[kopite493]

(Original post by gm15)
Friendly face? The friend's whole family is going to be there.

maybe hes like me and doesnt particularly like his family

[gm15]

(Original post by kopite493)
maybe hes like me and doesnt particularly like his family

Sorry - I didn't factor in messed up families.
Now if OP's friend didn't like his family and the dead gran was the only one he liked I'm sure OP would of said so.
But you might be right.

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[Danny.]

This reminds me of my grandfathers funeral earlier this year. My dad (only child) was expecting less than 10 people to come including 8 of our immediate family and he asked his best friend to come for support. Over 100 people ended up coming, he was humbled very emotional day.

OP- go, knowing you have someone there for support is one of the best things in the world.

[Khanem]

(Original post by Gob Bluth)
Just asking for advice, not sure what i should do. I've never met his grandmother and she recently died. My mate text his best mates that it would mean so much to him if we could make it. I dunno what to think. I want to support him, and would do so comfortably as he is a very good mate. But i would feel a bit uncomfortable going to a funeral of someone i never met and never heard anything about. I would prefer to support him and talk to him about it in any other way really, but don't want to offend him by saying i don't want to/feel comfortable going. What do you guys think? Might be just thinking irrationally?

He's your friend; just go for it. Like you said, it'll mean soooo much to him.

[Gob Bluth]

(Original post by Khanem)
He's your friend; just go for it. Like you said, it'll mean soooo much to him.

Yeah i did go, glad i did too. Don't know why i considered not to, felt natural being there helping him

[MythThistle]

(Original post by Gob Bluth)
Yeah i did go, glad i did too. Don't know why i considered not to, felt natural being there helping him

Brilliant. Pleased it all worked out.

[Khanem]

(Original post by Gob Bluth)
Yeah i did go, glad i did too. Don't know why i considered not to, felt natural being there helping him

Good good.

[Rant]

Are people these days really so selfish that they need to ASK if they should do these sorts of things?

[Gob Bluth]

(Original post by Rant)
Are people these days really so selfish that they need to ASK if they should do these sorts of things?

Did you not read the post description. I said i wasn't sure if i felt comfortable. It didn't matter ultimately, it felt natural.. So **** off.

[philistine]

(Original post by TheSownRose)
The thing with funerals is, they're not for the dead person. They happen for the benefit of the deceased's loved ones, and it would help your friend if you were there.

Precisely this. I attended a friend's father's funeral last year, and I had only met him once, about three years prior. Once.

[Rant]

(Original post by Gob Bluth)
Did you not read the post description. I said i wasn't sure if i felt comfortable. It didn't matter ultimately, it felt natural.. So **** off.

So now you're acting like you did a good deed or something, right? Instead of just being a reasonable human being.

[Gob Bluth]

(Original post by Rant)
So now you're acting like you did a good deed or something, right? Instead of just being a reasonable human being.

Oh so you're trying to troll.

[madders94]

You did the right thing OP, I met my friend's dad once and when he died when we were in Year 9, another friend - who I'm not friends with anymore - and I were asked to go to the funeral, I wasn't sure because I'd only met him once but realized that she wanted someone there who was there for her - her family were consumed in their own grief. The other friend had met our friend's dad three times but said she didn't want to go because she "doesn't like funerals". Yeah, because people who do go to funerals love them

Hope it went ok and I hope your friend is alright OP

[Emaemmaemily]

Funerals are more for the benefit of the loved ones who are grieving the loss of someone, not for the person who died. He probably feels that he really needs friends around him to get through it, and I think you should definitely consider going. Just being there would probably mean a lot to him, you don't have to DO anything as such.

Edit: definitely should have finished reading the whole thread. You've already decided to go, well done