year olds want a calm, secure and steady life. Past 30 women often talk babies too (be warned)

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I wrote a really long post and it hasn't come up but, basically....

    She used to be my teacher (at GCSE level).
    I left school 6 years ago.
    She still works at my old school, so most of her colleagues will know that I used be a pupil there.
    She's brilliant at her job, so I don't want to ruin her reputation.
    When I was at uni, one of my housemates was her cousin and so I started chatting to her at his 21st (hadn't really seen her since I left school).
    Exchanged messages (innocently) on Facebook and then met up for a drink, with no romantic intentions.
    We got on really well and have met up quite a bit since.
    We haven't had sex as we don't want to get to involved if we're not going to make a go of it (we don't want people to find out about us if we're not really going anywhere).

    I guess I'm just looking for reassurance
    As I am in the field myself (working with young people) I can say go for it. You're a man now. If I seen a young person I used to work with at 15 but I seen him in a pub at 21 i'd have no problem with him wanting to buy me a drink. He's legal and a grown man who can make his own decisions (not limited by parental responsibility)

    If you want to bang a 40 year iold i'm not stopping you.
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    Nope i wouldn't ! doesnt sound right tbh and wouldn't end well either!

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