University Life & Relationships

Hey Guys!

Even don't know how to start, but actually I just registered on this website and decided to write something... I have been reading the stories here and ... very interesting sometimes.

I would like to share with you my uni life and my relationships with girls. I just finished the university undergrad honours degree. Subject: Economics. Got fantastic result overall. Very happy.

There is one thing which is sensitive for me. I am going to be 23 and actually I did not have relationships with girls at all (hope you understand what I mean). At some point I don't think that it is the end of the world, but sometimes it gets so hard to think about it :cry:

!!! I so hoped that I will be with girl while I was at uni, but uni finished and nothing. It is huge pressure to realise that I still have my V card.

I frankly speaking spent all the time studying... as it is hard to get good degree at my uni and especially in my subject I was studying. (I am not education mouse, by the way, studying 24h per day)

I did not go usually to parties... I don't smoke and drink... If I go to club sometimes I drink some cider and that is it. Guys, I am sure you think that it is not normal, but the situation is as is. I am okay and believe me I can see when girls want to speak with me and be with me - but they simply even did not come closer to me. When I start speaking with girls, they become like ...not in their place... become red... and shy.

Speaking about me...I probably need to go to gym a bit, but apart that everything is okay. Also, I am with friends too, and some of them from the elite part of the population. I am respected by everybody.

=> Writing all this, I just want to say you that I am normal :smile:

and nice.

You just can't believe me how I want to have a girlfriend... Oh my...

But I am planning to have my postgrad, so very hope will meet my girl :colondollar:

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Guys, maybe somebody is experiencing the same? It would be nice to hear what other people think.

Cheers!

Reply 1

Apple-Pi

Aww, that's a real shame. I'm only 17, starting Uni next year and I'm hoping to meet my future partner there.
Reading this has made me realise it might not happen :s-smilie:

I'm a real weird person. Extremely intoverted. I don't smoke or drink and I'm a little socially awkward which is why I'm not that great at socialising :/

I hope I don't face this problem.

Good luck anyhow!! I hope you find the girl of your dreams :biggrin:

Reply 2

jblackmoustache

17

Original post by Apple-Pi

Aww, that's a real shame. I'm only 17, starting Uni next year and I'm hoping to meet my future partner there.
Reading this has made me realise it might not happen :s-smilie:

I'm a real weird person. Extremely intoverted. I don't smoke or drink and I'm a little socially awkward which is why I'm not that great at socialising :/

I hope I don't face this problem.

Good luck anyhow!! I hope you find the girl of your dreams :biggrin:

University isn't that magical. If this is the first time you're leaving the house then Uni is a time of discovering who you are, gaining independence and on top of that gaining an education.

Reply 3

Apple-Pi

Original post by jblackmoustache

University isn't that magical. If this is the first time you're leaving the house then Uni is a time of discovering who you are, gaining independence and on top of that gaining an education.

I know University isn't magical but everybody I know that finished Uni ended up meeting their husband/wife there.
Yes it's an opportunity for self discovery. I understand that just fine thanks :smile:

Reply 4

Kayleighb16

Hey guys !

I started Uni a year ago and had been with my partner just over 8 Months at this time and when starting Uni I was like yeah it's going to be brilliant social life going out partying new friends living the student life and I can assure u now it's not like that at all .

I'm doing nursing at Napier Uni and I find my self exhausted after 40 hours at placement , juggling course work and trying to have a social life and a relationship . It's difficult .

If I CANT go out it's because I have course work.

If I DON'T go out it's because I'm too tired

WHEN I see friends it's at uni for classes

And WHEN I do see my partner it's in bed when we r sleeping .

It's not fun but if ur serious about finding a partner ull work though it all I'm sure 

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Reply 5

ClearC

OP

Hey!

Thought that my topic is out of order, but works a bit (somebody is replying).

"Apple-Pi" and others - you are saying about shame - do you think it is real shame? Personally I can't command girl do something as it is crazy I think. Do you think that I don't want having sex? Sure I want! But I morally can't have sex with somebody I don't know well. I can't go to club, be drunk and attach to any girl and after that viva la vita. I need feelings, but I haven't met any girl who will dissolve that fucin ice in me.... Sorry, for such words, but even now writing I am getting nervous. I have example, he is my friend, and he met in October 2011 a girl (I now her), and now they are happy, but I know that my friend is with her just because of the situation that he thinks will be alone later, that's it. I can go and have a sex with a girl, for me that is not a problem, but after that I will be not in myself as I will regret, thinking that girl thought I love her or smth like that.

