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Why is it that the people you love the most are the ones who hurt you the most?

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    My parents:
    They didn't let me do Medicine at uni because it takes too long and by the time I would have finished I would be too 'old' to get married. They would have refused to help me out financially if I had applied. Instead i was forced into a course I had little interest in, resulting in me failing my first year at uni. I got AAAB at A-levels in maths, Bio, Chem and Physics, so this was a huge shock to me and I ended up spiralling into depression. I passed the retakes but then went on to fail 3rd year as well.

    They are also planning on getting me married soon to a 'suitable' man.

    My first ever boyfriend:
    I loved him so much. He cheated on me. His excuse was that I wasn't attractive enough and didnt dress the way he wanted me to. He lied to me, made me feel worthless, made fun of my feelings for him and humiliated me.

    My brother:
    The biggest control freak ever. If we go out to eat, he doesnt even let me pick what I want. He always makes me feel like crap, saying stuff like he's the 'son' of the family and that once I get married I won't be a part of the family. It's 'his' family, his house, his everything

    My best friend:
    Does not understand how I feel what so ever. Just thinks I'm lazy and overly emotional. Always says the worst things ever. Like when I told her that the doctors had told us that my mum may have cancer, she said "well, everyone dies one day". I haven't spoken to her since that day. But we've known each other since we were 4 (21 now). I really miss her.

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    sounds horrble yea, but are you sure you arn't just focusing on the negative experiences? What you have told us is just a percentage of the picture, everyone gets hurtful things said to them. Don't they ever compliment you or support you?
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    It hurts the most because you love them. If you didn't love them, you wouldn't give a **** what they do!
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    Because it's easier
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    It's much easier to humiliate, degrade and just generally **** all over someone than it is to admit that you love them - Nathan, Misfits.


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