[Anonymous]

First off I'm male.

One of my best and closest friends who is a girl is slowly turning into what many would describe as an "Arrogant slut." When I met her she was weird, shy, was bullied and didn't have many friends.

Over the years she's changed with help from me to being quite popular, she looks great now and has her own group of friends. The thing with her is that she doesn't feel like she wants a boyfriend but then also hands it out so easily. She used to complain that she was getting a reputation but she's even stopped whinging about that now.

At the moment its her shallowness that is really pissing me off. I'm not a shallow person and I hate people who are. I will always try to get to know a girl before making a "Your not my type" decision. She on the other hand will instantly proclaim that some of the guys are too ugly for "someone like her."

Which is complete hypocrisy as when I first met her she wasn't exactly a shining star.

Tbh it might just be returning from University to a village full of shallow people where as in my halls we discussed things and ****.

[PinkyPurply]

Ugh I hate people like that.
It'd be best to just ditch her and stick with people you get on with.

[crocker710]

Sounds like you're jealous that it's not been put out to you.

[ellakrystina]

You sound very bitter. You're obviously not friends anymore and yes, people change - some for the worse. What is it your business who she has sex with? Quit being so bothered what she does with her life and get on with your own.

[Heeck]

What sort of help do you want from this post op?

The best advice I can give with people who turncoat their friends is to just rise above them and move on from them, in this case I'd just move on since she doesn't sound like much of a friend anymore . Maybe her arrogance is a way of hiding her weaknesses or problems that she has or is facing?

[Occams Chainsaw]

Send her my way?



In seriousness, theres nothing you can really do *so send her my way* she will carry on doing it *so send her my way* until she realises it isn't what she wants to do forever *so send her my way* so I guess leaving her to it is all you can do

[M4LLY]

Thats appears to be life, some people just seem to change. Theres one mate who was going to take us to his familys holiday home on the Isle of Wight this summer but he went ahead and did it with a completely different crowd without even bothering to invite us. 6 months ago we were best friends with this guy and now its like we never met

[Anonymous]

(Original post by ellakrystina)
You sound very bitter. You're obviously not friends anymore and yes, people change - some for the worse. What is it your business who she has sex with? Quit being so bothered what she does with her life and get on with your own.

I am friends with hers, I don't really care who she sleeps with but when she either whinges about guys treating her like **** or having to listen to her demean or insult other guys based on their looks it is. Did you even read my post?

@Crocker217

She's like a sister to me mate and I have a girlfriend soooooo...no.

Perhaps I should reinstate my point. I don't care who she sleeps with but when one of my closest and best friends (as I said above like a sister) becomes almost unbearable to hang around with because she demeans guys that chat her up because they aren't "good looking enough for her" then it angers me because I dont want to hang around with people like that.

Guess life moves on tho. Shame. Cheers for all the mature comments, il let you guys decide on which ones those were

[Happydude]

(Original post by crocker710)
Sounds like you're jealous that it's not been put out to you.

My thoughts exactly. It sounds like she's become her own person and you're angry at not getting laid.

It seems a lot of guys have this misconception that being friends with a girl for a certain amount of time or being really nice to them entitles you to their happy tingle place. This isn't true.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Happydude)
My thoughts exactly. It sounds like she's become her own person and you're angry at not getting laid.

It seems a lot of guys have this misconception that being friends with a girl for a certain amount of time or being really nice to them entitles you to their happy tingle place. This isn't true.

girlfriend bro...girlfriend. Personally I see it that some guys can't understand that some guys...just...want...to...be...f riends with a girl.

Literally see her as a sister, banta and all. Hell the girl has helped me pull before.

[Happydude]

(Original post by Anonymous)
girlfriend bro...girlfriend. Personally I see it that some guys can't understand that some guys...just...want...to...be...f riends with a girl.

Literally see her as a sister, banta and all. Hell the girl has helped me pull before.

So why are you annoyed? She isn't doing anything wrong...

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Happydude)
So why are you annoyed? She isn't doing anything wrong...

I just explained why man. Because she is a longtime friend, shes been there for me when both my parents got cancer. I was there for her when her dog died and we still spend plenty of time together now but generally I just don't like the fact that she has become hypocritical and arrogant. She used to be the "ugly" & "weird" one but now shes become one of the people that used to bully her.

I'm just disappointed in what shes turned into. Shes off to University soon so hopefully the atmosphere of having relatively intelligent conversations mixed in with the sex, crazy times, loltimes and such will help her.

Hell there were some arrogant bitches at my halls when I first got there and due to the atmosphere they are more accommodating to the "Lesser being" <One girl actually called a guy that on a night out.

[funsongfactory]

OP have you tried sitting her down and telling her you feel she's changed (maybe don't be toooo brutally honest as to how :P) and you don't feel like you're as close anymore? If you want to just give up on the friendship then there's nothing stopping you but if I were you I wouldn't let a long and very close friendship go without a fight

[boba]

next time she starts saying things like that about a boy you should mention something. You should try and talk to her about it somehow because it would be such a shame to loose such a close friend.

[123maz]

(Original post by Anonymous)
First off I'm male.

One of my best and closest friends who is a girl is slowly turning into what many would describe as an "Arrogant slut." When I met her she was weird, shy, was bullied and didn't have many friends.

Over the years she's changed with help from me to being quite popular, she looks great now and has her own group of friends. The thing with her is that she doesn't feel like she wants a boyfriend but then also hands it out so easily. She used to complain that she was getting a reputation but she's even stopped whinging about that now.

At the moment its her shallowness that is really pissing me off. I'm not a shallow person and I hate people who are. I will always try to get to know a girl before making a "Your not my type" decision. She on the other hand will instantly proclaim that some of the guys are too ugly for "someone like her."

Which is complete hypocrisy as when I first met her she wasn't exactly a shining star.

Tbh it might just be returning from University to a village full of shallow people where as in my halls we discussed things and ****.

You wana get on it, that why you are so JEALOUS.
like you said you are male :P

[Anonymous]

Looks like she is a slag and proud lol. One day it will hit her, just maybe

[kaypc]

have a serious talk with her about it and tell her whats up. harder than it sounds...i know.