[Anonymous]

Every time I go on Facebook/Twitter and see a girl with a gorgeous display picture I feel sick, depressed and insecure. I always compare myself to them, and analyse every feature they have.

I then look at myself in the mirror, and want to cry.

I know loads of other girls feel insecure too, but I have low self-esteem because I'm *really* ugly and have no potential whatsoever to look attractive.

I really don't know what to do, how do I stop myself from feeling like this?

[jblackmoustache]

Delete your Facebook or make sure you personalise that Newsfeeds page. I know the sort of display pictures. Black and white and with all these computer effects. There's also those club pictures taken by people and the pics taken by promoters with fish eye lens that I can't stand that make boobs looks bigger than they are. Attention whores. They have about 30 likes on the pic. I usually just unsubscribe from their updates so I can forget they exist.


I bet you are beautiful

[Classical Liberal]

Facebook is about the worst creation of mankind thus far.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by jblackmoustache)
Delete your Facebook.


I know the sort of display pictures. Black and white and with all these computer effects. Attention whores. They have about 30 likes on the pic.

I usually just unsubscribe from their updates so I can forget they exist.#


I bet you are beautiful

Thanks, but you really need to see some of the girls I've seen online.

They look like they could pass off as models.

[PoppyBow]

Everyone feels like this at some point in their life. I do sometimes; especially on Facebook - it seems to be a website which girls have an unofficial fight to appear the most desirable!
Just remember - they might be attractive, and you might look different - but that doesn't mean you are not attractive too! Everyone has different features; and each person has their own beauty. Don't worry about how others look; just concentrate on yourself and being the best you can be.

[Classical Liberal]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Thanks, but you really need to see some of the girls I've seen online.

They look like they could pass off as models.

You must have some very attractive friends. Don't worry.

What I reccomend you do is that you go outside and look at some real people, that will hopefully give you a good sense of reality.

The people who post loads of pictures of facebook are usually good looking, thus if you start looking at pictures on facebook you will start to get a bias of thinking that everyone is great.

The cure to this problem can be twitter. For some reason people seem to be really depressive and downbeat on twitter. Whilt on facebook people behave like they have the most awesome life ever.

[jblackmoustache]

(Original post by Classical Liberal)
You must have some very attractive friends. Don't worry.

What I reccomend you do is that you go outside and look at some real people, that will hopefully give you a good sense of reality.

The people who post loads of pictures of facebook are usually good looking, thus if you start looking at pictures on facebook you will start to get a bias of thinking that everyone is great.

The cure to this problem can be twitter. For some reason people seem to be really depressive and downbeat on twitter. Whilt on facebook people behave like they have the most awesome life ever.

Hahaha I never noticed!

Facebook = Look at me and the awesome booze filled, party crazy life I live

Twitter = Life sucks. I'm skint, can't afford to go out and nobody loves me but hey... i'm friends with loads of celebrities

Tumblr = Look at how pretentious I am and how intelligent and how much of a sexy geek I am. Look in awe at my collection of effects heavy trendy photos

[Also Known As]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Every time I go on Facebook/Twitter and see a girl with a gorgeous display picture I feel sick, depressed and insecure. I always compare myself to them, and analyse every feature they have.

Like the above posters say, just avoid looking at these pics if they depress you or make you feel bad about yourself. Honestly, somebody will always be prettier smarter, richer, or whatever than you, just focus on being the best you can be.

Also, please don't forget about the wonders of Photoshop.

[smartieslover]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Every time I go on Facebook/Twitter and see a girl with a gorgeous display picture I feel sick, depressed and insecure. I always compare myself to them, and analyse every feature they have.

I then look at myself in the mirror, and want to cry.

I know loads of other girls feel insecure too, but I have low self-esteem because I'm *really* ugly and have no potential whatsoever to look attractive.

I really don't know what to do, how do I stop myself from feeling like this?

Hey lovely,
You really dont need to feel down because I'm pretty sure you're actually beautiful. Stop searching for the imaginary imperfections and start noticing the beautiful features you actually have.
Sometimes I look at myself and think "urgh, why couldn't I be..." but then watching tv documentaries on body disabilities etc, makes me realise how blessed I am to even be able to walk. ( I'm not mocking people with disabilities I'm just appreciating what I have ) ! Just remember your lucky for all you have .

BTW you'd be shocked at how much a camera can lie. AHA! Sometimes I laugh at the guys that hit on some of the girls at my college online, cos these girls don't look remotely like their pictures! So really and truly half the pictures you're seeing aren't even of genuinely pretty girls

YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL

[Kage]

If you compare yourself with anyone, you seriously shouldn't.

