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Everything is falling apart around me, I don't know what to do
I recieved the results from my second year and it turns out i've failed four of my modules with three of them being core modules which have to be resat and will be capped at 40%. I had a tough year dealing with anxiety which made me mess up my first semester and the second semester wasnt any better. I'd like to repeat the second year again because i know i can do so much better, but i'm not sure if student finance will agree to fund me. I expected to fail 2 modules but not 4 especiallty the core modules which i revised incredibly hard for.
I'm also claiming DSA if that helps.
Do i have a genuine case for being allowed to repeat or not? I've been recieveing counselling since my first year and i've also had some medication which i stopped becvause they were just horrible.
The other issue is to do with my mum. I secretly found out that she owes over £1000 in council tax and has been summoned to court with the council threatening baillif action if she doesnt pay up. This is stressing me out a lot because i already suffer from anxiety and i just keep thinking about it and feel like i'm having panic attacks all the time.
What should i do about these situations? I really don't want it to mess up my life. -
Re: Everything is falling apart around me, I don't know what to doDo you have a supervisor at uni you can contact?(Original post by Anonymous)
I recieved the results from my second year and it turns out i've failed four of my modules with three of them being core modules which have to be resat and will be capped at 40%. I had a tough year dealing with anxiety which made me mess up my first semester and the second semester wasnt any better. I'd like to repeat the second year again because i know i can do so much better, but i'm not sure if student finance will agree to fund me. I expected to fail 2 modules but not 4 especiallty the core modules which i revised incredibly hard for.
I'm also claiming DSA if that helps.
Do i have a genuine case for being allowed to repeat or not? I've been recieveing counselling since my first year and i've also had some medication which i stopped becvause they were just horrible.
The other issue is to do with my mum. I secretly found out that she owes over £1000 in council tax and has been summoned to court with the council threatening baillif action if she doesnt pay up. This is stressing me out a lot because i already suffer from anxiety and i just keep thinking about it and feel like i'm having panic attacks all the time.
What should i do about these situations? I really don't want it to mess up my life. -
Re: Everything is falling apart around me, I don't know what to doA supervisor?(Original post by ForKicks)
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Re: Everything is falling apart around me, I don't know what to doWere you ever assigned a senior member of staff to oversee your studies and grievances? They are usually department based(Original post by Anonymous)
A supervisor?
I thought all uni's have them as they are the first point of contact for any issues (yours being a good example)
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A tutor. Student finance will fund you for 4 years which covers exactly this kind of thing. Providing the Uni is convinced that you will put the work in, they should allow you to resist, particularly of you've had personal issues. Make an appointment to see your personal tutor and talk it through with them
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Re: Everything is falling apart around me, I don't know what to doI wasn't assigned anybody in my department. The only person i was "assigned" to was my mentor from my University's wellbeing service.(Original post by ForKicks)
Were you ever assigned a senior member of staff to oversee your studies and grievances? They are usually department based
I thought all uni's have them as they are the first point of contact for any issues (yours being a good example)
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Re: Everything is falling apart around me, I don't know what to doI asked my tutor before if i could repeat the whole year if i didn't perform well and he said yes.(Original post by abbyheat)
A tutor. Student finance will fund you for 4 years which covers exactly this kind of thing. Providing the Uni is convinced that you will put the work in, they should allow you to resist, particularly of you've had personal issues. Make an appointment to see your personal tutor and talk it through with them
This was posted from The Student Room's iPhone/iPad App
Will i have to go through any special process to do this and will this affect my future employment career?
