Conversations for a day out with a girl you just met?
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Conversations for a day out with a girl you just met?Im going out with a girl tomorrow and i think it's more of a "get to know each other" than a "date" but what type of things should I bring up? I'm really scared we are going to run out of things to say and there's going to be awkward pauses :/
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Re: Conversations for a day out with a girl you just met?School subjects? Family? Friends? General interests? Musical tastes? Movies? Television?
The trick is to branch off in the conversation and keep it natural, mention your own stories, history or opinions related to everything you talk about to appear interesting. You've gotta be natural or it just will be awkward and you won't get to know each other properly. -
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Re: Conversations for a day out with a girl you just met?I tend to find that i can plan all the things to say but if we don't click as people then the conversation dries up anyway.
two examples
1) i looked at the rota at work and i was going to be working with a new potwasher for 4 hours so i had a few questions/ conversation started lined up in my head. As people we just didn't click and we had an awkward 3 hours and 30 mins.
2) Again at work, i was taking my break alone the new waitress joined me 5mins in and the conversation just flowed and flowed and we had good banter for the rest of the shift.
Granted neither of these were love interests but i think it can be applied to most situations.
My Advice would be just have the usual ones lined up, what do you do, what tv/film/music/comedy etc do you like, got any plans for the summer etc with out making it sound like an interview. Listen to what is said (and remember it) as it can be used in future conversations. -
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Re: Conversations for a day out with a girl you just met?Do two things and you will be just fine:
1) Make sure you talk about her, and go deeper than simple questions, examine the processes behind her life/attitudes e.g. what motivates her/where she's coming from in life
2) Talk about whatever the hell interests you, if she is interested and wishes to build rapport she'll engage and find ways of making that conversation relevant to her/her understanding of the world
ED; No idea why this got negged, at least post why you disagree so vehemently!?Last edited by Foo.mp3; 18-07-2012 at 22:49. -
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Re: Conversations for a day out with a girl you just met?Don't overthink things, then you will get nervous and panic and you'll feel uncomfortable. Just let the conversation flow. Me and my boyfriend met in a club exchanged numbers and met up the next day for a walk round town. it was just to get to know eachother. this is much better than a dinner date for example because otherwise you'll be sat opposite eachother and that could be awkward when you run out of things to talk about. let the conversation flow naturally. talk about your surroundings and what you notice around you. my boyfriend was very nervous on our second meeting but I wasn't so I lead the conversation. As we walked there wasn't any awkward silences. If there was a silence I would say 'have you been here before?' or 'isn't it really nice here in the evening?'. just bringing up casual observations and responded according to what he said. Don't force the conversation. If it's meant to be it'll happen naturally.
