[Anonymous]

I met my friends new friend a few weeks ago and he was really nice to me, he has quite a warped sense of humour and offends people a lot but people are just used to it. When we met he was quite friendly and chatty and he offered to buy me drinks, walk me home etc (my friends went clubbing and I didn't fancy it so I was left in a bar with him and a few others) I declined his offers anyway and got a taxi home, but I thought he was a pretty decent guy.

After going out with him a few more times (with friends), I thought he was pretty immature, he calls girls horrible names and thinks it's funny, but he didn't say anything to offend me too much.

Anyway, last week my friend wanted to pick him up from somewhere, so she asked me to tag along. He was very drunk and with his other friends. They all got into the back seat and I was in the front. (I forgot to add - I was in an accident when I was little so I have an injury, it's not always noticeable to people so he probably didn't know when we first met, but now he does.)
So him now knowing about my injury, he started shouting horrible things at me whilst my friend was trying to drive, then he started throwing things at me and shaking the car seat I was sitting on, then he started hitting me on the head and when I turned around to ask him to stop, he slapped me around the face. (Not very hard, but it still upset me!)

His friends seemed to be pretty shocked about him doing all this, so he started telling them that because of my injury (which is a physical injury!) That I have downs syndrome, mental problems etc (I don't have any mental problems.)

My friend who was driving seemed to be speechless by the time she dropped me home, but didn't say anything (probably to not upset me) and she hasn't met him since (I don't think she has anyway).

I saw him last night and he started shouting abuse at me again (he's 22 btw!!) I actually expected an apology, but obviously not. I just don't know what to do anymore, I really don't want to go out anymore in the evenings incase he is around, all he wants to do is humiliate me! I've never hit someone before but I just want to punch him in his smug face, he makes me so angry.

Also, he upset one of my friends once by calling her a nasty name and he was full of apologies and even sent flowers to her. I wasn't expecting this, but I thought I'd get an apology not more abuse!

Any ideas on what I should do about him?

[Alpharius]

If I were you, it'd suck to be him.

I insult pretty much everyone, but I don't go that far.

Absolute ****. Kick him square in the nuts next time.

No, I'm not being sarcastic.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Alpharius)
If I were you, it'd suck to be him.

I insult pretty much everyone, but I don't go that far.

Absolute ****. Kick him square in the nuts next time.

No, I'm not being sarcastic.

I seriously want to and i've never felt i've wanted to hit someone before! I'm just worried about going out again and seeing him incase I end up doing something like that as he's obviously not embarrassed to be seen hitting me!
Seriously i'm the last person he should be slapping around, he must be over 6ft and he's pretty overweight whereas i'm very petite, I just don't want to do something stupid and him ending up beating the **** out of me.

[Michaelj]

Kick him in the balls.

[Shomberlon]

I agree, warn him once to stop, if he carries on walk straight up to him an knee him in the nuts.
He won't know what hit him and you can bet he won't do it again (whiles he on the floor I'd tell him if he does it again to you or any of your friends you'd do it again and again)
Normally I wouldn't condone violence especially attacking that area but I really don't think anything else get the message to him.


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[Anonymous]

Just avoid him at all costs, but don't stop going to the places you love - if you end up being in the same area and he starts shouting things at you, just ignore it. I had to do this once, it really hurt in the beginning, but after a couple of weeks he couldn't be bothered with me anymore as he got no reaction out of me. But, then there's the people who won't stop at all... The only piece of advice I could give on that is to take it to the police, but I've never been in that situation, so.

[Cherriesxo]

Wow what's his problem? I'd stay the hell away from him if I were you.
I agree with what you said earlier, don't hit him. He has hit you before in front of others, imagine how quickly he could hurt you if you were on your own with him. Don't!

[Lovefoxxx_93]

What a ****!

I think after that quite a few people won't be too keen on spending time with him.

[Cattty]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I met my friends new friend a few weeks ago and he was really nice to me, he has quite a warped sense of humour and offends people a lot but people are just used to it. When we met he was quite friendly and chatty and he offered to buy me drinks, walk me home etc (my friends went clubbing and I didn't fancy it so I was left in a bar with him and a few others) I declined his offers anyway and got a taxi home, but I thought he was a pretty decent guy.

After going out with him a few more times (with friends), I thought he was pretty immature, he calls girls horrible names and thinks it's funny, but he didn't say anything to offend me too much.

Anyway, last week my friend wanted to pick him up from somewhere, so she asked me to tag along. He was very drunk and with his other friends. They all got into the back seat and I was in the front. (I forgot to add - I was in an accident when I was little so I have an injury, it's not always noticeable to people so he probably didn't know when we first met, but now he does.)
So him now knowing about my injury, he started shouting horrible things at me whilst my friend was trying to drive, then he started throwing things at me and shaking the car seat I was sitting on, then he started hitting me on the head and when I turned around to ask him to stop, he slapped me around the face. (Not very hard, but it still upset me!)