The probably one bad side I have is that I am quite romantic..., which turns into negative results, if it's possible to say so. You know, when girls whom I know are drunk, not very much actually, then they not letting me go in any direction - in the true sense of that phrase. They start kissing, getting closer and closer, or if we are outside the building, then it can turn in very open way (you know what I mean). Sometimes after parties I am like the christmas tree.

Guys, I am really asking for your advise. What can you advise me if you were in my situation as I described everything? I am sure there are people as me and lots of them - please write something!

Also, I am a bit afraid that when I will be in pure motion, I will probably fail first time having sex, as I will be 23 soon.

Girls, the question for you, but please respond normally - what would be your reaction if you met such guy as me + virgin?

What can you advise me... what can I change in myself in order to start living fully?

Hoping for answers... :ta:

Reply 6

SuperCat007

17

Original post by Apple-Pi

Aww, that's a real shame. I'm only 17, starting Uni next year and I'm hoping to meet my future partner there.
Reading this has made me realise it might not happen :s-smilie:

I'm a real weird person. Extremely intoverted. I don't smoke or drink and I'm a little socially awkward which is why I'm not that great at socialising :/

I hope I don't face this problem.

Good luck anyhow!! I hope you find the girl of your dreams :biggrin:

Seriously, if you're going to uni for this then save the tax payers' money and don't bother. You don't go to uni to 'meet people' or 'experience life' you go for your subject and your future. The other parts are things you slot in around the studying! I admit it would be lovely to think of going to uni and meeting the person you'll be with forever (if there is such a person), but not only are you going to pin unfair hopes on people you hardly know you'll be wasting your time and energy too.

To the OP, it's not really a big deal. If you meet someone who likes you for who you are and wants to be with you it won't matter what kind of sexual experience you have. Most people boast about their sexual prowess, but quite often it's nowhere near as good as they like to think! :smile:

Reply 7

Apple-Pi

Original post by SuperCat007

Seriously, if you're going to uni for this then save the tax payers' money and don't bother. You don't go to uni to 'meet people' or 'experience life' you go for your subject and your future. The other parts are things you slot in around the studying! I admit it would be lovely to think of going to uni and meeting the person you'll be with forever (if there is such a person), but not only are you going to pin unfair hopes on people you hardly know you'll be wasting your time and energy too.

To the OP, it's not really a big deal. If you meet someone who likes you for who you are and wants to be with you it won't matter what kind of sexual experience you have. Most people boast about their sexual prowess, but quite often it's nowhere near as good as they like to think! :smile:

I'm going to Uni to study as well obviously! -.-
Would I be wanting to do Mathematics if I wasn't going to study hard and get a great result.
That idea is put to the side. My future always comes first

Reply 8

Bellissima

16

are you foreign? just curious..

Reply 9

Apple-Pi

Original post by Bellissima

are you foreign? just curious..

Me?

Reply 10

Bellissima

16

Original post by Apple-Pi

Me?

no no OP

Reply 11

lazydazy

He is foreign, you can tell from the ways he writes. Not that it's a big deal though.

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Reply 12

SuperCat007

17

Original post by Apple-Pi

I'm going to Uni to study as well obviously! -.-
Would I be wanting to do Mathematics if I wasn't going to study hard and get a great result.
That idea is put to the side. My future always comes first

Good good, that makes me feel better! So many of my friends went to uni in '07 & '08 for a good time and for reasons other than study etc. Most of them are now bitterly disappointed with their awful and/or pointless degrees and lack of any job prospects.

Good luck with maths, I'm sure you'll do really well. :smile:

Reply 13

Gibb~

1

It's hard to understand some of your descriptions as it sounded way fancy ( im not a simpleton but I thought you were almost speaking 14th centuary language.)

Yeah some advice on the virgin point, if a girl does actually get round to asking about it which is usually unlikely then just say yeah I've been waiting for the right person, if it is the right person if not you could say yeah ive been waiting for that special person but I realised recently by waiting it's not easy to find my ideal perfect women if their even is one.

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