Well my sister recently miscarried twins and its been about 5 months but I've only been able to talk about it now. They were her first children and she unfortunately miscarried at around 3 months. My 18th birthday falls at around the time the children would be born and I wanted to do something big with my family. But I don't want to seem like I've completely forgotten about the children but my sister doesn't really talk to me about it and I don't want to upset her by asking her about them. She lives 2 and a half hours away so when we do meet we have other things to talk about. Sorry about all this but my question is what should I do for my 18th without seeming completely inconsiderate. Should I bring the children up or what?
It's best to remind her that you remember what happened, and all he emotions you feel both for her and yourself, and that you care. Remind her that it's okay if she doesn't want to talk about it, but if she ever does that you will be there for her and willing to listen. As long as she knows that it would be good. I'd then say celebrate your birthday however you wish, but I wouldn't advice a big party or anything. Whatever you do, invite her but tell her you'd understand if it's too hard for her. I'm sue she loves you very much though and is probably planning on giving you a gift or something! It's nice you care about her feelings OP, have a good birthday.