[Gob Bluth]

Just asking for advice, not sure what i should do. I've never met his grandmother and she recently died. My mate text his best mates that it would mean so much to him if we could make it. I dunno what to think. I want to support him, and would do so comfortably as he is a very good mate. But i would feel a bit uncomfortable going to a funeral of someone i never met and never heard anything about. I would prefer to support him and talk to him about it in any other way really, but don't want to offend him by saying i don't want to/feel comfortable going. What do you guys think? Might be just thinking irrationally?

[TheSownRose]

The thing with funerals is, they're not for the dead person. They happen for the benefit of the deceased's loved ones, and it would help your friend if you were there.

[umop apisdn]

For the whole thing or the wake afterwards?

[robo donkey]

He wants you there as he considers you a close friend he can confide in and will support him through the hard times, this is one of those hard times. You should go for him, it doesn't matter if you didn't know the grandmother really, go for him.

[Jack93o]

lol creepy

[blueray]

Go.

[sarahthegemini]

Go and support him.

[Hewitt]

Go for your mate.

[hamijack]

Go, he clearly wants your support on a difficult day for him.

[MythThistle]

I would definitely go. Just a friendly face on a sad day will probably make him feel a bit better. You would feel awful if you didn't go. I think you would regret it later. I know you will feel a bit of a spare part but it's only for a couple of hours and it would mean a great deal to him.

[canŵio]

I don't see any reason why you shouldn't go - he clearly wants you there!

[skibur]

I felt the same when a mate asked me, but I realised if it brings them comfort then you should go :]

[Gob Bluth]

Ok thanks for the advice, i shall go then

[MythThistle]

(Original post by Gob Bluth)
Ok thanks for the advice, i shall go then

EXCELLENT! Good decision

[gm15]

(Original post by MythThistle)
I would definitely go. Just a friendly face on a sad day will probably make him feel a bit better. You would feel awful if you didn't go. I think you would regret it later. I know you will feel a bit of a spare part but it's only for a couple of hours and it would mean a great deal to him.

Friendly face? The friend's whole family is going to be there.

[MythThistle]

(Original post by gm15)
Friendly face? The friend's whole family is going to be there.

True. But it would still be good to have a friend there who is unrelated. He mentioned he wanted the friend to go. Family might be too upset, involved etc.. Not all family are friends. We're all just trying to make suggestions not pick holes.....

[aewart]

Go!


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[kittyb99]

I'd go. You should be there for your friend when he needs you

[Ed3003]

I'd go. Just because I know it's what I'd want as well, for some people just having a friend around is really helpful.

[ihaveyourcat]

I'm glad your going to go I'm sure it will be a rough day for your friend so it will be nice for you to be there and support him