What do you do when your parents don't support that you want to be educated?

I'm 22 years old but I don't look it yet. I come from a family that do not support the fact that I wanted to be educated. They keep telling me to just get an ordinary job and work my way up. I went to university and didn't do as well as I should have done. But I did well in the first two years. The last year I kept going home and I believe this is where I went wrong. Being around my family and the negativity had an impact on me. I also realised that when I do well, my family take credit and believe that it is because of them that I have done well.
Now that I have come out of university, I realised the only time I ever did well was when I supported myself emotionally and mentally to get through things. Therefore, all that I have achieved came from me.
I've spoken to my lecturers and professors at university and they said that if I wasn't happy with what I'd received, then by all means return and finish it off, otherwise I will regret it.
Part of me feels unfinished and unsatisfied, but I'm not sure if whether it's a case of me no 'accepting it' and having a hard time 'letting go'. My family keep saying, 'You had your chance and you messed it up.' Sometimes I feel that they don't want me to do well so I will get a rubbish local job and stay at home. That way it is cheaper for them, and an advantage because they can use me to help around with things. They also keep stating, 'Going back to university is useless because an employer wouldn't tolerate the fact that you did go back to improve your marks.'

Sorry for the long post. Is there anybody who could provide some insight?

I'm 22 years old but I don't look it yet. I come from a family that do not support the fact that I wanted to be educated. They keep telling me to just get an ordinary job and work my way up. I went to university and didn't do as well as I should have done. But I did well in the first two years. The last year I kept going home and I believe this is where I went wrong. Being around my family and the negativity had an impact on me. I also realised that when I do well, my family take credit and believe that it is because of them that I have done well.
Now that I have come out of university, I realised the only time I ever did well was when I supported myself emotionally and mentally to get through things. Therefore, all that I have achieved came from me.
I've spoken to my lecturers and professors at university and they said that if I wasn't happy with what I'd received, then by all means return and finish it off, otherwise I will regret it.
Part of me feels unfinished and unsatisfied, but I'm not sure if whether it's a case of me no 'accepting it' and having a hard time 'letting go'. My family keep saying, 'You had your chance and you messed it up.' Sometimes I feel that they don't want me to do well so I will get a rubbish local job and stay at home. That way it is cheaper for them, and an advantage because they can use me to help around with things. They also keep stating, 'Going back to university is useless because an employer wouldn't tolerate the fact that you did go back to improve your marks.'

Sorry for the long post. Is there anybody who could provide some insight?

You're old enough to make your own decisions now, so do what is best for yourself. I'm the same age and I've already done a degree but it hasn't sent me down a career I'm happy in, so I'm starting a second degree in September! I'm funding it by myself, as my parents helped me through the first degree, but I'm now fully independent from them financially so doing this by myself. Maybe if you do the same and finish your degree on your own back it would make you feel more in control? Hope it all works out for you.

I'm 22 years old but I don't look it yet. I come from a family that do not support the fact that I wanted to be educated. They keep telling me to just get an ordinary job and work my way up. I went to university and didn't do as well as I should have done. But I did well in the first two years. The last year I kept going home and I believe this is where I went wrong. Being around my family and the negativity had an impact on me. I also realised that when I do well, my family take credit and believe that it is because of them that I have done well.
Now that I have come out of university, I realised the only time I ever did well was when I supported myself emotionally and mentally to get through things. Therefore, all that I have achieved came from me.
I've spoken to my lecturers and professors at university and they said that if I wasn't happy with what I'd received, then by all means return and finish it off, otherwise I will regret it.
Part of me feels unfinished and unsatisfied, but I'm not sure if whether it's a case of me no 'accepting it' and having a hard time 'letting go'. My family keep saying, 'You had your chance and you messed it up.' Sometimes I feel that they don't want me to do well so I will get a rubbish local job and stay at home. That way it is cheaper for them, and an advantage because they can use me to help around with things. They also keep stating, 'Going back to university is useless because an employer wouldn't tolerate the fact that you did go back to improve your marks.'

Sorry for the long post. Is there anybody who could provide some insight?

May I ask what type of background do you guys comes from?

These situations are kinda similar to a freind I had to put bluntly, was a chav..... His parents laughed at him and called him a geek when he said he wanted to go uni etc...

Unfortunatly, he is now doing bricklaying and is a lost soul

In my very bias opinion, I think you should stay with your education, and stick with your own plans.

But something amiss here, have you graduated or you need to resit some papers? I'm missing something...





How do you mean he's a lost soul? Breaks my heart hearing that : ( And his parents suck! :/

But hey, who knows, maybe he'll build his own bricklaying company and will be better than other Uni graduates

Is he a good guy/friend?