[Anonymous]

(Original post by Simplicity)
You are not ****ing Olivia Wilde, stop caking yourself with makeup. Also, please don't listen to girl advice. They think stupid stuff like men want stick thin models.

Anyway, what the hell do you wear? Also, what is your weight and height.

I'm quite shocked at the negativity against makeup

I'm 5'5" and weigh 8.5 stone. I like to dress quite fashionably, in short dresses, skirts, t-shirts, tops, etc. I like to shop at places like TopShop, Forever 21, H&M and New Look.

[Simplicity]

(Original post by SuperCat007)
So if you want to wear the make up for yourself then go for it, but obviously it isn't doing you all the favours you think it is. Although I'd say that your attitude isn't helping either. Please don't spend too much time stressing over this, it will happen. You can't force these things. I am sure you are beautiful with or without make up, you just don't feel comfortable without it. Have you talked to your friends about the way you look without it?

Also do you really need the compliments? Surely it is better to do it for you, not for the way other people perceive you.

Maybe I've got it all backwards. But I know I am perfectly happy being who I am and have been since I accepted that I am me and if people don't like it then that's their problem and not mine.

Not to contradict you, but I think OPs biggest problem is shyness. If she doesn't fix that she is going to be forever alone or has to resort to internet dating that probably won't work out as she have to meet the person.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by SuperCat007)
So if you want to wear the make up for yourself then go for it, but obviously it isn't doing you all the favours you think it is. Although I'd say that your attitude isn't helping either. Please don't spend too much time stressing over this, it will happen. You can't force these things. I am sure you are beautiful with or without make up, you just don't feel comfortable without it. Have you talked to your friends about the way you look without it?

Also do you really need the compliments? Surely it is better to do it for you, not for the way other people perceive you.

Maybe I've got it all backwards. But I know I am perfectly happy being who I am and have been since I accepted that I am me and if people don't like it then that's their problem and not mine.

I don't really wear the makeup for the compliments, it's mainly for me, honest. I do it because I like it, makes me look a bit prettier, helps to cover my flaws and also a way of expressing myself as I'm artistic.

(Original post by Simplicity)
To be fair, caking yourself in makeup is going to put off a lot of guys.

If I see a girl dressed up and done up doing shopping it just makes me feel like that girl is judgemental or shallow or thinks they are better than everyone.

Just look normal.

What's the big deal. Goths and emos and people like that wear lots of makeup, so why can't I in my own way if I want to express myself?

When I was younger I didn't wear much makeup but I still couldn't get guys, so I don't see what much difference it makes.

[SuperCat007]

(Original post by Simplicity)
To be fair, caking yourself in makeup is going to put off a lot of guys.

If I see a girl dressed up and done up doing shopping it just makes me feel like that girl is judgemental or shallow or thinks they are better than everyone.

Just look normal.

I wish there was a like button. SO many guys say this about me, I don't wear a lot of make up and many men tell me it is refreshing to see a girl who is confident to be herself!

Also what you so eloquently and concisely wrote is what I have been trying to tell the OP most afternoon! (I do have a life usually, but I have a big essay deadline coming up and there is some MAJOR procrastination going on!)

[Simplicity]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm quite shocked at the negativity against makeup

I'm 5'5" and weigh 8.5 stone. I like to dress quite fashionably, in short dresses, skirts, t-shirts, tops, etc. I like to shop at places like TopShop, Forever 21, H&M and New Look.

You really have to post a pic of yourself.

Particularly wearing makeup.

But, you come across as incredibly shallow for someone who claims they are ugly. Which, will add to the problem as people who have the confidence to go up to someone who is caked in makeup who dresses up everyday for nothing is going to go for someone prettier or better personality.

But, can't tell as you haven't posted pictures. Either way I doubt it's your face that is the problem it's probably your personality.

[SuperCat007]

(Original post by Simplicity)
Not to contradict you, but I think OPs biggest problem is shyness. If she doesn't fix that she is going to be forever alone or has to resort to internet dating that probably won't work out as she have to meet the person.

I agree with you. I think she has confidence issues which can't be solved by getting a boyfriend. I think she needs to grow in confidence and accept who she is and THEN tackle the boyfriend thing. I'm probably contradicting myself by now, I'm not going to post on here any more because I feel like whatever I say the OP won't agree or consider, there is an excuse or reason for everything.

I just really don't want you (OP) to spend so much time stressing over something which in time will seem really trivial! I feel for you and have gone through similar things and I am trying to explain that it is nothing to do with your looks, but more to do with your inner issues that other people are picking up on and then avoiding.