You are you, and that is something they cannot be. I bet you aren't the sort of girl that would simply pose for pictures in a mirror anyway.

If your problem with yourself is something you think you can change (weight, etc) then set goals for yourself.

[jblackmoustache]

(Original post by Kage)
If you compare yourself with anyone, you seriously shouldn't.

You are you, and that is something they cannot be. I bet you aren't the sort of girl that would simply pose for pictures in a mirror anyway.

If your problem with yourself is something you think you can change (weight, etc) then set goals for yourself.

Funny thing is we'd never say the same to a guy.

'Shut up and be a man and get some game' would be more likely

[Kage]

(Original post by jblackmoustache)
Funny thing is we'd never say the same to a guy.

'Shut up and be a man and get some game' would be more likely

No, but girls are girls. We guys (at least I know I have in the past) do compare somewhat, but you must believe you have something. I know I'm not ugly, but I'm certainly not a model.
I have scars from spots for example that have left a few pock marks.

It's something you have to deal with, but their are some things you can change.

[Anonymous]

Thanks guys.

It's just really shallow on Twitter, when you see girls with loads of followers simply because they're hot.

[LavenderBlueSky88]

Obviously this isn't the case every time but often those girl's who look 'perfect' have very low self esteem and need constant validation. They thrive off being prized over their looks, something which they haven't achieved or put any work into. I had a friend at college who was incredibly 'hot' and physically attractive, and she would put loads of poser photos on facebook that got loads of likes..but she was the most messed up person i've ever known and had a waster boyfriend. I'm just saying, looks are important but brains and personality is equally important. There are more ways to be happy than to look hot in photos...

[Alpharius]

Right, another one of these threads...

Look, if seeing these pictures on Facebook/Twitter/Whatever gets you down, there is a very simple solution;

Stop going on said sites.

I will not lie and say; "I'm sure you're not that bad/you're beautiful!" Because I don't know. You could be right, and you are a munter. Equally you could be very wrong.

It's threads like these where pics are useful...

Many of these girls only have their looks. In 20-30 years, they'll have nothing. While they look for self-gratification, why don't you develop something that can stick with you, a hobby. Make yourself the more interesting person.

[Spontogical]

(Original post by Classical Liberal)
Facebook is about the worst creation of mankind thus far.

No it's not. It's the people that use/misuse it that make the whole experience good/bad. Luckily I have decent people on my facebook friends list, as in ~ people that I actually like and communicate with. I do however, unsubscribe from everyone's newsfeed as I don't want to see their stuff on my screen. Only use newsfeeds for stuff from companies I'm interested in etc.

Every few days I check to see how my friends are doing by clicking on their profiles. I prefer it this way tbh.

[ShredMaster]

(Original post by jblackmoustache)
Hahaha I never noticed!

Facebook = Look at me and the awesome booze filled, party crazy life I live

Twitter = Life sucks. I'm skint, can't afford to go out and nobody loves me but hey... i'm friends with loads of celebrities

Tumblr = Look at how pretentious I am and how intelligent and how much of a sexy geek I am. Look in awe at my collection of effects heavy trendy photos

Perfect. +1

[Zara<3]

I soooo know what you mean and can totally relate..but bare in mind most girls will put up only their best pics as their profile picture so half the time they don't look as good as that on a normal day..

Have you ever seen pics of girls online like through mutual friends but don't really know them and then see them in real life? I have a few times and then i look at them and think..hmm they looked way prettier on facebook lol..

Us girls are always trying to aspire to be better and its just in our second nature to compare ourselves to others all the time, I'm sure you are very pretty really..just lack of confidence issues..i feel blue too though when i see pretty girls posting pics all the time in different angles..but then i think..holllddddd up, if i made as much effort and wasted so much time in posing away i'd look just as good if not better lol..main thing is how you are though, that sounds pathetic but its so true, if a person is beautiful on the inside it radiates on the outside and makes them more attractive! try not to compare yourself to others, but if you want to feel beautiful (physically)..then don't look at others, look at yourself, analyse yourself and see how you can improve..everyones beautiful in their own way..there's no one type of beautiful and that's that.. Girls can look compleeeetely different but be just as attractive as each other, so just focus on yourself!

[SuperCat007]

Don't spend hours looking in the mirror and concentrating on how ugly you are. Even the most attractive girls could do that! I've modelled in the past and if I spent time every day looking at my flaws in the mirror I'd be horribly depressed. Instead I put on a little make up and clothes that make me feel attractive and comfortable and I go out with the attitude that I am wonderful, beautiful, fit, strong, etc etc. If people don't agree then that's their problem, not mine. Beauty comes from within, learn how to enjoy being you and you'll be a million times better off than all of those photo shopped girls on facebook.