why do Asians have lot of self hate when it comes to dating ?

I think preferences are different to exclusive dating. You did say you would consider dating an indian. Since you are quite fair you might have similar preferences in a partner. I have dark skin but no inferiority complex..different people like different things.

I don't get how asian women cannot be sexually attractive but maybe it was the ones you met or maybe they didn't put out a sexually attractive image for you as most don't get sexually intimate till in a serious relationship or where marriage is concerned.

I do think girls get judged much more harshley for dating out when they shouldn't as many guys do the same and actually more.You might not be a coconut but I don't think Indian can be just defined as liking cricket, indian songs and having indian mates. Lot of my white friends do this too. My cousin married a white guy and he is definietly way more culturally indian then many indian guys. He knows Hindi, can read and write it and is into yoga, meditation etc.

Lol basically for an ONS I wouldn't have said no, back in the day

If I got defensive, it's mainly cause people get negs from insecure asian girls, hence anon. Last time I remember a few of us getting negs.

Not engaged but def will be married within 2 years. We have talked about it e.t.c. I think in one year I will propose when we go travelling. It will have to be perfectly planned in the right setting

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i feel so old now. i feel bad about the random options i gave for the photo. I might have to save any pics till your 18th bday lol
joking.

It's good you don't have an inferior complex. It can be quite annoying when some people do, clearly they still hold on to what their parents say, fair looks better. Each to their own as you rightly say.



I don't like the look of indian girls overall. It's not just paleness, you can get pale indian girls too. I love european features, noses, lips e.t.c it's very different and it's what I have always liked as long as I remember.

The indian girls I met were ready for more and since at uni I have learnt that at least 3-4 have liked me. It's not a sexual behaviour issue as you hint at-my mates have slept with quite a few asian girls. It's the fact I don't like their look personally.



That was a basic example by me. My point is I am not a coconut and those who know me realise that.

lol

lol dw the photos were nothing suspicious just felt guilty asking for yours.
So are you on break from school at the moment?

yep i guess i started my gap year even though all i've done is laze around and watch tv.

you havent been lazy you've been pretty productive on tsr Are you planning to go anywhere for your gap year?
When is your bday?

In my experience there are three types of Asian people -


- those that just don't care about race when it comes to dating and friendships because its 2012 ffs! (me).

(I am a British Indian male btw)

my b-day is somewhere this month. mmh, not sure maybe south-europe next summer,

A lot of indian guys date a white girl and then marry indian which leads to lot of unhappy marriages and the whole stereotype about Indian guys. Besides no Indian girl deserves to marry a guy who cannot love her completely and is not attracted to her. that would be cruel.

anyway all the best for the wedding.

Can you provide evidence of this please?

is it in the middle or towards the end. South Europe sounds like fun

It's a cultural thing. It is what is expected from parents.

Too much of a generalization.