[Anonymous]

I am 18 and my ex left me a few motnhs ago after a really long relationsihp after years for a guy that was just no good for her at all. She broke my heart and I begged and pleaded and she really hurt me knowing how much I was in love with her.

I was broken, but eventually picked myself up and turned my life around into something amazing.

Yesterday she contacted me saying how the biggest mistake of her life was losing me, begging and pleading she asked if we could even try being friends and what the likelihood of us getting back together were.

I told her that they are about as likely as her being able to turn up on my doorstep with my favourite pizza, chocolates and be willing to apologise within 5 minutes. She never text back so I thought she got the message that it just wasn't going to happen.

10 minutes later she is at my door, pizza and chocolate in hand. This is no joke. Not sure if I could believe it I was heart warmed by her face that she always used to do after she said she loved me. But then I imagined that guys face and them together and I don't know what come over me and my mother still won't speak to me but I just said,

"Is that pizza?" I took it, took a bite, said "It tastes delicious" and for some reason, like in the film 50/50 I just said "Now get the **** off my driveway." and shut the door.

I'm so ashamed and feel so bad, but I felt so angry, I don't want to apologies to her, she doesn't deserve it, but I feel bad for humiliating her, any advice on what to do?

[Ciaran88]

lol, so cold. She left you before starting anything with this guy so she showed respect for you, you should have shown respect for her. You don't have to want to get back together with her but she seemingly feels strongly about you and that was more than most girls would do, so I would at least apologise and explain you were just hurt etc. I have to admire her to be honest, and from what you've said this girl hasn't done anything anything wrong.

It's a shame she hadn't cheated on you and deserved it because you'd be my hero of the day after that stunt

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Ciaran88)
lol, so cold. She left you before starting anything with this guy so she showed respect for you, you should have shown respect for her. You don't have to want to get back together with her but she seemingly feels strongly about you and that was more than most girls would do, so I would at least apologise and explain you were just hurt etc.

It's a shame she hadn't cheated on you and deserved it because you'd be my hero of the day after that stunt

She told me he was gay, they'd spent many a days out together towards the end of our relationship, if they didn't make physical contact, which they probably did, that still in my eyes is pretty low.

[LickOfPaint]

I would've have given it another try.
I mean, what have you got to lose?

But oh well. Life will have to move on for you now. Get your **** together and focus on your goals.

[Ciaran88]

(Original post by Anonymous)
She told me he was gay, they'd spent many a days out together towards the end of our relationship, if they didn't make physical contact, which they probably did, that still in my eyes is pretty low.

She lied that he was gay and went on days out together? Ok that's pretty low, but in the great karmic wheel I don't think it warrants such a brutal humiliation. Don't get me wrong, sometimes it's called for, but in this case definitely not and her doing all that and turning up at your door is a damn nice gesture; she earned heart to heart chat at the very least.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Ciaran88)
She lied that he was gay and went on days out together? Ok that's pretty low, but in the great karmic wheel I don't think it warrants such a brutal humiliation. Don't get me wrong, sometimes it's called for, but in this case definitely not and her doing all that and turning up at your door is a damn nice gesture; she earned heart to heart chat at the very least.

Okay, I suppose you have a point, but I just saw red, I guess I'll apologise, very bluntly, but make the effort nontheless.

I just don't know, she humiliated me by going with that guy, I just thought I'd feel satisfied to get her back but now I just feel meh.

[Ciaran88]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Okay, I suppose you have a point, but I just saw red, I guess I'll apologise, very bluntly, but make the effort nontheless.

I just don't know, she humiliated me by going with that guy, I just thought I'd feel satisfied to get her back but now I just feel meh.

She didn't do anything wrong by leaving you going out with somebody else, you can be pissed off, you can think she made a mistake, but it's not breaking any rules. You don't have to get back together with her but her actions warrant sympathy at least.

[Lucia.]

I agree. She feels that she wants to talk with you. At least give her that opportunity. She didn't say she wanted to get back together. She understands that you feel hurt. Do the decent thing and apologise to her. Get on the phone right now.

