[fuzznbass]

(Original post by SillyMilly)
Its not even that half of them pretended to like me and stabbed me in the back, they slagged me of behind my back they went out and never invited me, the would mimick me and think its funny it literally killed me and broke me and i felt so alone and ****, its only when i got out of school onto my gap year i realised that actuallly I dont need them, if they want to slag me off let them because their opinions wont stop me doing anythng in my life. I cut off all those negative people and now I onlysurrond myself with kind positive people who caare about me, if they say one cross word against me I cut them out its blunt but for once im actually happy in my own skin

Exactly, i don't bother with people male/female unless I think it truly know them

[pinkangelgirl]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Im certainly not shallow, I've got an Economics degree for christ sake, I must be reasonably intelligent. She doesnt have to be hot, ok/quire attractive is fine, I like a big booty as well

ooooohhh of course, so that automatically makes you not shallow.

cos that makes sense

[Kaykee93]

This seems like such a defeatist attitude
Yes, I'll admit that a lot of girls are too shallow and set their standards too high, but there are a few women out there that genuinely don't care about looks and prioritise the personality.
I've found that if you love someone enough, they can be very attractive to you

[llessur123]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Girls rarely approach men full stop, its maybe happened once to me. Most girls expect the men to do all that, which is fine I guess. I am in good shape, have good teeth, tall. Think its just a stage most girls go through then they grow up

Some do, if they are confident enough. It's more a case of talking to someone beside you in the bar or smoking area, not walking half way across a bar. For instance, I wouldn't usually strike up a conversation with someone I don't know, but if I find them attractive and they are near me I probably would.

[Cressida]

(Original post by SillyMilly)
I think you are just mixing with shallow girls we arnt all image obsessed, some of us actually prefer to funny, intellgient kind men to the good looking ones who think they can have any women they want

Well said.


Also OP. I am an average looking girl and I accept that my hotter friends get the guys (even the nice guys, the average guys as well as the perfect guys and the model guys pick the hot girls a lot of the time). I don't generalise all boys as strictly doing this but people cannot help being attracted to beauty, wanting to do things for beautiful women/men. It is almost normal social behaviour and there is real discrimination in their activity - why should someone look twice at me if there is a girl just as fun exciting and heaps more good looking? So don't blame them.

I would also just like to add that you ought not to get so down hearted, when you are attracted to someone, when it hits you, it often has little to do with looks. That is just initial physical attraction. Good, long term, stable relationships involve a lot more other things and other factors weigh a lot higher than looks. Your good looking friends may get more one night stands or obvious attention, bu if you are a funny, loyal, good natured guy you will get more girls in the long run.

[Lucia.]

Think of it like this.
So many people go by initial appearances.
The confident dude says "Okay so what" and charms his way into a woman's underwear. That stuff happens all the time.
Try and offer what other guys aren't offering to these women, and you'll get a look in.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Cressida)
Well said.


Also OP. I am an average looking girl and I accept that my hotter friends get the guys (even the nice guys, the average guys as well as the perfect guys and the model guys pick the hot girls a lot of the time). I don't generalise all boys as strictly doing this but people cannot help being attracted to beauty, wanting to do things for beautiful women/men. It is almost normal social behaviour and there is real discrimination in their activity - why should someone look twice at me if there is a girl just as fun exciting and heaps more good looking? So don't blame them.

I would also just like to add that you ought not to get so down hearted, when you are attracted to someone, when it hits you, it often has little to do with looks. That is just initial physical attraction. Good, long term, stable relationships involve a lot more other things and other factors weigh a lot higher than looks. Your good looking friends may get more one night stands or obvious attention, bu if you are a funny, loyal, good natured guy you will get more girls in the long run.

Yeh I suppose some of the men are as bad as the women

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Lucia.)
Think of it like this.
So many people go by initial appearances.
The confident dude says "Okay so what" and charms his way into a woman's underwear. That stuff happens all the time.
Try and offer what other guys aren't offering to these women, and you'll get a look in.

Like what though, obv I can't help how I think, perhaps Im not a creative thinker but I ahave a lot to give in the long run, i.e intelligence, charm, humour, more than a lot of guys, Im just not that witty off the cuff. For example, if a 'hot' guy were to say EXACTLY what I did with the same expression to a girl, something which isn't even funny, the girl often laughs really hard if he says it but doesn't react if I do cos he's hot so its difficult to even get an opening

[Anonymous]

(Original post by pinkangelgirl)
ooooohhh of course, so that automatically makes you not shallow.

cos that makes sense

yes cos I am quite intelligent and I couldn't just go for looks in a girl, she needs substance