(Original post by AndroidLight)
I echo the above post, having so much on your plate and trying to make the best of it is to be seriously commended, and even if things aren't going so well you should be proud for doing what you've done. Before I forget to this in, I'll put it in here - try and always talk to people when you've got so many things going on and you're not sure what to do. Whether that be in-person, online or whatever. Isolation is hard thing, it can make you feel a lot more down than you should, and having poeple there who'll listen and help you without judging can make the world of difference. Feel free to message me if you wish to.
Firstly, I'd say jump out of biomed if you haven't already. You've said you didn't enjoy it at all, and scrapping by should be a sign enough. And becoming does not at all require biomed. In fact you'd most likely have to do medicine again as a post-grad course, which is far harder to get into than undergrad medicine. A year or so ago I was considering taking medicine, and a lot of people who didn't make med were considering biomed, and I've always advised them of the same thing, to not take biomed. It doesn't help.
The main things it looks like you need to sort out/organise are in order of importance:
- Family / Staying at home / Working for family
With your career, I'd say it's quite pivotal to focus on it first and foremost. It may seem selfish, but it is probably the biggest thing that'll give you ease of mind and keep you away from the negative side of life. Without something that you feel comfortable with, you'll always see that part of your life as being a failure and then extending it. If you still wish to become a doctor, then I'd probably suggest looking for extended medicine programmes, which tend to have lower entrance requirements. I'd also suggest going to careers advice, I can't remember what the group that offers free advice to all students is but they can be found with some asking around and they'd help more than I can in this regard. If you wish to go to the raf/army etc, then as applicant1 suggested I'd recommend going down to their careers and seeing what they have on offer. Ultimately finding something that you enjoy is key, and although it's not really comparable to your situation, my last year of college was absolutely harrowing as I didin't know what I wanted to do, and so was left doing things I had little interest in and consequently feeling down quite often.
The question the comes too whether you'd be willing to go away from home / devote less time to home in favour of your career. I'd suggest, while hard, it's something you'll have to do. At the same time, while you focus on your career, you'll still have time to contribute to your family. But honestly, anything that's too much for you, such as working long hours finance wise should really be toned down, welfare should be able to contribute enough in this regard. If you could discuss it with the older members of your family, and let them know that you can't do so much and how much you're struggling, then hopefully they'd understand. Not to say you'd not do anything, but just not to the detriment of your own life, there's really no point in damaging your own life in helping out others. If it does come down to moving away for extended periods, then it's not something really that I can give any useful advice on as it depends on your family and how they'd cope. I'd say though don't dismiss it out of hand, it could very well be feasible with you going away but not for great periods of time, say for a month at a time (I'm not sure how the navy works, so forgive me on that).
A lot of what I've said is purely based upon what you've written, so the reality may be you may not agree with much of it. That's fine, it's merely just thoughts for you, but hopefully it helps a little for you as you really do have a much larger load than most could cope with. Best of luck