What do you mean they will allow me to resist? Do you mean resit? -
Re: Everything is falling apart around me, I don't know what to doThat is rather strange. Course tutor is the person to go to then I guess.(Original post by Anonymous)
I wasn't assigned anybody in my department. The only person i was "assigned" to was my mentor from my University's wellbeing service. -
Re: Everything is falling apart around me, I don't know what to doGeneral life advice -- at this point in your life, although things may seem horrible, there is nothing that you can't fix. If you feel that it is best for you to repeat, and you feel you can do better under different circumstances -- go for it! It is an admirable choice, and quite explainable later on in life. If you are ever asked about why you repeated, just remember it was a choice, you didn't have to, you did it because it you wanted to feel confident about what you'd learned and gotten the full experience out of school. Just be honest with yourself about what is best -- and from someone who has been there -- there is NO RUSH, at least not until you're like... 35, so take your time!(Original post by Anonymous)
I recieved the results from my second year and it turns out i've failed four of my modules with three of them being core modules which have to be resat and will be capped at 40%. I had a tough year dealing with anxiety which made me mess up my first semester and the second semester wasnt any better. I'd like to repeat the second year again because i know i can do so much better, but i'm not sure if student finance will agree to fund me. I expected to fail 2 modules but not 4 especiallty the core modules which i revised incredibly hard for.
I'm also claiming DSA if that helps.
Do i have a genuine case for being allowed to repeat or not? I've been recieveing counselling since my first year and i've also had some medication which i stopped becvause they were just horrible.
The other issue is to do with my mum. I secretly found out that she owes over £1000 in council tax and has been summoned to court with the council threatening baillif action if she doesnt pay up. This is stressing me out a lot because i already suffer from anxiety and i just keep thinking about it and feel like i'm having panic attacks all the time.
What should i do about these situations? I really don't want it to mess up my life. -
Re: Everything is falling apart around me, I don't know what to doI emailed my tutor and he said that it was fine to repeat and that I've made good decision.(Original post by ForKicks)
That is rather strange. Course tutor is the person to go to then I guess.
Will this affect my future career / employment in any way and am i correct in assuming that the marks wont be capped as I'm starting over again? -
Re: Everything is falling apart around me, I don't know what to doFuture employers accept mitigating circumstances if the university does, so you should be fine(Original post by Anonymous)
I emailed my tutor and he said that it was fine to repeat and that I've made good decision.
Will this affect my future career / employment in any way and am i correct in assuming that the marks wont be capped as I'm starting over again?
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Re: Everything is falling apart around me, I don't know what to do
I had a slight breakdown about my first year results. I was doing Law and Music Technology and didn't like music, so I stopped going to lectures and completing coursework. Finally went to my course tutor a week before the final assessment in tears and with his help I arranged to rsit some modules and just scraped a pass overall.
It was my first year luckily, so my results didn't really count, but in order to switch to another course you normally have to resit the first year. I switched to English, and had to have an interview with the head of English. I read loads and have always had an interest in english Literature (still don't know why I chose bloody music!) and I was able to show enough knowledge of the first year's course material for him to let me straight into the second year. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made, to switch course. All my stress went out the window, I was doing a course I loved and could do well. I found student services and my personal tutor a massive help, I'd really recommend talking things over with them.
I know it sounds easy to say, but try not to stress out about things like your Mum's council tax bill. Those things can be fixed. I've been in a large amount of council tax arears in the past, and managed to pay them off. Debt collectors send you letters threatening court action all the time, most of the time they're not serious. And even if your Mum does get taken to court, the worst is she'll have a CCJ and have to make an affordable payment plan to pay it off. The CAB can sort her out no problem. Honestly, its not something for you to lose sleep over.
I'd encourage you to try and get your medical condition under control. Does your doctor know you stopped taking your medicine? If a particular medicine doesn't agree with you, go back to your doctor, there are almost always alternatives they can try. I get the impression you were on antidepressants? If so, there are lots of different ones and everyone reacts differently. There will be some that will work for you. Don't just stop taking them, go back to your doctor and tell him/her why you don't get on with them and ask for an alternative.
