Promiscuity.

If it were that simple there'd be no need to post this thread and there'd be no need for anyone to have opinions on it surely?

FWIW, I haven't posted my opinion in this thread yet anyway. My initial "the only people saying it's OK are those doing it" was in reply to "Guy sleeps around he is called a player by girls and a hero by boys" which is total b/s.

So I came across this image the other day--



What are your opinions on girls who have a lot of sex?
Seriously, though, please.

I've always been kind of considered by my friends (and occasionally by my family) as a bit promiscuous- or for a more derogatory term, a slut.
I'm not the type who goes out on weekends and shags anything with a pulse.
But I am the type to have sex on the first/second date.

Not because I feel obliged or I have low self esteem, but because I want to. I enjoy sex, and that I should feel ashamed comes across as a bit sexist to me.

I don't hurt easily- so it doesn't bother me if the guy isn't all that interested in having a long-term relationship afterwards.

But still I get quite a bit of crap from friends/family about the way I am. I had my mother the other day say 'have you no respect for your body??'
And to be honest, I don't really understand. I love my body, and am respectful enough not to walk around in a miniskirt and stilettos on a friday night. I have sex with guys who I trust, not just with any bloke who passes me by in the street. I've never had a one-night-stand. Every time I have sex, I normally keep in close contact with the guy for several months after. Does this really make me a slut?

Honestly- feel free to give your opinion on this.

Yes its fine for girls to sleep around. Its their life they can do what they want.

However the only girls that I know that actively sleep around are the ones already in relationships. I've never met a girl who is happy being single and sleeps around.

Guy sleeps around he is called a player by girls and a hero by boys.

Girl sleeps around and she is called slut by everyone.

There is nothing wrong in a girl having a lot of sex in itself. The "wrong" is imported in to it because it goes against a sort of social convention created and handed down over 1000's of years as we evolved. Women in ancient tribal systems were discouraged from sleeping around because they were likely to raise more offspring than they could upkeep. A woman should choose her man carefully, a man who would provide for potential offsprings needs. It is all instinctual but out of date. Since then, in the last few thousand years when earths population began to rise rapidly, men could get sex through strength, an invading army would have a free-for-all orgy on the women prisoners. But nowadays it's not allowed. Men now have to use seduction (their brains) more than their muscles to get in to a woman's pants. Women occupy the default position of power over men especially if they are attractive as the male cannot use his strength. So now a new social convention is emerging whereby a woman should maintain this power by not so easily giving it away - so often women find themselves dumped the day after they have allowed the guy in to their pants, once she's done that then usually the male then occupies the position of power. It is true that once a guy has bedded a woman and if he was good - it is true she is likely going to come back for more sex and thus women have birth to the male "player"... When you think about it, what is a modern, uncontroversial reason for why a woman cannot have lots of sex with different men? Why do we give slut a bad name? It's because you are breaking a social convention, women now have power over men and sleeping around is sort of like throwing away that power - so by default it is frowned upon, though if you dug a bit deeper below the self-righteous women who so frown you are likely to discover their own fantastical sexual desires which are not being fulfilled and a hint of jealousy is the usual motivation behind condemnation than the breaking of a social convention :P the reason why men will appear to give a slut a bad name as they laugh about "Jenny the slut" derogatorily amongst themselves is because she gave away the power she had too easily, men know that getting sex is a big game, they lose respect for those that fail spectacularly at playing it or don't want to bother playing it at all and get straight down to sex. Again, dig a little deeper and they are all thinking why can't all women be like that?


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AMEN. totally agree. don't let double standards apply to you or in fact, every other one here. Think of all the insults men can get from their friends eg. girly, gay, sissy, grow a pair. Now think of all the insults women can get from even their own counterparts eg. slut, hoe, whore.

If I know that a girl is well know for sleeping around with random people and could be described as the local bike, then it would lower the chances of me eventually wanting a relationship. But if she was just promiscuous, didn't brag about it and kept things quite, even if I knew how many people she'd slept with I literally couldn't care less, it's totally up to you how many people you sleep with. I know I don't hold back so..

Just be smart about it, that's just the way society is