My Dream VS My Dads Dream For ME

Hi, I want to do an events management degree in canterbury, but my dad wants me to stay at home and do a photography degree in southend, what should i do, i dont want to disapoint him :confused:

Reply 1

Nirgilis

But then you don't want to disappoint yourself either. Your happiness should take priority every single time in situations like these, after all, you have to live with you and your choices. Just let your Dad know that it's your life and this is how you want to spend it!

Reply 2

Sakura-Chan

Follow your own dream, or you'll probably live to resent your dad. Doing something that you want to do is very important. University is great but it's really tough if you're trying to do something when your heart isn't in it :no:

Reply 3

Beckamia11

Original post by Beckamia11

Hi, I want to do an events management degree in canterbury, but my dad wants me to stay at home and do a photography degree in southend, what should i do, i dont want to disapoint him :confused:

I've looked into the Digital Photography and Events Management degree in chester, at warrington campus, and id really like to do it, but again my dad doesn't support me in my decision to move away from home, im really stuck :confused:

Reply 4

rbnphlp

tell him

"dad I know how you feel , you want the best for me , you want me to get a photography degree ,get good money etc .. I have heard about this dergee ,
talk abt all the good aspects of the events management degree in canterbury .. dont explain anything . just point the good facts out ..
I want to do really well , I know you want me to as well. I think Ill have a excellent time with excellent career prospects . At the end , dad however its your decision , I will do what you want me to do , after all youre the one who bought me upto here , Im not going to disagree you just for my happiness.."

To add some spice
" maybe shed a tear and give him a hug "
I reckon it will work ..
Good Luck :wink:

(edited 11 years ago)

Reply 5

Stressworthy

Ok, your dad's expressed his views on what he wants you to do... but ultimately, he'll be happy knowing that you're happy as that is, in the end, what every parent wants for their child. Even if he doesn't realise it straightaway, make sure you still stick to your gut - I forever wish I had done, but I guess even if it took me that bit longer to get there, I did in the end!

Reply 6

evening sunrise

"At the end , dad however its your decision , I will do what you want me to do , after all youre the one who bought me upto here , Im not going to disagree you just for my happiness.."

Do not concede the position as stated above.

It is your decision. End of.

As a father of 4, two of which have been through the further and higher education stage and two which still have that to come, I cannot understand your fathers position at all. In my case the only constraint I applied with the first two was "you are not applying locally and living at home". Living away and gaining independence is one of the most important aspects of the whole three years.

I certainly do not understand how anyone spends three years studying photography at uni, I do understand studying art with photography (analogue and or digital) as a primary or secondary medium. (For context. I am very keen and enter competitions, with some success, I know as friends two full time, high end professionals (not weekend wedding hacks or local rag reporters) and I know as friends two people who have graduated in photography in the last couple of years. My wife is also very keen as is our youngest daughter (13yo) who has had her own SLR outfit since she was 11.) If the youngest wants to do photography at uni I will try and persuade her not to, but I will leave the decision to her.

You are obviously ready to grow up, time for your dad to as well .......

PS. I do not understand degrees in events management either, at a fee cost of 27K, so in that sense I have some sympathy with your dad but maintain it is your decision. I have used the services of events managers many times in my career and a good one (or team of) you can trust is worth their weight in gold, but how you study it for three years at degree level is beyond me.

Reply 7

poony

Of course your decision is most important but consider the followings:

- are you getting a loan for the tuition and living allownace, if you want your dad to support you financially, you might have to give and take

- how useful is event management, I met a few events organisers and none of them did Event Management at uni. Your Chester option might be easier for your dad to swallow. Any reason he doesn't want you to leave home, financailly ?

Reply 8

Skeppy

My dads dream for me was a lawyer lol im nothing more than a two bit hustler... Uni was a waste of time

This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my HTC Wildfire S A510e

Reply 9

Aspiringlawstudent

Blimey, I wouldn't do either of those. Bit risky, isn't it?

If you're content to take the risk go ahead, but if you want to cut your own throat, don't come to me for a bandage.

Reply 10

poony

Original post by Aspiringlawstudent

Blimey, I wouldn't do either of those. Bit risky, isn't it?

If you're content to take the risk go ahead, but if you want to cut your own throat, don't come to me for a bandage.

Argh, your remarks are so frank and blunt !

Reply 11

edjunkie

Original post by evening sunrise

PS. I do not understand degrees in events management either, at a fee cost of 27K, so in that sense I have some sympathy with your dad but maintain it is your decision. I have used the services of events managers many times in my career and a good one (or team of) you can trust is worth their weight in gold, but how you study it for three years at degree level is beyond me.

As with many degrees, event management is just a basic business management course with a modules specialising in events. So many generic skills with a academic and practical applications targeted towards events. The good courses have industry placements, which on graduating will help give you the edge in the job market. For some the 3 years represent an opportunity to develop a business plan and test it and refine it until you are ready to launch it on graduation.

Golf course managment degrees, used to be a much derided degree 10 years ago, these days it has one the highest graduate employment rates.

What you end up doing in life, may have little to do with what you studied. But the self belief you develop whilst studying may help you to achieve in life.

(edited 11 years ago)

Reply 12

GEEKSruletheworld!

Original post by Beckamia11

Hi, I want to do an events management degree in canterbury, but my dad wants me to stay at home and do a photography degree in southend, what should i do, i dont want to disapoint him :confused:

Have you ever watched 'A cinderella story' ?
The same type of thing happened there with a guy called Austin. But eventually he figured he should follow his own dream and convince his dad to support him. I think that's the best advice anyway can give you. Follow what YOU believe will make your life more interesting and better.

Reply 13

Meat is Murder

Don't waste your time doing an events management degree. What does that even mean? If you want to go into that industry go get a job for an events company and work your way up whilst learning your trade. Otherwise you can do a three year degree and still have to join an events company at the bottom and work your way up.

I work at a hotel which puts events on every weekend. Last night we had a wedding. I have no qualifications to do events management, but I run events all the time. This is exactly the type of course that should be removed and it does not warrant the 'degree' qualification it has.

It is a good thing the tuition fees went up because otherwise the tax payer would be funding people like the OP to do a course which some people do in work and get paid to do it.

In answer to your question: don't listen to your dad, its your life and you need to do things for you. Also, there are people out there with real talent for photography and if your heart isn't in it then you've failed before you've even started

(edited 11 years ago)

Reply 14

jumpingjesusholycow

Follow your own dream. That's what I would do.

It's not like his idea of a life for you is spectacularly beneficial to you anyway.

Reply 15

TheSownRose

Original post by jumpingjesusholycow

Follow your own dream. That's what I would do.

It's not like his idea of a life for you is spectacularly beneficial to you anyway.

I was thinking this. When parents want children to do specific degrees, it's generally because they offer great employment prospects. There are lots of photography graduates not getting anywhere as it is...