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(Original post by chriscahill9)
Yeah, I mean don't get me wrong I've never got my hair cut or styled in a certain way to please anyone and I've had girlfriends, etc I was just asking as a point of interest really.

I said in an above post that what also has to be taken in to account is that this girl is Spanish so culturally it is very rare to see a guy with such short hair.

Yeah, I guess it can change things. My friend still teases me about an incident where I sent her an enthusiastic and emotional text (with lots of exclamation marks) when a guy we know got his hair cut fairly short.

I suppose you've got a point, if she's not used to seeing guys with really short hair it'll be kinda weird for her. Like if I suddenly found myself in a room full of guys with goatees.

[Nick Longjohnson]

Hair matters a lot more than you'd think.

Keep it clean and well styled. It says a lot about you.

[Nick Longjohnson]

(Original post by thisisnew)
I wouldn't say it's 'shallow' to find somebody less attractive if they grow/cut their hair or facial hair etc. It makes quite a big difference and come on, we're all human here, let's not pretend we all just look at a persons personality.

Assuming she did like you before, having your hair cut that short might just be putting her off you. If I saw a girl with a short haircut or some equivalent, it'd go a long way towards putting me off them and I wouldn't say that's shallow, it's just preference.

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(Original post by IlexBlue)
To be fair, looks are relatively important in the early attraction stage... because that's what it's really all about. Attraction. So if someone goes for a drastic cut (not a couple of inches or something light) that really changes their appearance from the one they were initially attracted to, it's kind of natural to be a bit put off. If you're in a relationship and love them for who they are but then get put off just because of a haircut though, then that's pretty shallow.

Think about the Emma Watson pixie cut incident and the resulting reactions of her male admirers.

Men and women differ when it comes to attraction though. Looks are a much bigger deal-breaker for men than for women.

[katyness]

Yes, depending how bad he looks afterwards.

[Nucleolus]

Yes; Sergio Ramos is a case in point:

From this


to this.

[Nav_Mallhi]

(Original post by .Scout.)
Actually I take it back, I think if a guy got a really bad hair cut that didn't suit him, I certainly would be put off. For example, if a guy decided to channel his inner Friar Tuck or got a 90's boyband inspired hair do, I would cringe. But obviously, that's unlikely to happen. As long as a guy is well presented and the hair suits him, I don't see why my attraction towards the guy would change.

You said that you like your short hair, so that's surely all that matters. If she doesn't like it then so what?


I quite like the bald look on some guys I never used to but recently I've seen quite a few really hot guys who've really rocked this look. None of my friends agree though!

Oh just realised I spelled bald wrong haha! Really you found some bald guys attractive? I wish I came across some like that!

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(Original post by chriscahill9)
Yeah, basically there is this girl at my university who I have been doing some Spanish lessons with, and in return I help her improve her English, because I've always wanted to learn another language and obv. uni is a great opportunity for that.

It also happens to be that this girl is really hot as well. Even though I can't prove anything and nothing has happened between us I think there is a mutual attraction there as well.

When I first met this girl and for the first 3 weeks or so I was seeing her my hair was longer than I normally had it before. I have never actually had it long but it's just that normally I get it cut very short so for me it is.

Because this girl is Spanish it is in her culture that you hug a boy and let him kiss you on both cheeks as a greeting. I noticed however, that when I got a haircut and my hair was really short the next time I saw her she didn't do anything but say hi.

This was a recurring pattern I noticed and I'd never been rude or said anything wrong to her so I figured it could have only been this. I asked my friend and he said its because most guys in Spain don't get their hair really short like I do (I get basically a buzz cut but just with more hair on the top) and so it's not in their culture.

So girls, I'm interested, would whether a boy gets his hair cut long, short, etc actually influence that much whether you find him attractive or not?


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Spanish senorita....nice, good on you, very sexy. So yeah, I think it would be pretty shallow to judge you based on a haircut. This is going to be controversial but maybe she didn't speak much to you the first time you had your hair cut as she may have been moody (for reasons you can prob guess), maybe that got in your head and you didn't speak to her much next time cos you thought she didn't like you as much with your haircut so Im not sure. We can't possibly tell you whether you look better with different hair without photos.

[Leahcar]

I find longer hair more attractive too, but if a guy got his hair cut it wouldn't bother me. It would be a wee shame, obviously, but I would probably still be attracted to him. Hair can grow, and I'd obviously be attracted to his personality too for me to be thinking about him in that way... she'd have to be incredibly shallow to completely go off you just for cutting your hair!

