Why do people hate short guys?

Up to you - but at least you opinion didn't include something obnoxious as I've had thrown in my fact earlier this week

No no, I would never be obnoxious to any guy shorter than myself, that's just plain rude - it's just matter of preference for me really. I certainly don't hate shorter guys though.

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I realise that it wasn't the OP's intention when he made this thread...but all of these women trying to explain what they want should probably be ignored completely, lest we become as confused as they seem to be.

On a more relevant note OP - most people walk around with below par body language and don't make the most of their height with good posture. With regards to women - it's always seemed to me that they only look tall when they're wearing high heels (even if, technically - they are 5ft 9+) and this is probably because of the posture thing. Or perhaps it's that tall girls sometimes feel self-conscious about it and slouch a little.

With the height thing in general I never really notice. The only time I've ever found height to be an issue (if you can call it that) is in certain sports I've played (football, basketball) where height can be an advantage.

If it makes you feel any better OP - I reckon most men would say yes to a couple of extra inches.

It isn't an issue for me personally, it's an issue for others, but I am constantly compounded by their issues with me being short. The countless times I've heard "too bad he's short" or "he's perfect but he's short" really just digs into me.

Now, would I want some more inches? I am not sure - it's made me who I am, an extremely caring, loving person who is passionate about what he does, always doing things to the best of his ability and is constantly attracted to challenges. I just feel as if there's a general disdain for short people, especially short men. Personally, I've already accepted that most of the female population is inaccessible to me automatically, based on my experiences.

Op, ignore the fights and comments. It wont change anything you are who you are so be happy

As for girls liking taller guys is it because of what other people may/would think if you went out with someone shorter or the same height?

Well it digs into you because it's intended to. Women often say things to you that might damage your ego in order to test your reaction. If you look the slightest bit disappointed/upset/angry or get defensive then you "lose".

The annoying thing is even women you're not even trying to get will also do it.

OP from the other thread we are not far off being tall people :P

Why is it getting to you?

i know im sort but it really doesnt bother me except certain exercises at the gym haha

hate is a pretty strong word... it's not like people sit in their room plotting attacks on short people...


but OP from experience, height isn't a huge deal... i liked this guy who was 5"6ish.. i think? then again i am shorter than that...


ALSO, tom cruise.. a shortie, a guy with a bad personality... and kind of unattractive... manages to get some really nice women... then again he is rich and famous.


at the end of the day, unless you are willing to go through getting your legs snapped in half and a splint added into the bone... so you can gain like 1 inch... then there isn't much you can do... instead of wallowing in self pity and insecurity about this one tiny aspect (tiny not intended) of yourself... you should be out there being happy with yourself... because that lack of confidence will set you back SO MUCH MORE than your height. there are worse things people have to deal with appearance wise.

The only reason I use hate is because I've actually seen that word use pretty strongly by girls, somewhat vehemently and aggressively.

I think with a lot of smart girls, it won't matter, except, finding you smart girls is actually the most difficult thing here in America - not that I'm looking for girls - but it's the general comments I get from people whom I'm not even looking for a relationship with (I'm already in one). When I actually told some of my peers that I could be sensitive about my height - they were actually shocked - I don't actively display any indication - I'm not really good at expressing my emotions - they thought that I was the most comfortable person that they've ever met - to an extent I am - I am comfortable with all people in all settings, but directly attacking my height THEN adding something in reference to my masculinity is a complete NONO.

With regards to Tom Cruise - one thing he brings is status - and that's what girls are after - people associate taller men with more status: power, authority and natural leadership. When I display the same, I am often labelled as having a complex - I choose to ignore what these people say, but it only goes so far because I can't completely ignore it. Whilst I don't seen validation, their input about me does feed into my self evaluation.

On the topic of limb lengthening, someone has to be really desperate to do that - I couldn't and wouldn't. Not to mention, it'd severely affect my ability to do the job that I love and am training to do. Confidence can only take you so far.

thing is, if this percieved disadvantage is true... and i will be honest and say it probably is with some girls albeit subconsciously... so what? you cannot do anything to change that. you should not really need to. everyone has SOMETHING that limits them to some extent with the opposite gender (or same depending on your orientation)... not everyone is going to be everyone elses cup of tea.. so instead of worrying on those people who might not find you attractive for one reason or another, concentrate on finding those who will or those who don't mind as much... it might seem hard but you have a girlfriend right? so it can't be that hard... i think you're imagining the situation... i have a friend he is like 5"7, i think that counts as short for a guy... he is actually probably nearer to 5"6... anyway he's the sleep around type, and he manages it very well with good looking girls (i.e. not "easy" chavvy girls)... he is very confident (well puts on a front i think he is actually quite insecure and cares a lot about what others think hence the manwhoring) and aside from being good looking the cofidence is probably, no, definitely, the thing that gets him what he is looking for. i think he could quite easily be in a relationship.

