[Anonymous]

Hi, I am quite worried about my friend's behaviour since exams finished. He i very hard working and has achieved high 2:1s and firsts consistently during his degree and is somewhat shy and reserved I would say. He is gay but not promiscuous or anything and has only had a few bfs in the past.

Since exams finished and he stayed in our university town over the summer, working, he has kind of gone off the rails. His drinking for one has gone out of control - not in that hes going partying necessarily but he is going on dates with different people maybe four or five times a week and gets home really late from them. He even told me he was worried about his drinking but says he enjoys the dates a lot and that they're cute and it's nice to meet new people and have a good conversation - yeh right!

I think he's doing it out of boredom and loneliness more than anything, but I am concerned for his health and where he is going - he seems to have changed a lot in a very short space of time to the extent I'd say he has become very shallow and flighty - none of these dates become a second date. He told me that he met three different people for drinks in the space of one evening (!) - to me that seems like quite sad behviour really, why not just meet a mate for a pint?

Is this normal behaviour for the summer holidays or dating in general? I think he is out of control personally and it's sad because I don't feel we have much in common anymore.

[Joeman560]

Let him have his fun.