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(Original post by chriscahill9)
Interesting. Like I said I don't let my hair get really long or anything just normal or a bit more. A lot of people have said that they like my hair because it's dark brown and quite wavy and a lot of people say it looks nice but I do really like myself with short hair.

Additionally I think some people really are shallow enough to stop liking someone because of their hair. Spanish people particularly (and this is true not xenophobic, etc) are known being particulary aesthetically orientated.

Even if we were to pretend that's actually true, Spanish people kiss each other as a greeting - not a display of how attractive they find you...

[Above.The.Empyrean]

As long as the bristle of hair isn't salient from your ears...

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(Original post by hiding12)
Spanish senorita....nice, good on you, very sexy. So yeah, I think it would be pretty shallow to judge you based on a haircut. This is going to be controversial but maybe she didn't speak much to you the first time you had your hair cut as she may have been moody (for reasons you can prob guess), maybe that got in your head and you didn't speak to her much next time cos you thought she didn't like you as much with your haircut so Im not sure. We can't possibly tell you whether you look better with different hair without photos.

Yeah, I get what you're saying, and if this had only happened once then I would accept that 100% as the reason.

However I have noticed that this is a recurring pattern with her that when my hair is longer she does greet me properly and when it is really short she doesn't. In addition because I'm confident that my hair looks good short I still am the same to her whatever happens. I also didn't realize all of this until I spoke to my friend about it after the last time I saw her.

I know I can't be 100% and maybe I'll never know for sure but it's just I've never done anything particularly rude/bad, etc to her and also we've flirted before so those things also have to be taken in to account.

[Kage]

I think guys are more prone to finding a girl less/more attractive because of a hair cut.
It's not exactly shallow, because hair is quite a lot of a persons overall look.

[hiding12]

(Original post by chriscahill9)
Yeah, I get what you're saying, and if this had only happened once then I would accept that 100% as the reason.

However I have noticed that this is a recurring pattern with her that when my hair is longer she does greet me properly and when it is really short she doesn't. In addition because I'm confident that my hair looks good short I still am the same to her whatever happens. I also didn't realize all of this until I spoke to my friend about it after the last time I saw her.

I know I can't be 100% and maybe I'll never know for sure but it's just I've never done anything particularly rude/bad, etc to her and also we've flirted before so those things also have to be taken in to account.

It seems pretty shallow of her, maybe ask for her honest opinion subtly what she thinks looks better?

[Eva_UK]

There's this guy I know and he has long hair! Urghhh he would be so much fitter if he cut it!


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(Original post by hiding12)
It seems pretty shallow of her, maybe ask for her honest opinion subtly what she thinks looks better?

Yeah, I probably will if I see her again. I think the reason might be is because when I get my hair cut short I get that kind of 'gangster' style where the sides are pointed and faded in and it's neat all over.

It looks good on me and I really like it but what I've found interesting is the impact that something seemingly small like a haircut has on other people's perceptions of you.

For example, I'm not the type of guy at all who gets in to fights or starts trouble but a lot of people look intimidated by me when I'm out because of the style of my haircut and on the tube no one even looks at me lol.

I'm just purely guessing here but maybe the reason this girl is put off by my hair when it's like that is not only simply because of attractiveness but because the image it gives off of me as the type of person I am is not the type of guy she likes.

Obviously I can't know without asking her in some way, but it's just a guess. Additionally her friend who I met when my hair was longer I saw again one other time on the day I'd had a haircut also seemed put off by it and she is Spanish as well, so that's why I thought it was possibly to do with Spanish culture.

[boba]

if I really liked someone it wouldn't change how I felt about them but if I was just at the stage of finding them attractive/ kind of liking them a bit then yes it could.

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(Original post by thisisnew)
If I saw a girl with a short haircut or some equivalent, it'd go a long way towards putting me off them and I wouldn't say that's shallow, it's just preference.

No, it's just shallow.

[Classical Liberal]

Hair definitely shapes how your face looks generally. I always look better with my fringe kinda up, it makes my face look much sexier.

[thisisnew]

(Original post by Mequa)
No, it's just shallow.

If that's shallow then everybody is shallow because when it comes to physical attraction, everybody has a preference, including you and because of that preference, you will find that certain things make you find a person more or less attractive. Oh boy, must mean you're a terribly superficial person too unless you want to try and stupidly claim that you only care about a persons personality.

And if you want to be pedantic and try to pick at the fact that I said a certain kind of hair cut would go 'a long way' in putting me off of a girl - so what? There's no universal value placed on hair in terms of attraction and the people who aren't so bothered by a persons hair will probably find different things go a 'long way' in putting them off somebody, things somebody who bothers about hair wouldn't necessarily be bothered about.

We're all human here, leave your faux morals at the door.