[Anonymous]

Dear all,

I fear my ex, who I have very recently sadly broken up with, but still live with currently - is self harming. She has a history of doing this, albeit not most of the time we have been together as far as i am aware apart from one occasion after a massive argument a couple of years ago. Today, i found a pen-knife on her bedside table. I will of course urge her to see a doctor/mental health practitioner, and i tried to ring Mind to get their advice, but the helpline is closed. We are not on good speaking terms - i had gone into the room to get some clothes whilst they were out (with their permission) and spotted it. My ex been very very upset today, i think finally realising that it is over between us. I take it i should just leave the pen-knife there as if she wants to self harm, she will find a (maybe worse) way to do it anyway? Any advice appreciated.

[bytail]

Give this page a read if you haven't already, and give Mind another call on Monday if you want some advice on how to handle the situation (you could also try the samaritans or NHS direct, although I'm not sure how much help they'd be able to offer you). Taking the knife away wouldn't necessarily stop her, no. In the meantime, it might be a good idea to ask her if she's cutting herself in a non-confrontational manner, and make sure she's keeping the cuts clean so that she doesn't risk getting an infection. If you become seriously worried for her safety then try and take her to A&E where they'll be able to keep an eye on her. Good luck