[Anonymous]

I don't want to come across as arrogant here, i'm just going to be honest!...

To put it bluntly, i'm a good looking girl. I'm confident and find it easy to get on with people, friends rely on me to carry the conversation most of the time and bring the humour! I have a good job and to be honest, my life is pretty much perfect apart from one aspect....I've been single to over 2 and a half years now and I can't understand WHY!

WHY am I finding it so hard to find a partner?!

Help?

[et cetera]

Perhaps your too arrogant? Try being more modest

[Flibble22]

You've probably got this idea of your perfect guy in your head.. problem is, he doesn't exist.

Standards - lower them.

[Anonymous]

I'm not though, should have actually popped that part in there! I haven't always been good looking which I guess is why i'm not 'in your face' with it to people. I know I have a nice face but I don't think i'm better than anybody!

So yeah, rule out the arrogant part.

[Spontogical]

Dunno..

don't know what kind of guys you go after or are interested in.. are you unapproachable?

[Anonymous]

I think it may be a case of lowering my standards yeah, the guys I go for always turn out to be arrogant and horrible!

I don't have the opportunity of meeting new people though. Think that's another problem for me, I don't want to meet people out in town as that never amounts to anything and they're all just after one thing.

How can I meet new nice guys?

[Anonymous]

I'm the complete opposite from unapproachable, i've been told I have a very 'friendly' face (which works well for me in my job but obviously not in the attracting men department :/)

[rei dos reis]

you are probably intimidating. that would happen if you are VERY good looking and are very outgoing. or you are crap at flirting and can't let males know you are interested.

[Silver Arrow]

How do you know that people "in town" which i assume you mean clubs / bars are only after one thing?
Where else do you hang out? Do you have hobbies or anything of the sort?

[fuzznbass]

Join a club or something ? do you go to a gym ?

[st_23]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I don't want to come across as arrogant here, i'm just going to be honest!...

To put it bluntly, i'm a good looking girl. I'm confident and find it easy to get on with people, friends rely on me to carry the conversation most of the time and bring the humour! I have a good job and to be honest, my life is pretty much perfect apart from one aspect....I've been single to over 2 and a half years now and I can't understand WHY!

WHY am I finding it so hard to find a partner?!

Help?

Well do you yet approached a lot?

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[Millie228]

This is what I could think of:

People don't just 'happen' to each other. You need to meet them, be available, be approachable. Perhaps you're not out enough, always out in large groups or perhaps you're not attractive and feminine when you're out, or perhaps you're difficult to walk up to/talk to. Do you come across as selfish or only looking to have fun or do you come across as girlfriend material? Go out more often, get more connections, join a new gym or club.

And adjust your standards. Find out what your 'league' actually is. Find out what men really want in a woman (beauty, laughter, pleasant and positive personality, caring, neat), not what women think men want in a woman (confidence is a plus for you personally, but it's something women look for in men - not something men look for in women). Ambition, being career-minded and outspoken is not necessarily a minus, but it doesn't make you compete in the upper leagues of men. Think about it - what do you actually bring to the table for a man?

Make a list of 5 non-negotiables for men. 5 things you MUST have (like similar moral, religion, familiy ties). Think about which attributes you have to/cannot live with. Make those standards reasonable ones but make them the only ones. If a man doesn't match them, don't bother with him. But if a man matches them, give him a chance, even if you wouldn't usually go for him.

Stop spending time with sluts, party girls and girls who are always single/in dysfunctional relationships. Start spending time with girls who usually have good relationships with men. Their attitudes will wear off on you.

Ask for feedback. If a guy ended things with you and you have no idea why, ask him honestly and in a mature way. Perhaps you can get a response on something to improve.

[Rennit]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I think it may be a case of lowering my standards yeah, the guys I go for always turn out to be arrogant and horrible!

I don't have the opportunity of meeting new people though. Think that's another problem for me, I don't want to meet people out in town as that never amounts to anything and they're all just after one thing.

How can I meet new nice guys?

You'll find that "nice guy" and just dismiss him and shag a douchebag.

typical girl act.

[Dark Horse]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I don't want to come across as arrogant here, i'm just going to be honest!...

To put it bluntly, i'm a good looking girl. I'm confident and find it easy to get on with people, friends rely on me to carry the conversation most of the time and bring the humour! I have a good job and to be honest, my life is pretty much perfect apart from one aspect....I've been single to over 2 and a half years now and I can't understand WHY!

WHY am I finding it so hard to find a partner?!

Help?

If you've been single for so long how can it still bother you? Search your feelings...are you actually frustrated that you aren't in a relationship? Or is it simply because your logically aware that it's the last box to tick?

Alot of single people seem to think that if they aren't in a relationship then they're somehow "failing" at life and they need to find a partner ASAP. It's just not a good way to go and all it does is give rise to feelings of desperation.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I don't want to come across as arrogant here, i'm just going to be honest!...

To put it bluntly, i'm a good looking girl. I'm confident and find it easy to get on with people, friends rely on me to carry the conversation most of the time and bring the humour! I have a good job and to be honest, my life is pretty much perfect apart from one aspect....I've been single to over 2 and a half years now and I can't understand WHY!

WHY am I finding it so hard to find a partner?!

Help?

2.5 years? Try being single for 6.

[WakiMaki]

Finding a partner seems to be more about luck then anything else, getting out and meeting people obviously really increases your chances. And people are complex and just being good looking and charismatic is only a little part of fitting together with someone.. its more about how your lifestyles work together.

Either give it more time or lower your standards, when dating and getting into a serious relationship things really change. My current partner i will be honest didn't really appeal to me when he asked me out, i declined the first time then reluctantly accepted the second. But once together people change and we have been together for two years so far.

[hiding12]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I don't want to come across as arrogant here, i'm just going to be honest!...

To put it bluntly, i'm a good looking girl. I'm confident and find it easy to get on with people, friends rely on me to carry the conversation most of the time and bring the humour! I have a good job and to be honest, my life is pretty much perfect apart from one aspect....I've been single to over 2 and a half years now and I can't understand WHY!

WHY am I finding it so hard to find a partner?!

Help?

cos men don't just go by looks

[ken2]

I've got a Bond persona and
maybe if you maybe wanna unwind after work you could give me ring baby

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[Pitt1988]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I don't want to come across as arrogant here, i'm just going to be honest!...

To put it bluntly, i'm a good looking girl. I'm confident and find it easy to get on with people, friends rely on me to carry the conversation most of the time and bring the humour! I have a good job and to be honest, my life is pretty much perfect apart from one aspect....I've been single to over 2 and a half years now and I can't understand WHY!

WHY am I finding it so hard to find a partner?!

Help?

Some guys find attractive girls intimidating, so they often don't get approached as often as others.

[laurentommo]

Some people have been single for more than 2 years so I don't know what the fuss is about.


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