[x-Ruby-x]

I am just curious as to how many people these days are willing/planning to wait until sex for marriage.

Also, if you don't mind posting a sentence explaining why you have chosen what you have.

[SarahJohnson13]

I think that if you are in a loving and committed relationship with someone,who you intend to spend your future with, then it's okay- because you are giving them that gift as a sign you love them and want to be with them. On the other hand, if you are with someone who you don't love, or promiscuous with lots of different people, then it is wrong. I'm catholic and I always thought that people should wait until marriage, but since having a boyfriend for 3 years and knowing that we will be together, my opinion has changed.


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[x-Ruby-x]

(Original post by SarahJohnson13)
I think that if you are in a loving and committed relationship with someone,who you intend to spend your future with, then it's okay- because you are giving them that gift as a sign you love them and want to be with them. On the other hand, if you are with someone who you don't love, or promiscuous with lots of different people, then it is wrong. I'm catholic and I always thought that people should wait until marriage, but since having a boyfriend for 3 years and knowing that we will be together, my opinion has changed.


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This seems to happen with a lot of people, and I can personally imagine being in this situation. If you don't mind me asking, how long did you wait within the 3 years?

[SarahJohnson13]

We waited 2 years, that's how I know it was right and that he didn't just want me for sex. Also during that two years we never felt like there was anything missing, so yeah, I think if it feels right then it's right!


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[Pen Island]

Sex is a big part of a relationship - in my opinion sex before marriage is a good thing because well, what if you got married and turned out to be sexually incompatible? Would suck...
I don't think there's anything wrong with having sex early on in a relationship (I personally only waited 2 months though I have known him for nearly 3 years) but I think you do need to really know the person and trust them before you do.
Just do what's right for you I guess!

[Dirac Delta Function]

(Original post by SarahJohnson13)
We waited 2 years, that's how I know it was right and that he didn't just want me for sex. Also during that two years we never felt like there was anything missing, so yeah, I think if it feels right then it's right!


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how did you wait 2 years? I have to respect that level of self-control.

[Lucia.]

It's good to try before you buy.

[MasterJomi]

I'm very much sex before a relationship, let alone sex before marriage. So no.

[jtnf]

What's wrong with having sex before marriage? As long as you're both consenting adults and are safe, then I don't see any problem.

Like has been said above, try before you buy.

[SarahJohnson13]

(Original post by Dirac Delta Function)
how did you wait 2 years? I have to respect that level of self-control.

I don't know really, I guess there's more to a relationship than that, just got on with building the foundations for a strong relationship in that time! we did talk about it over that time span, and we both just said that we will do it when the time is right; so glad I didn't rush into it!


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[Foo.mp3]

Sex happens

[iheartplums]

(Original post by MasterJomi)
I'm very much sex before a relationship, let alone sex before marriage. So no.

(Original post by Lucia.)
It's good to try before you buy.

(Original post by jtnf)
What's wrong with having sex before marriage? As long as you're both consenting adults and are safe, then I don't see any problem.

Like has been said above, try before you buy.

Y'all going hell!

lol jk :P

Most peeps wouldn't buy a car without taking in it for a test drive first

[forgetamine]

I never understood what's the point in waiting until marriage, so no.

[x-Ruby-x]

It's very interesting that going by the poll, 69% of females are not willing to wait, compared to 63% of males!!

Having said that, the sample is not large enough for me to draw any valid conclusions yet

[PinkMobilePhone]

I was 16 weeks pregnant on my wedding day...

[misst911]

I think it's an important part of a relationship. If you love someone, what difference does marriage make?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I have slept with 3 guys. 2 of them I slept with within about 1-2 months of the relationship and they both failed miserably not long after.
With my other relationship, we waited 4 years! It was perfect and although in the end long distance pulled us apart, we're still great friends and I have nothing but good memories of our time together.
Sex isn't everything, a good relationship is based on strong emotional bonds. If they are rubbish in bed it give a chance to teach them
I'd be willing to wait another 4 years to have that connection again with a guy. So waiting until marriage would be fine if I fell in love.

[Sakura-Chan]

I think sex is one of those things that can really make or break a relationship.

I wouldn't wait until marriage, I'm not religious, and I really don't see the point in it. I'd much rather know the other person inside and out, in every way, and be sure that they were what I really wanted before committing to them for the foreseeable future.

[Anonymous]

Female: I would not be willing to wait until marriage.

This is not at all because I have a "try before you buy" attitude or I think sex will make or break a relationship. And I don't care about having sexual experience with many different people. My bf and I are each other's first and I would be perfectly happy to marry him.

Rather my attitude is just that it is something fun, loving and moreover innocent of any guilt or wrongdoing to do together if you both want to.

Therefore I see no reason to wait and the whole attitude behind deliberately waiting is something totally opposite to my own views about sex, and romance and love. It's angsty, and weird, and idolises virginity / scandalises sexual activity in a way I don't find healthy.

Additionally, people who don't have sex before marriage either:
- Needlessly miss out on the fun, intimacy, and orgasms of sex for many years!
- Or get married much faster than I would choose to

[BethaneyJ]

I don't think having sex straight away is right. You should wait until you've been together long enough and the trust is there. However if you haven't had sex and you get married you have no idea about what your sex life will be like and that can be a huge part ( ) of your relationship. It's too important to leave to chance until after marriage.

Unless you have a religious belief of course that means waiting is more important to you then I guess you should wait!