With regards to affect of resitting on your career, really don't worry about it. Most employers won't bat an eyelid. On the positive side, you'll always have something to talk about in interview when they ask those annoying-ass questions like "Tell me about a time you made a mistake?" or "When did you turn around a bad situation?". I was asked that at the interview for my current job. Most people say "I failed my driving test". I said "Well, I started my degree doing music technology. This is why... this is why it was a mistake... this is how I turned it around... and this is what I have learned...". And my boss said it was a good answer. Heh.
I know that everything looks dire right now, but I promise you that everything is fixable. Know that everyone needs to ask for help sometimes, and there is almost always someone whose job it is to help you with your problem. So don't be afraid to ask for it. -
Re: Everything is falling apart around me, I don't know what to doHi.(Original post by Vohamanah)
I had a slight breakdown about my first year results. I was doing Law and Music Technology and didn't like music, so I stopped going to lectures and completing coursework. Finally went to my course tutor a week before the final assessment in tears and with his help I arranged to rsit some modules and just scraped a pass overall.
It was my first year luckily, so my results didn't really count, but in order to switch to another course you normally have to resit the first year. I switched to English, and had to have an interview with the head of English. I read loads and have always had an interest in english Literature (still don't know why I chose bloody music!) and I was able to show enough knowledge of the first year's course material for him to let me straight into the second year. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made, to switch course. All my stress went out the window, I was doing a course I loved and could do well. I found student services and my personal tutor a massive help, I'd really recommend talking things over with them.
I know it sounds easy to say, but try not to stress out about things like your Mum's council tax bill. Those things can be fixed. I've been in a large amount of council tax arears in the past, and managed to pay them off. Debt collectors send you letters threatening court action all the time, most of the time they're not serious. And even if your Mum does get taken to court, the worst is she'll have a CCJ and have to make an affordable payment plan to pay it off. The CAB can sort her out no problem. Honestly, its not something for you to lose sleep over.
I'd encourage you to try and get your medical condition under control. Does your doctor know you stopped taking your medicine? If a particular medicine doesn't agree with you, go back to your doctor, there are almost always alternatives they can try. I get the impression you were on antidepressants? If so, there are lots of different ones and everyone reacts differently. There will be some that will work for you. Don't just stop taking them, go back to your doctor and tell him/her why you don't get on with them and ask for an alternative.
With regards to affect of resitting on your career, really don't worry about it. Most employers won't bat an eyelid. On the positive side, you'll always have something to talk about in interview when they ask those annoying-ass questions like "Tell me about a time you made a mistake?" or "When did you turn around a bad situation?". I was asked that at the interview for my current job. Most people say "I failed my driving test". I said "Well, I started my degree doing music technology. This is why... this is why it was a mistake... this is how I turned it around... and this is what I have learned...". And my boss said it was a good answer. Heh.
I know that everything looks dire right now, but I promise you that everything is fixable. Know that everyone needs to ask for help sometimes, and there is almost always someone whose job it is to help you with your problem. So don't be afraid to ask for it.
It's my second year that i messed up. I failed four modules out of 9, 2 of them being core modules. It's a pretty poor result and the highest mark i had was 63.
All this was because of anxiety. I handed in all the coursework required.
I emailed my tutor to ask if it will affect me and he still hasn't replied since Monday. I'll try calling him today because he's not very helpful when being emailed. Do you think that I'll be allowed to re-do the whole year again? If i resit the four failed modules, then I'll have a low 2:2 / high 3rd for my second year meaning that I'll struggle to graduate with a 2:1. Will student finance be able to finance me for repeating a year (I'll be graduating in 2014 instead of 2013.
This past year i received some counseling as well as getting a mentor who i see every two weeks with regards to my anxiety. It's definitely helped a lot.
I was on medication for about a year during my first year and it helped a lot but then they stopped working and stopped taking them. The side effects were horrible and i don't wanna take any medication if it has the horrible side effects that SSRI's do.
I'm still a little stressed with the situation with my mum plus today i found that she's been issued with a speeding ticket.
