[PQ]

(Original post by TenOfThem)
Thanks for the chat

I am sure that it will all come out in the wash

It's nice that you're happy for her to take her time.

It might help her make up her mind if you convinced her to start working on her shortlist of choices and Personal Statement for all of the options that she's interested in. Because the PS is all about trying to articulate why you want to study a specific subject and which areas are of interest and why it's a useful way to start narrowing down things. It might also start to air up where the similarities are what she is interested in (which could make producing a PS/application to a mixture of courses a viable option).

Plus if she can put together her PS and choices now she can change her mind right up until she submits her application (which can wait until January - don't believe the rumours that early applicants have it easier, it's a complete myth).

Another idea that might help her to figure things out would be to encourage her to contact admissions tutors for her chosen courses/universities about the course content and more details around what is taught, when and how. Plus building a relationship of some sort BEFORE applying with admissions staff IS a major benefit.

Finally - in September the Key Information Sets for every course will be published covering information on the type of teaching, types of assessment, student satisfaction and graduate employment. Again these might help inform whether she feels like she would enjoy each course.

I would suggest maybe attending a couple more open days in September - visiting 5 and applying to those 5 might mean that she isn't making as informed a choice as she thinks - ie if she hasn't been somewhere she HATES yet then it's sometimes hard to pin down what it is that you LIKE.

I'd also urge a little caution (from experience) I picked a university because I had a lovely day at my interview. It was a brilliant place to visit but it turned out not to be a place that I was happy living. Repeat visits and visits with more emphasis on LIVING over studying are always worthwhile (I'd recommend trying to arrange staying over in halls or encouraging her (difficult as it may be) to go on her own).

You remind me of my own mum who was brilliantly supportive when I applied to uni and brilliantly supportive when I realised I made a mistake and restarted elsewhere. In retrospect making that mistake and then finding the motivation to correct it was the best thing I've ever done - it was the point where I really started to feel like an adult and take ownership of my life and decisions.

[TenOfThem]

(Original post by PQ)
It's nice that you're happy for her to take her time.

Thanks for taking the time to post

She has written PSs for the main 2 choices and has some reading around the third one for the summer

She is off to Africa later this week to do 3 weeks charity work ... I am guessing that she will return a changed girl anyway ... so we will see

Thanks again

[toxicdreams16]

i was one of these indesisive people .
first i wanted to study music production,then media production, then somthing to do with animals( as i have worked with them before). i then found television and video production .

then came the deciding what uni i wanted to go to

i kept switching between two.

i know my parents were like you they didnt mind what i did aslong as i was happy. but i know me not being able to make a desision annoyed them a bit.

i think every parent can relate to you

[megfashion]

yep, im one of those people. i was stuck on doing english, then went to an open day, hated the talk, didnt say anything.
then decided psychology looked ok.

now im on psychology and/with philosophy (by the way, keele does BPS accredited everything with psychology)

it just takes time. i knew that i wanted to do a pschology degree because i couldnt think of NOT doing it, if that makes sense.

maybe try saying "ok so what would you rule out?"

i know its hard trying to be supportive and helpful but not seem as if you are making the choices. mum on several occasions has said "if you dont like it, dont worry" or "i wont say my opinion as its your opinion that matters" n bladablah :P



with results, definately dont worry. an E is better than a U! plus, you can say you are retaking on the form, so the grade would come up as "pending" (please dont quote me on that though. thats what my boyfriend said he could do, and he has jst finished his first year at uni)

hope all goes well

[TenOfThem]

Thanks for the replies