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How many is too many?

How many sexual partners is too many for a 19 yr old girl?
I know there is no average - wrong or right, etc. but at what number would you start thinking "that's quite a lot" at?

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Reply 1

Casino Blazers

In terms of age average, there's no average.

Reply 2

Grey_Fox

Original post by Anonymous

How many sexual partners is too many for a 19 yr old girl?

Original post by Anonymous

I know there is no average - wrong or right, etc.

You've answered your own question, don't worry what other people think, and how would they know anyway?

Reply 3

username917703

It's the attitude not the number.

I was friends with a girl who was a virgin at 16 and by 17 had slept with 17 men. I thought that was bad. We were friends though and I would tease her about how she could field a full football team including subs :laugh:

Reply 4

IgaveUPdrink

Original post by Wilfred Little

These women end up as mothers, God help the kids!

Reply 5

username917703

Original post by IgaveUPdrink

These women end up as mothers, God help the kids!

She's a mother now :biggrin:

She's only about 23 too.

Reply 6

LavenderBlueSky88

I always say: half the number of your age is okay, but anymore than that then it's getting a bit too much.

So 9..

Reply 7

username917703

Original post by LavenderBlueSky88

I always say: half the number of your age is okay, but anymore than that then it's getting a bit too much.

So 9..

I don't get this. At all.

If it's not wrong to have sex with as many people as you want then why should anyone have a set number that's too much?

What's the difference between sleeping with 7 people and sleeping with 12? What makes a bad amount, bad?

Cos I reckon the same people who say anything over x amount is too much, would say "there's nothing wrong with no-strings sex as long as you're safe" when in a discussion about sleeping around.

Reply 8

ilex_noemi

When I was 19 I was still a virgin, now I'm 22 and I've slept with 3 guys and I think that's a lot.. it really should have only been with my current boyfriend!

Reply 9

LavenderBlueSky88

Original post by Wilfred Little

Meh, I didn't mean it was too many. Personally I don't think any number is too many, but I guess others might think a certain number is. I think generally 9 or 10 partners for a 19 year old is considered quite a lot - doesn't make it a bad thing. Anyway, thats just a silly formula me and my friends use - it's not true!

Reply 10

username917703

Original post by conniebee

Men need to keep it in their trousers too then.
It takes two to tango.

Yes.

I'm saving myself for marriage. I'm not a hypocrite.

Reply 11

LavenderBlueSky88

Original post by Wilfred Little

Yes.

I'm saving myself for marriage. I'm not a hypocrite.

But what if you never marry :confused:

Reply 12

username917703

Original post by LavenderBlueSky88

But what if you never marry :confused:

I was being facetious a little, I am but not for marriage, I doubt I will marry anyway.

Reply 13

conniebee

Original post by IgaveUPdrink

Men are built to chase sex, it has always been like that since the stone age.
It is women who are ment to keep their legs closed and give sex when they are married.

Now women sleep around and open their legs it to tom, dick and harry, and as a result people behave like animals!, single mums, teen mums, broken family, ect all due to break down in standards and morals due to the way women behave these days.

Ok, so how are men meant to chase sex if you're saying that women should keep their legs shut until marriage? The fact I have chosen to open my legs to a couple of men doesn't mean I behave like an animal. I'm not a single mother, my family is not broken and I've not lost and of my standards and morals either.

And considering you said this in another thread;

Original post by IgaveUPdrink

I consider myself an attractive guy with a funny outgoing personality....yes women find me funny.
I notice, when I meet women and if they don’t seem interested in me as in they don’t want to have sex with me, they automatically become invisible to me. They might as well be dead for all I care
I just don’t see the use of a woman if she does not want to sleep with me or if she is not good looking enough that I want to sleep with her.
I don’t get anything out of being friends with women. The whole men and women can be friends is so FAKE, people lie to themselves.

I find it very hard to take what you say seriously. You tell women that they should be keeping their legs shut until marriage, yet if one doesn't show any sexual interest in you when you're out, you don't see thier purpose of "may as well be dead to you."

Reply 14

Studentus-anonymous

Depends on the attitude, though after a certain point the number itself speaks volumes of the persons attitude.

There is being liberal about sex then there is just throwing it around for anyone to tap, and speaks volumes about your respect for the people you sleep with.

I assume you don't respect yourself, you don't respect your partners, you have little control of your impulses, follow fleeting emotions far too easily and thus I would consider you a volatile unreliable partner who would probably cheat/break it off in short order (after many arguments of course).

Everyone has a past and I have no issue with people having experienced the world shall we say, but no, I probably wouldn't risk someone who has got around a bit too much. Saying that I am 27, a 19 year old with the number of someone closer to my age group would be a no-no as people that age with that number are obviously solely dedicated to the cause of 'just having fun' which is fine but not for me or my age group.

I find people in their late 20s+ still going out 'on the lash' and acting like teenagers a bit of a put-off, and a bit sad tbh.

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Reply 15

Chumbaniya

Original post by Anonymous

I know there is no average

Original post by Casino Blazers

In terms of age average, there's no average.

Original post by Grey_Fox

You've answered your own question

I'm deeply confused. Of course there's an average. If you count the number of sexual partners every 19 year old has had and divide it by the number of 19 year olds, that's the mean. By the same token a mode and median exist.

Anyway. Who cares about averages? Or limits? I get confused when people stress about absolute numbers. If you have sex with people when it's consistent with your desires, your beliefs and your lifestyle, then whatever number of partners you end up with is almost by definition appropriate. If you are really serious about having sex with only one person ever, 2 partners would be too many for you. If you enjoy responsible sex in more casual arrangements with multiple people, then 20 partners wouldn't be too many for you. If a person you're interested in is put off by the number of sexual partners you've had, that's not a sign that you're in the wrong - it's a sign that the two of you don't have particularly compatible attitudes towards sex and you should probably find more suitable partners instead.

Reply 16

sweeter than a cherry pie

If there are any you regret I guess they make it too many, but otherwise, as long as you've been safe, it's all good. :smile:

Reply 17

Grey_Fox

Hahaha - hope you don't **** OP, you'll go straight to HEEELLLLLLL!

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Reply 18

Anonymous #2

19 y/o: Over 5 would be cause for concern for me.
24 y/o: Over 7 would be cause for concern for me.

I'm not into girls that sleep around easily. Not into virgins either.