[Really_Gonna_Rock_]

I used to get smacked sometimes if I did something wrong. Not in an abusive way, but I did get a smacked bum if I was a naughty child. Sometimes I would be sent to my room and then the parent would come up a while later and smack me, other times I would get smacked on the spot.

I don't resent this, I think my parents were just being parents really.

What about you, how were you smacked? Was it a quick on the spot smack, or was it a more organised thing where you were sent to your room and then they would come in and smack you later?

Were you smacked on your bare bum, or not? Did you cry while being hit?

I think for me, the worst thing was being shouted out, that was scary! Did you get shouted at?

[Xhotas]

If I was a little ****, I'd get smacked. I was more scared of him getting pissed off than actually smacking me, but I didn't fear him unless I really pissed him off. Depends how bad I had been really.

Kids need discipline, smacking on the bottom didn't leave you suffering from PTSD in the future but it taught you respect. If my child was being a little **** and wouldn't listen I would probably give them a smacked arse, but obviously explaining to them why I did it and made sure he/she understood why I had to do it etc. etc.

Child abuse, pfft.

[AverageExcellence]

Seems a bit harsh, sending to your room then smacking you LATER, surely you should punish a child there and then, not put it on hold lol

[Shelly_x]

On the spot, never later.

[YB101]

My parents tagged teamed it and took it in turns


On a serious note, I got the cane to the back of the knee, bum or hand with one of them wooden canes that you get from BBQ. Until I broke them all

[sucess]

in america christian parents belt their kids

but i am thankful to my parents they taught me how to behave

[Pitt1988]

Me and my brothers used to get a smacked arse off our dad if we were ever being little ****s. This ended up happening a fair bit though because there is only 4 years separating us so we used to fight all the time!

Not left me with any long term damage or psychological effects and I would probably do the same to my kids on the spot. Leaving it until later then doing it's pretty wrong!

[Formerly Helpful_C]

(Original post by Xhotas)
If I was a little ****, I'd get smacked. I was more scared of him getting pissed off than actually smacking me, but I didn't fear him unless I really pissed him off. Depends how bad I had been really.

Kids need discipline, smacking on the bottom didn't leave you suffering from PTSD in the future but it taught you respect. If my child was being a little **** and wouldn't listen I would probably give them a smacked arse, but obviously explaining to them why I did it and made sure he/she understood why I had to do it etc. etc.

Child abuse, pfft.

Shows what you know:

"Researchers say that kids who were spanked actually showed symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder."

"According to research done by the University of New Hampshire, the IQs of unspanked toddlers were on average five points higher than those of their bruised-assed peers ... even four years after the spanking took place. In fact, the more often a kid was spanked, the lower his IQ was. They also found that nations where spanking is still socially acceptable today had lower national IQs than nations that look down on it."

http://m.phys.org/_news173077612.html

[Converse Rocker]

I used to draw on the wall, and if I kept on doing, I might have gotten a little slap on the back of the legs.

I doubt it will turn me into a wife beater.

[besomebody]

I was never smacked, but I was scared of my parents. I got more... emotional types of punishment.

[fishfan01]

I remember being smacked on the bum if I'd done something naughty, such as poking my sister in the eye with a pencil, and after I'd been smacked for something I'd never do it again. It wasn't really hard, and I don't remember it really hurting, but it upset me that I knew that I'd made my parents either really upset or angry, and I think it helps children make a direct link between what they've done wrong and the fact that they really shouldn't do it.

I don't ever remember it being delayed though - there were a couple of times when I was just sent to my room and I then did something else naughty and was smacked, but I think that the immediacy is what can help children learn what is right and wrong. Making them wait for it does seem a little mean, but would probably still get the message across, I suppose.

I have a little sister who is 10 years younger than me and she is smacked far less frequently than I ever was, and not for things that I was. I only remember her being smacked once maybe twice. It does strike me as very strange how quickly attitudes have changed towards it - practically all of my friends were smacked and it doesn't seem to have affected them in any drastic way.

However, although I don't think it's particularly damaging, I don't think that I would want to smack my child just because it seems...spiteful? and rather hypocritical. I was smacked for hurting my siblings and always thought that if that was wrong then surely they shouldn't be hurting me for doing it. Though I don't have much to do with children - maybe I'll change my mind if and when I have to be in charge of them full time :L

[EGjeff]

(Original post by YB101)

On a serious note, I got the cane to the back of the knee, bum or hand with one of them wooden canes that you get from BBQ. Until I broke them all

I used to get the cane, christ it stung!

I remember snapping it in half one day as a feeble act of rebellion, all that happened was my Dad made me go out into the garden and get another suitable branch for the punishment, doh.

