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Atheists, would you marry a religious person?

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    Yes, in fact I hope to.
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    It depends - if they wanted to convert me, constantly argued about religion/creationism with me etc then no. If I loved them enough and they were happy to have different beliefs from mine then it's less than a problem.

    Having the same opinions about day to day things, eg wanting children would be more important. Also, I'd rather be with someone with similar views to mine on issues such as homosexuality - I would find it difficult to respect a homophobe, for instance!


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    (Original post by Pinkhead)
    Not Pascal's Wager again...

    I had to actually look up this guy because i had never heard of him before in my life it was some other guy i heard this from but he probably got it from Pascal. I think its true though becasue there seems to be more that a Christian is aiming for eternal life etc but Athiests seem to be living life to the fullest and not caring much but just doing whatever they want (without this sounding rude)
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    (Original post by Ebony A)
    I had to actually look up this guy because i had never heard of him before in my life it was some other guy i heard this from but he probably got it from Pascal. I think its true though becasue there seems to be more that a Christian is aiming for eternal life etc but Athiests seem to be living life to the fullest and not caring much but just doing whatever they want (without this sounding rude)
    Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think you understand Pascal's wager.

    What it says is that it's better to live as though God exists and be rewarded than to discard the notion of God and face punishment. It's not exclusive to Christians.

    That argument is obviously flawed because there are thousands of worshipped gods and you might actually be believing in the wrong one and will still go to hell.

    I didn't understand what you were trying to say in your post but I thought I might as well clarify this issue
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    Marriage to me is showing someone I'm serious about spending my time on Earth in harmony with them not about how it looks 'in the eyes of god'.

    It would be a civil service affair for me as opposed to a full blown church ceremony.
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    (Original post by Pinkhead)
    Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think you understand Pascal's wager.

    What it says is that it's better to live as though God exists and be rewarded than to discard the notion of God and face punishment. It's not exclusive to Christians.

    That argument is obviously flawed because there are thousands of worshipped gods and you might actually be believing in the wrong one and will still go to hell.

    I didn't understand what you were trying to say in your post but I thought I might as well clarify this issue
    True true it isnt exclusive to Christians but i think he seemed to concentrate more on Christianity. (I skim read like the first paragraph of wiki , i didnt read everything :P)

    I believe that there is one God its just too confusing with all these Gods i think are all false, but then you could say the Christian God is false.
    thanks for explaining this to me btw
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    wouldnt mind if they were christian. would never marry an islam/jew/budhist etc
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    It would probably make it less likely and stuff would have to be worked out, but it wouldn't be a dealbreaker.
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    As an atheist, I could (probably) only marry someone vaguely religious, at tops. Anything more and I fear our worldviews would be too different: I would consider them irrational, they would no doubt consider me close minded. I would be right of course.

    (Original post by Ebony A)
    I had to actually look up this guy because i had never heard of him before in my life it was some other guy i heard this from but he probably got it from Pascal. I think its true though becasue there seems to be more that a Christian is aiming for eternal life etc but Athiests seem to be living life to the fullest and not caring much but just doing whatever they want (without this sounding rude)
    So when an atheist does good things he does it because he's genuinely a nice person. Whereas if a religious person does it, he does it because he wants to seal the deal in heaven.

    I'm not saying I necessarily agree with that argument but that is where that line of reasoning leads.
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    To expect that such a marriage if happens would go smooth, is no less of a fairy tale
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    I wouldn't NOT marry someone because they were religious if I loved them, however I don't see myself as being able to have a real relationship with someone with those beliefs as we wouldn't get on.
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    (Original post by Ebony A)
    That is true i sometimes do that but then i find myself saying there must be a bit more than for example evolution and other things. Its nice to have a debate sometimes haha and yes your right there is, a christian guy once said "if you left the church because of hypocracy then there is hypocracy everywhere so leave your schools and place of work etc." its strange but slightly true.

    ps: what does c'est la vie mean ?:P
    For what particular reasons does he think there is hypocrisy in the workplace and school?
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    If I loved them and they really believed in and wanted to be married.


    But I don't see the point in marriage. And I've never been emotionally attracted to a religious person, probably because the way they think is so radically different from myself.
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    (Original post by Dragonfly07)
    As an atheist I don't believe in the act of marriage, so I wouldn't marry anyone at all.
    Marriage isn't really a religious thing anymore and hasn't been for some time. It's more of a legal thing now, and an excuse for a celebration of your relationship. Plenty of people I know are having so-called "humanist" weddings.

    I would generally agree that marriage is a pointless affair. It doesn't really do anything for the relationship, it doesn't mean anything, and most of the wedding traditions are just a bit bonkers, ott, and well, unnecessarily expensive. All it does in practical terms is tie up a few legal ends - most of which you could sort without having to be married, and some of which don't really act in your favour anyway.

    But still, I don't think you can really oppose marriage because you're an atheist, as if religion and God has a monopoly on marriage.
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    I couldn't be in a long-term relationship with a religious person, unless I was sure that their religion was weak and borne of familial pressures, and that they were an otherwise rational person who could be convinced to renounce religion.
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    (Original post by 3nTr0pY)
    As an atheist, I could (probably) only marry someone vaguely religious, at tops. Anything more and I fear our worldviews would be too different: I would consider them irrational, they would no doubt consider me close minded. I would be right of course.


    So when an atheist does good things he does it because he's genuinely a nice person. Whereas if a religious person does it, he does it because he wants to seal the deal in heaven.

    I'm not saying I necessarily agree with that argument but that is where that line of reasoning leads.
    Well basically yes its sad to think that way when youve been brought up around that type of behaviour but some christians are genuinelly nice people but most are just fakes, which im sick of tbh.
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    (Original post by CherryCherryBoomBoom)
    For what particular reasons does he think there is hypocrisy in the workplace and school?
    I think he means in general there are nice people in different parts of life and bad everywhere, tbh there is a lot of hypocrasy in church which makes people leave but for example i wouldnt leave my workplace or school just because of that but many leave the church because of it. if you get what i mean.
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    This thread has proven to me a suspicion that I've had for sometime; that a lot of (not all) atheists are actually more intolerant of religious people than a lot of (not all) religious people are of they.

    Which is strange and slightly disturbing. At least a religious person has a fundamental purpose why they would choose to marry someone of their religion; that they should raise children in their religion or whatever. An atheist actively choosing not to be in a relationship with a religious person because of their religion is nothing more than shallow intolerance.
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    Yes of course. Falling in love has nothing to do with what religion someone is. I love a person, not what God they worship. It's irrelevant. Just because you don't share the same faith it doesn't mean you won't share the same outlook to life and have the same interests. Obviously I wouldn't be attending church with them or whatever, but I'd encourage them to go if helped them feel fulfilled and I wouldn't try and change them in anyway and hopefully they wouldn't try and change me either
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    (Original post by richiemayne)
    This thread has proven to me a suspicion that I've had for sometime; that a lot of (not all) atheists are actually more intolerant of religious people than a lot of (not all) religious people are of they.

    Which is strange and slightly disturbing. At least a religious person has a fundamental purpose why they would choose to marry someone of their religion; that they should raise children in their religion or whatever. An atheist actively choosing not to be in a relationship with a religious person because of their religion is nothing more than shallow intolerance.
    There's a whole load of issues between a religious person and an atheist, including for example:

    Sexual activity
    Homosexuality, abortion, euthanasia, ...
    Worshiping as a family
    Raising children in the religion
    Contraception

    People break up or divorce for far smaller reasons than these. Hence an atheist might just decide that it's not worth trying with religious people because of these issues. Not me-but I can see pretty easily their point of view.

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