His friends seemed to be pretty shocked about him doing all this, so he started telling them that because of my injury (which is a physical injury!) That I have downs syndrome, mental problems etc (I don't have any mental problems.)

My friend who was driving seemed to be speechless by the time she dropped me home, but didn't say anything (probably to not upset me) and she hasn't met him since (I don't think she has anyway).

I saw him last night and he started shouting abuse at me again (he's 22 btw!!) I actually expected an apology, but obviously not. I just don't know what to do anymore, I really don't want to go out anymore in the evenings incase he is around, all he wants to do is humiliate me! I've never hit someone before but I just want to punch him in his smug face, he makes me so angry.

Also, he upset one of my friends once by calling her a nasty name and he was full of apologies and even sent flowers to her. I wasn't expecting this, but I thought I'd get an apology not more abuse!

Any ideas on what I should do about him?

what a prick- if hes harrassing u go to the police. if he physically hurts you again either knee him in the balls or if you can kick the inside of his kneecap outwards- then he will have an injury (which u can bully him about lol)

[gtfcmariner]

I wouldn't resort to violence, you don't want to end up in a Police cell facing an assault charge...


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[Anonymous]

Thanks so much for the advice everyone!

What I'm thinking of doing anyway is... a guy i've been meeting up with for a while is back from the army now and has asked me to go out for a drink with him, I was going to anyway as I quite like him, but I might suggest we go to the place that that dickhead always goes to, so hopefully he'll see me as more "normal" as i'd be with a nice looking guy and not mess with me any more because the guy i'm going out with is pretty big.

I'm not using this guy or anything, we've had this planned for ages and i'm not going to tell him about the bullying, but hopefully that guy might think twice about saying things/doing things to me.
Good idea?

[M4LLY]

I'd say just avoid this guy at all costs

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Thanks so much for the advice everyone!

What I'm thinking of doing anyway is... a guy i've been meeting up with for a while is back from the army now and has asked me to go out for a drink with him, I was going to anyway as I quite like him, but I might suggest we go to the place that that dickhead always goes to, so hopefully he'll see me as more "normal" as i'd be with a nice looking guy and not mess with me any more because the guy i'm going out with is pretty big.

I'm not using this guy or anything, we've had this planned for ages and i'm not going to tell him about the bullying, but hopefully that guy might think twice about saying things/doing things to me.
Good idea?

Don't provoke the fool. That's just immature and you'll become a fool as well.

[Darth Stewie]

You could do the sesame street "just ignore him and he will go away"

Or you make up for all the beatings his parents failed to administer which resulted in him becoming such a prick.

[Drunk Punx]

Deck him. I'm sure your friend will understand the situation: the guy was being a dick, so you hit him

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Don't provoke the fool. That's just immature and you'll become a fool as well.

Is it really that immature though? I didn't mean I'd be in his face all night, I just want him to notice that it isn't an issue with most people and if he does these things that I have someone who could stand up for me.
It's surely better than slapping him in the face which i've been tempted to do.

I mean i'm going to bump into him quite a bit if i'm gonna have any kind of a social life, so it just seemed to be a good idea, I'm not going to tell the guy i'm going for a drink with anything about what happened at all. I just don't know what to do now, if you really think it's a bad idea, i'll definitely reconsider and go somewhere else, but I suppose there's every chance he could go there too, it's just more likely he'd be in the place I was thinking of.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Is it really that immature though? I didn't mean I'd be in his face all night, I just want him to notice that it isn't an issue with most people and if he does these things that I have someone who could stand up for me.
It's surely better than slapping him in the face which i've been tempted to do.

I mean i'm going to bump into him quite a bit if i'm gonna have any kind of a social life, so it just seemed to be a good idea, I'm not going to tell the guy i'm going for a drink with anything about what happened at all. I just don't know what to do now, if you really think it's a bad idea, i'll definitely reconsider and go somewhere else, but I suppose there's every chance he could go there too, it's just more likely he'd be in the place I was thinking of.

I have a feeling that people like him will get really provoked by it just if you were there. You don't want to start any **** - let it cool down for a while. Your idea is rather immature, believe me. Why do you want to throw petrol in the fire?

[Kabloomybuzz]

If any of the places you both go to have security, get them involved, or just tell the staff and get him kicked out... keep doing it if you have to. It may get him barred, it may show him that people just won't tolerate such behaviour.

If you have to, get the police involved.

[converselove]

I think it's a bad idea. Because if the guy starts with the immature **** again, the guy you're with will get wrapped up in it too. Just go to a different place and try to ignore him.

[bhogs001]

Is his name hawespie?