[EatRainbows]

My mum used to smack me but I would just tell my dad and he would shout at her then I started hitting her back and she stopped. It just made me angry so I would misbehave more and like pull curtains down/smash stuff. It did more harm than good.

[Alix23]

(Original post by Formerly Helpful_C)
Shows what you know:

"Researchers say that kids who were spanked actually showed symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder."

"According to research done by the University of New Hampshire, the IQs of unspanked toddlers were on average five points higher than those of their bruised-assed peers ... even four years after the spanking took place. In fact, the more often a kid was spanked, the lower his IQ was. They also found that nations where spanking is still socially acceptable today had lower national IQs than nations that look down on it."

http://m.phys.org/_news173077612.html

I would argue correlation over causation. eg Uneducated (IQ really isn't a fair test) parents are more likely to spank their kids. Obviosuly this isn't always true, but perhaps nationally it works?

Also they aren't specifying how hard the spanking was. As a kid I was hit occasionally, but the point of it was to scare/dissuade me, not properly hurt or bruise me.

[PinkMobilePhone]

I got a swift smack to the butt if I was really naughty yes. Clothed - not my bare bum. Deliberately making a child pull down his/her pants to get a smack seems very weird to me.

It didn't effect me in the long run, no. In fact, it never effected me longer than a few minutes after it happening.

I do the same to my three. It's not that frequent, usually they get told off, or have treats etc. taken away, before resorting to a smack. Smacks are only for REALLY serious offences. Just one swift smack to the (clothed) bum - not to hurt, just to shock the child into stopping.
None of them are terribly naughty most of the time, so like I said, it's not something that happens often.
I'm perfectly confident that I'm not causing them any horrific mental or physical anguish!

[PrismaticCore]

I think a gentle smack should really be used as a 'last resort' kind of thing, if anything.

I wouldn't say 'smacking' is the right word to use for what I got as a child...it was on the verge of full-blown domestic abuse in some cases (depending on how angry the parent was).

I guess it's made me behave well (?) but it's also made me super scared of my parents, to the point where I get in hysterics when my dad gets actually angry.

When I say a 'gentle smack' I mean maybe a light tap on the child's bum just to give them a bit of a 'nudge' and let them realise that you REALLY mean it.

[Axion]

(Original post by Really_Gonna_Rock_)
I used to get smacked sometimes if I did something wrong. Not in an abusive way, but I did get a smacked bum if I was a naughty child. Sometimes I would be sent to my room and then the parent would come up a while later and smack me, other times I would get smacked on the spot.

I don't resent this, I think my parents were just being parents really.

What about you, how were you smacked? Was it a quick on the spot smack, or was it a more organised thing where you were sent to your room and then they would come in and smack you later?

Were you smacked on your bare bum, or not? Did you cry while being hit?

I think for me, the worst thing was being shouted out, that was scary! Did you get shouted at?

reveal the suspense!

[ellakrystina]

Neither my brother nor I were ever smacked. Mum was the main child rearer and has always been very anti-violence/violent discipline as she sees it as abuse. I remember her telling me how she once smacked my brother and she just cried and cried because she felt that she'd lost control.

I can see why other parents may see it as an effective form of discipline but I personally couldn't ever see myself wanting to do it if I ever had children. Ideally I'd want to be able to explain to the child why their behaviour was wrong, and then if it was necessary, punish them in a non-violent way. However I'm sure that my attitude could change if I was to be blessed with a little ****.

[Formerly Helpful_C]

(Original post by Alix23)
I would argue correlation over causation. eg Uneducated (IQ really isn't a fair test) parents are more likely to spank their kids. Obviosuly this isn't always true, but perhaps nationally it works?

Also they aren't specifying how hard the spanking was. As a kid I was hit occasionally, but the point of it was to scare/dissuade me, not properly hurt or bruise me.

Oh, here we go. The users of this website defend science to the death, until it proves something they don't want it to.

So, despite showing symptoms of PTSD, you're going to argue 'correlation over causation'? Shock.

[Formerly Helpful_C]

(Original post by PinkMobilePhone)
I got a swift smack to the butt if I was really naughty yes. Clothed - not my bare bum. Deliberately making a child pull down his/her pants to get a smack seems very weird to me.

It didn't effect me in the long run, no. In fact, it never effected me longer than a few minutes after it happening.

I do the same to my three. It's not that frequent, usually they get told off, or have treats etc. taken away, before resorting to a smack. Smacks are only for REALLY serious offences. Just one swift smack to the (clothed) bum - not to hurt, just to shock the child into stopping.
None of them are terribly naughty most of the time, so like I said, it's not something that happens often.
I'm perfectly confident that I'm not causing them any horrific mental or physical anguish!

Nothing like deluding yourself so that you can sleep easily at night.