[Anonymous]

Background information

I met my ex boyfriend in college in 2011 (same course except he was a year above me) and we started dating after a few months of getting to know one another. He decided to go to the local university to carry on with his subject choice where he made new friends. He introduced me to a few of his friends who seemed nice at the time and seemed to accept me as being his girlfriend. During our time together i went out clubbing several times with my ex and his friends whilst inviting along my own friends.

My exs friends decided to cause problems by spitting in my friends drinks/ stealing there cigarettes and openly giving them all verbal abuse. I told my ex at the time to make sure his friends didn't cause problems between mine because it was completely unfair and i wanted everyone to get along. But regardless to him telling them, they carried on becoming slightly more worse than before. My ex and i carried on dating up untill february this year until he decided to break things off with me due to 'depression'. I knew he had some family problems going on and respected his choice to be alone, telling him that id be there for him regardless.

From February to May my ex went off the rails. He began ignoring me, taking heavy drugs with his friends and becoming more and more like them. This was hard for me to watch as i still loved him and was unsure where i 'stood' as hed still show affection to me. But by suprise my ex started dating another girl that he told me he got 'coaxed into'. I didnt believe him at first untill i realised this girl was his best friends step sister. His best friend has known for months about his depression and has been the one coaxing him into taking drugs, having fights, doing things he wouldnt normally do etc. And my ex said he has to 'watch his every word and move' incase he looses his best friend.

The Problem

The problem i have is that in September im going to the same university to do the same course as my ex (and all his friends). Im completely dreading seeing both him and his friends around (the city isnt that big) because im unsure if i'll be treated badly. Me and my ex are still good friends and on good terms with one another, which may sound good but it doesnt stop his friends causing problems. I saw them recently and his best friend ended up stealing food off me (without me/my ex realising) and ive been recently told his new girlfriend will 'punch me' if i even say hello to my ex. Im really worried that they'll approach me between lectures or in clubs causing trouble whilst im trying to settle in and make my own friends. I cant ask my ex to keep them away from me as hes pretty much there lapdog.

Does anyone have any advice on what i should do? I really dont want my university experience to be a nightmare but it feels like it will be!

[balloon_parade]

These people are at university...


Eugh, seriously, just avoid them make new friends and move on from these Neanderthals. Is it even worth being friends with your ex if it causes this much trouble? Regardless if he is depressed or not he shouldn't have let his friends act in such a disgraceful manner. Why subject yourself (and your friends, both new and old) to that if he isn't going to do anything about it? It's sad that you'll have to lose him as a good friend but do you really need the aggro?

[ByronicHero]

I would kick the ****e out of his mates but that may not be an option for you If they harass you then call the police and if it is worrying you that much maybe you should go somewhere else, have a new start and put it all down to experience. Life is too short.

[anonstudent1]

(Original post by balloon_parade)
These people are at university...


Eugh, seriously, just avoid them make new friends and move on from these Neanderthals. Is it even worth being friends with your ex if it causes this much trouble? Regardless if he is depressed or not he shouldn't have let his friends act in such a disgraceful manner. Why subject yourself (and your friends, both new and old) to that if he isn't going to do anything about it? It's sad that you'll have to lose him as a good friend but do you really need the aggro?

young/college girls have a tendency to overreact. I wouldn't be surprised if her ex was smoking weed and maybe doing E. His friends still sound like ********s though and if hes not sticking up for you to his own friends be glad you got rid and just stay away at uni. Unis are generally big places, my best friend went to my uni and because he lived in an accomodation that was about 20mins away, I only really saw him once or twice a month and that was because I made effort, so I wouldn't worry about it to much.

[Anonymous]

Do nothing to provoke a reaction and just ignore them where you may see them