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My boyfriend has got into drugs.. Do I stay in this relationship?

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    (Original post by bethany-x-)
    I said to him that I've already told him I don't feel comfortable with him doing drugs, and he said that he let me go to Ibiza ''selfishly'' without considering him, so I should let him do what he wants and do drugs every now and then....
    You are not your boyfriend's possession and he has no say over what you do, so how dare he say he 'let' you go to Ibiza and imply that had he not wanted you to go he would have stopped you? But then again you could turn that one on its head and say that you have no right to stop him taking drugs. Considering the situation, I'd say that there's little you can do here. It sounds to me like maybe he's never felt this level of 'social acceptance' before and so is doing these drugs out of fear of losing these mates of his. People laugh when they hear the term 'peer pressure' and think they're too old or self-assured for that, but you'd be surprised at how powerful and subtle it can be. You've told him what you think, and I understand that you care hugely about him, but at the end of the day he makes his decisions and if he continues to take drugs then so be it and you're going to have to decide whether you want to have a boyfriend who uses drugs or would rather be single or with someone else.
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    MDMA isn't addictive. It isn't damaging. It has a lower hard index than paracetamol, and is certainly less risky than drinking for a multitude of reasons.

    Granted, if he thinks he can't have a good night without it, then that's one thing, but I think you're being a bit overzealous about it.

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