[roarosaurus]

As the title says, I’m curious as to whether or not TSR males have close relationship with their mums, as I’ve heard that, typically, boys grow up to be less close to their mothers than girls do, especially when they enter serious relationships.

I don’t have enough guy friends to be able to form an opinion on this based on personal experience, but my partner’s relationship with his mum isn’t close at all: when they talk they almost seem to not understand each other, like they’re on different wavelengths (for example, she's constantly accusing him of not having a sense of humour because he only manages to laugh politely at her jokes, but whenever he tries to make a joke she just doesn't get that he's trying to be funny) and they never talk about anything ‘deep’ or personal. They just don’t gel. He attributes this to the facts that a) when he was growing up, conversation was discouraged in favour of watching TV in separate rooms () and b) they're just very different people, with different interests. Possibly, it has nothing at all to do with gender at all.

I have a 22 month old son, and I really want to avoid becoming distant with him in the future. The thought that I might one day have a relationship with him like the one my partner and his mum have is depressing. So, guys: do you have a close relationship with your mum? Can you see it remaining that way? Why do you think your relationship is the way it is? And do you think it's true that, in general, boys grow up to be more distant from their mums than girls do? Female input welcome too, of course.

[King Kebab]

Me and my mum have a very close relationship.

[shezshez]

I don't get on with my mum. Our personalities clashed and I moved out when I was 15. I see her maybe once every two months or something like that.

[tehFrance]

(Original post by roarosaurus)

1. Do you have a close relationship with your mum?
2. Can you see it remaining that way?
3. Why do you think your relationship is the way it is?
4. And do you think it's true that, in general, boys grow up to be more distant from their mums than girls do?

1. No I do not have a close relationship with my mother.
2. Yes I can see it remaining that way.
3. If she hadn't been a selfish cow and left me and my father when I was a baby then forced me over (after a long legal battle) to the UK when I was a teenager then I doubt we would of been in such a strained relationship. When I lived with her (before university and she moved to Italy), we would speak in French which was nice but in reality I also had a step-father and and half-brother to contend with which made our relationship worse due to two ****tards.
4. Yes I believe that to be the case.

[skyblue91]

Yeah its fine.

However my relationship with your mum, its rather... sexual

[Rish7]

The only person I have a stronger connection to than my mum is my little brother, I tend to find that most guys are actually closer to their mum than dad. I know I am! If you be the best mother you can possibly be, your son will love you until the end of time.

[jam277]

1. Don't have a close relationship.
2. I see it remaining that way for the foreseeable future.

3. If she stopped being a ****, respected me and not see me as an 18 year old kid and not an adult who can now make his own important decisions instead of being policed in this cell of a home then maybe the relationship would be better.

4. I think it's half and half, if the parent can relate then yes, but when I think about it, I went to a boys school when I went through puberty, have no sisters, so I can't interact with women extremely well, including my mother. But it requires patience with my mum anyway and I've had enough.

[elldeegee]

It all depends on what happens in life i believe.