For a girl, it's acceptable for her to be short.

For a guy it's not. It's already bad not being in demand, and thus, unattractive to most girls out there, physically, but some women/girls go as far as to validate their comments with absurd points, such as:



It's bad enough that way, but I've honestly had many taller men trying to start a fight with me - I don't want to fight.

It's not as if taller men were better protectors and/or hunters in the Neanderthal and previous era: men were stocky and shorter due to adaptations to the local environment, and being tall certainly wasn't an advantage as such in hunting or protecting.

I am a very short young man, so my dating options are VERY limited. Some people telling me to find someone shorter than me - yeah, I don't see many women or girls short than me at all. I get that everyone has their preferences, but don't tell me that I'm less capable than someone else due to something that I can't control. In fact, these preferences are actually requirements. I'm as good as a protector than someone who's very tall. Women seem to absolutely hate short men, or even the idea of men. One woman even said that all short men should be rounded up and shot. Women hate being seen as attractive to short men, it's a complete "turn off". Don't even think that being confident that significantly impact things either - it really doesn't at my stage, at least. Saying that "the right person will come along eventually" doesn't even help either; most, and the majority will discriminate and filter out based on initial impressions (physical).

There's also a double standard when it comes to behaviour. A shorter man is seen as having a complex if he pursues or chases something (not necessarily aggressively), but for a taller person, it is seen as acceptable or even desirable. Why is this? I don't understand why I need to "make up" for my height. Does being taller make me any better? I wouldn't think so.

One girl even said this "Short guys should serve a year in pen for every inch they are under 5'9.". Gee, that's pretty much half of the male population in North. America.

I really don't understand this. It's acceptable to discriminate on the basis of height, but not on something, let's just say, weight.

This is coming from a man that stands 5ft3, firstly people are dicriminated on the basis of wieght! Infact you could turn the tables and say its more acceptable for a man to be fat than it is for a women because of the pressure put on women to be sexy etc in western culture. That means that people always have perceived disadvantages in life be it weight heigh looks etc. This is what your saying isent it? Youre at a disadvantage because of your hight, this might sound cheesy pal but wther or not your at a disadvantage depends largely on you and how you go through life and interact with people. Yes being short might make it harder to find a gf etc but like you said everybody has their prefrences, think of it this way, men largely prefer women with big boobs, does that mean any lady who hasent have big boobs is gonna be single for the rest of their lives? of course not! One peice of advise i want to give because we are somewhat in the same boat in terms of being short is..innteract with as many people as you can! You will realise people(in general) are always gonna find perceived imperfections in other people and thats life my friend. When you dont let your self be affected in anyway by peoples negative opinons and behaviours on your perceived imperfection(for exp your hight), thats when you will find it much easier to live life without wasting energy and though on what people think about you because of your height! There was somebody in my school who was my hight and DID have napolean syndrome/shortmansyndrome and he was really hardworking but i personally did not like being around him so i think its a really sad 'syndrome' for short men to have. Btw i know that just being short and 'strongly persuing things' are always linked to the short guy having 'shortman syndrom' which is stupid because anyone can 'strongly persue' things but remember this is just someone elses opinion not your but The important thing to remember is people come in all different shapes and sizes period and theres probaly things that you have that some people would love to have

Talking of Tom Cruise, has anyone else seen the Twittosphere exploding with comments relating to his height, based on what his soon to be ex said?

Op i had posted a complimentary comment about why I prefer shorter guys to me and u didn't even see or quote it could it be that in real life you overlook the positive comments and focus on the negative discriminatory ones?

What if a girl who is slightly taller then u but likes you...

What if she hesitates to approach u due to fear of what your reaction will be.

I think shorter guys are way hotter. No decent girl will knock back a shorter guy if he is compatible to her and it's true love.
Think about all the innovative positions one could try.

in the dark everyone is the same height
shorter guys ive heard also make better partners ANC are more giving in more ways than one