[SuperCat007]

(Original post by Simplicity)
You really have to post a pic of yourself.

Particularly wearing makeup.

But, you come across as incredibly shallow for someone who claims they are ugly. Which, will add to the problem as people who have the confidence to go up to someone who is caked in makeup who dresses up everyday for nothing is going to go for someone prettier or better personality.

But, can't tell as you haven't posted pictures. Either way I doubt it's your face that is the problem it's probably your personality.

Bit harsh, not really necessary.

[Simplicity]

(Original post by SuperCat007)
Bit harsh, not really necessary.

I suppose, but I think it's the truth. She's to worried about looks. Men can look past looks for personality and stuff like great sex in a relationship. However, she seems incredibly shy and insecure hence needing girls to compliment her.

That is why she is single. Not because she is ugly. Unless she sorts this out she will be single forever.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Simplicity)
You really have to post a pic of yourself.

Particularly wearing makeup.

But, you come across as incredibly shallow for someone who claims they are ugly. Which, will add to the problem as people who have the confidence to go up to someone who is caked in makeup who dresses up everyday for nothing is going to go for someone prettier or better personality.

But, can't tell as you haven't posted pictures. Either way I doubt it's your face that is the problem it's probably your personality.

Sorry I'd rather not post pictures because people I know use this site and would recognise me.

How am I being shallow? Isn't being shallow when you're nasty to people about how they look, and only treat better looking people better?


Also, honestly which looks better?

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[Simplicity]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Sorry I'd rather not post pictures because people I know use this site and would recognise me.

How am I being shallow? Isn't being shallow when you're nasty to people about how they look, and only treat better looking people better?


Also, honestly which looks better?

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You can PM. I won't post it on here. Or maybe PM someone you trust on here, but you need advice on your looks who isn't your friends or girls.

You suffer from the same shallowness as everyone else. You don't need to look perfect. It just screams you are better than everyone.

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[rei dos reis]

just don't turn promiscous, or dress promiscuously and respect yourself, eventually you will find someone.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Simplicity)
You can PM. I won't post it on here. Or maybe PM someone you trust on here, but you need advice on your looks who isn't your friends or girls.

You suffer from the same shallowness as everyone else. You don't need to look perfect. It just screams you are better than everyone.

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I was asking which looks better out of http://www.moviespad.com/photos/lady...over-8eb0e.jpg and http://hitmoov.com/wp-content/upload...-makeup-i7.jpg

But never mind, I've given up all hope of ever having a relationship now. Everything I do is just wrong so why bother?

[SuperCat007]

(Original post by Anonymous)
But never mind, I've given up all hope of ever having a relationship now. Everything I do is just wrong so why bother?

Honestly... Proper teenage tantrum! It WILL happen! BUT the more you try to force it, the further you will get from it. I and lots of others have already said you need to learn to love being you before you can expect someone else to love you. Having a boyfriend will not solve your confidence issues, I'll almost guarantee it'll make them worse when you break up.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by SuperCat007)
Honestly... Proper teenage tantrum! It WILL happen! BUT the more you try to force it, the further you will get from it. I and lots of others have already said you need to learn to love being you before you can expect someone else to love you. Having a boyfriend will not solve your confidence issues, I'll almost guarantee it'll make them worse when you break up.

Sorry for annoying and amusing you. I suffer from clinical depression and have been having a hard time with all the disappointments in my life.

[SuperCat007]

Just remember you're only 20. It's not the end of the world, most people don't find 'the man' until they're in their 30's. I really want to help you because I have been through so many things and learnt so much and felt just as you do. But as I and others have mentioned you seem to disagree with everyone else's suggestions and don't seem to take on board the fact that having a boyfriend, as important as it may seem right now, WILL NOT CURE YOUR PROBLEMS. Only you can help yourself, but if you are not willing to do that then nobody else can. Life is tough, but we need to try to stay happy and confident otherwise all the sh*t just piles on top of us as we can't cope.

[BowzerEdwards]

Whilst it's human nature to want to be/look perfect, you don't need to.

I can think of many people, both celebrity and from my own life whose face isn't what may be considered 'perfect' (i.e - lads who haven't got a strong jaw, flawless skin, symmetrical face etc.) yet are happily in relationships with people who I would certainly deem good looking (for all that's worth!)

It - in my opinion - is about being confident in your body and knowing you're style and what you're about. Express your best features for example, find a style which suits you.

From personal experience I know lots of girls who I would consider attractive, despite the fact almost all of them believe they could look better/have a feature they dislike. A bit of sass/confidence and a nice style goes a long way.