[Anonymous]

I met this guy off a dating site, we spoke for a while before we arranged meeting up. He hasn't lived near me for long, he moved from Scotland to here due to getting a job over here. The first time we met we went and had a drink at the pub and then went back to his and watched a film and then played some PS3 (ergh). We did end up sleeping together, in which I know many people will have bad opinons on that but it did feel right and we had been getting on great for so long that for me there was no problem in that.
Since then we were still getting on well but then on Saturday me, him and my best friend went to my friends ex's house for a little drinking sesh and just to have a nice time. This is the first time he met people I know and they all got on well. He was suppose to be coming mine after to stay the night and all was fine until I was in the bathroom talking to some girl about stuff and getting advice but I went back into the living room to get my drink and I heard them mentioning my name. So now I was aware of them slagging me off to this guy but I know nothing about what had been said. During the time in the bathroom I was just crying for most of it, for many reasons.
Anyway when it came to the taxi arriving, he said he wasn't coming with me no more and he just changed.
The next morning I messaged him, he read it but didn't reply and I sent him another 2 but didn't get no replies to those either. I have now deleted his number and deleted him off bbm.

I feel like without answers though, this will keep playing on my mind and I already feel crap due to losing my best friend the same night due to her and her ex having problems over me.
If he did get in contact anytime in the near future, should I listen to what he has to say and then cut off contact again or should I listen and give him another chance?

[Anonymous]

Anybody?

[puddingandpie]

Why would your friends slag you off? They can't really be friends. Has this happened before?

[Classical Liberal]

(Original post by puddingandpie)
Why would your friends slag you off? They can't really be friends. Has this happened before?

"Friends" are precisely the kind of people who slag you off.

"I like the guy and all, but blahhh blahhh blahhhh"

[Really_Gonna_Rock_]

He just wanted you for the sex one time, but wasn't man enough to tell you that upfront. You got played. It's the oldest trick in the book - guy wants sex from girl once but doesn't dare tell you. He charms you and makes you believe he wants something more serious, then he gets the sex then buggars off never to be heard from again.

You fell for it. Too bad. Women naively fall for this kind of thing all the time. If he just wanted casual sex once, he should've told you that at the start rather than left you hanging.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by puddingandpie)
Why would your friends slag you off? They can't really be friends. Has this happened before?

Well one was suppose to be my best friend. The other guy I would of classed as a friend although he used me as a rebound last year when he knew I liked him. It went on for a while that did. The others there were people I had only just met. But I met a new female friend and hanging with her tonight .

(Original post by Really_Gonna_Rock_)
He just wanted you for the sex one time, but wasn't man enough to tell you that upfront. You got played. It's the oldest trick in the book - guy wants sex from girl once but doesn't dare tell you. He charms you and makes you believe he wants something more serious, then he gets the sex then buggars off never to be heard from again.

You fell for it. Too bad. Women naively fall for this kind of thing all the time. If he just wanted casual sex once, he should've told you that at the start rather than left you hanging.

Yeah but if that was the case then he would of came back and slept with me. And he wouldn't of made the time to come see me again, especially when he had a hangover and was tired.

[Really_Gonna_Rock_]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Yeah but if that was the case then he would of came back and slept with me. And he wouldn't of made the time to come see me again, especially when he had a hangover and was tired.

You keep believing that. Lol. Girls will live in denial of the truth when they get mistreated by a guy but they still want him. You got used and played for sex....FACE REALITY!!

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Really_Gonna_Rock_)
You keep believing that. Lol. Girls will live in denial of the truth when they get mistreated by a guy but they still want him. You got used and played for sex....FACE REALITY!!

If I actually believed it, I would admit it. But everything I have known from him since I first started speaking to him says otherwise!

[Really_Gonna_Rock_]

(Original post by Anonymous)
If I actually believed it, I would admit it. But everything I have known from him since I first started speaking to him says otherwise!

Lmao! How old are you and how much experience have you got of dating, relationships and sex?