[Rosie1422]

Personally, although it was a bit harsh, I still think you had reasons for doing it and she showed up of her own accord with no guarantees from you that it would lead to a positive encounter. Yeah, she made a gesture based off what you said but had she done the same thing out of the blue, it would amount to, "Hi, sorry I broke your heart and left you for someone else, but I brought you pizza so all's forgiven, right?" She needs to realise that you can't buy back trust with takeaways. Granted, she didn't technically do anything wrong by leaving you for someone else, but she did wrong you, in a sense, by deciding that someone else was better and then when it didn't work out, she turns up at your door with food thinking that makes up for it.

If she understands that you are hurt by her actions, then she'll know why you did what you did. You don't owe her niceties just because she made a gesture, it's just up to you if you want to grant her that. If you want to, then apologise for what you did but explain why you did it and then decide what you want to do from there.

[Joeman560]

LMAO

[MancBoy]

Don't apologize. Just leave it now and forget about her. If you phone her now it'll make yourself look really silly. She deserves it a little bit tbh.

[jam277]

(Original post by MancBoy)
Don't apologize. Just leave it now and forget about her. If you phone her now it'll make yourself look really silly. She deserves it a little bit tbh.

Well, he could at least admit he went overboard if he genuinely feels bad about it, which he kinda did.

[Classical Liberal]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm so ashamed and feel so bad, but I felt so angry, I don't want to apologies to her, she doesn't deserve it, but I feel bad for humiliating her, any advice on what to do?

Say this to her.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by MancBoy)
Don't apologize. Just leave it now and forget about her. If you phone her now it'll make yourself look really silly. She deserves it a little bit tbh.

(Original post by Rosie1422)
Personally, although it was a bit harsh, I still think you had reasons for doing it and she showed up of her own accord with no guarantees from you that it would lead to a positive encounter. Yeah, she made a gesture based off what you said but had she done the same thing out of the blue, it would amount to, "Hi, sorry I broke your heart and left you for someone else, but I brought you pizza so all's forgiven, right?" She needs to realise that you can't buy back trust with takeaways. Granted, she didn't technically do anything wrong by leaving you for someone else, but she did wrong you, in a sense, by deciding that someone else was better and then when it didn't work out, she turns up at your door with food thinking that makes up for it.

If she understands that you are hurt by her actions, then she'll know why you did what you did. You don't owe her niceties just because she made a gesture, it's just up to you if you want to grant her that. If you want to, then apologise for what you did but explain why you did it and then decide what you want to do from there.

Thank you, this is what I thought. This was my logical thought process but everybody is telling me it was a bit harsh.

I think I'm not going to say anything, she can live with it, as harsh as it sounds.

(Original post by Classical Liberal)
Say this to her.

Although it's obvious and sounds a bit stupid I don't want to openly admit how much she hurt me.

[Classical Liberal]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Although it's obvious and sounds a bit stupid I don't want to openly admit how much she hurt me.

You have already done that implicitly.

[Lucia.]

Set down your pride so can work this out with her.

[Mad Cat Lady]

Personally I would've done pretty much the same thing, except I'd have taken the chocolate and pizza off her before shutting the door. Free food!

But seriously though, it seems like she was just crawling back to whoever she thought was most likely to take her back after her last unsuccessful relationship, but you had given her the opportunity to come back to you and she had missed it and you had moved on, you'd made that clear to her and she didn't get the picture, so maybe being rude to her was kinda necessary for her to understand. Might be an idea to apologise at some point though, that musta hurt.

[TruetoMyself]

Call her back. Apologise. Tell her to come around and bring the pizza. Grab the remainder of the Pizza

[Schmucks]

So from that text, she managed to order your favourite pizza, have it cooked, get it collected and bring it to your house (along with chocolates) in ten minutes? Really?

[Eponym]

Assuming that this is true. LMFAO!!!! You are COLD! First of all you need to apologize. If you didn't think that was the right course of action you wouldn't be on here ranting to a bunch of strangers. Also I do believe that even if you are hurting, as a man you should keep your ego in check. Call her and apologize, not just for her but for yourself before you ask some woman to marry you and she says, "Get the **** out of my face". Karma is a Biotch mate!