[Anonymous]

So he's the kind of person....well....who's a dick

He likes to make others feel self conscious about themselves i.e. pointing out certain characteristics such as looks or personalities to make them feel bad.

He likes to trick people...and not in a fun kind of way for instance he made one of my other friends believe that his mother had died. The only reason he does it is to 'see' if he would believe him, and he gets a kick out of it.

He's got a kind of 'dark' sense of humour....not sure how to explain it but he thinks making fun of people based on race or religion is funny or again making others feel self conscious. For example, when watching Wimbledon he kept on making jokes about Murray's scottish background...now I have to say I did laugh along with him but what I'm saying is that I don't know anybody else including myself who would make those kind of jokes in the first place.

He's not a high achiever, so when he does do something good he likes to rub it in everybody else's faces, I guess you could say he has the right but certainly not if everyone else is actually trying to congratulate him.

So yeah that's him...he's already pissed me off to the point I smashed my phone against the wall (and I had to get a new one).

Does anybody have any advice on how to deal with this kind of person?

[Carrby]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Does anybody have any advice on how to deal with this kind of person?

Don't be friends with them?

[SecretDuck]

Ignore the person and don't react to anything he does. People do these sort of things in order to get a reaction from people.

[misterb123]

Deck him

But on a serious note, just ignore him or stop chillin with him... I would let him know that you think he's a dick

[Anonymous]

btw we have been friends for quite a while and i've been able to put up with his behaviour and his antics but lately, I've realised how much grief he's given me and how angry he actually makes me

[Mrs Huntley]

I don't even understand why your friends with someone like that, maybe you knew him since you were little etc

Honestly if this guy irritates you so much I'd go up and have a word with him and tell him look you've upset me please can I have an apology- however he doesn't sound like the person who would even apologise

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Mrs Huntley)
I don't even understand why your friends with someone like that, maybe you knew him since you were little etc

Honestly if this guy irritates you so much I'd go up and have a word with him and tell him look you've upset me please can I have an apology- however he doesn't sound like the person who would even apologise

that's exactly what I thought. I'm thinking if I go up to him demanding an apology he will just get angry and call me 'gay' or something

[nombo]

are there any good things about him? I was friends with a horrid girl, but I didn't want to stop because she was so funny and entertaining. Now I stopped speaking to her, and it's the best decision I've made.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by nombo)
are there any good things about him? I was friends with a horrid girl, but I didn't want to stop because she was so funny and entertaining. Now I stopped speaking to her, and it's the best decision I've made.

Kind of like your friend...just good to have a laugh with and he does look up to me... but that's it really.

[Mrs Huntley]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Kind of like your friend...just good to have a laugh with and he does look up to me... but that's it really.

Just stop being friends with him he's obviously giving you more grief and if he tries to be horrid to you then just smile
There's not point in getting stressed out any more and eventually his other "friends" will leave him too if his behaviour continues

[Anonymous]

I am in a similiar position. My friend did not even say happy birthday on my birthday. I have known her for 12 years..I was so sad, shocked she did not say anything, months gone by and I still have not forgotten about it. I did mention it to her, texted her a few times and she chose to ignore it, replying to other things but no to that. My mind goes blank when I think about this situation.

[snailsareslimy]

These kind of people do everything for attention. You're better not being friends with him. It's only when he has NO friends, he'll possibly change. You're actually doing what he wants by even writing this thread: he's obviously annoyed you and you're thinking about it... A great result for an attention seeker!
So yeah, ditch him!

[Anonymous]

(Original post by snailsareslimy)
These kind of people do everything for attention. You're better not being friends with him. It's only when he has NO friends, he'll possibly change. You're actually doing what he wants by even writing this thread: he's obviously annoyed you and you're thinking about it... A great result for an attention seeker!
So yeah, ditch him!

Hi

I am anon 2. could you give me some advice too? I would appreciate it.

[MutantGecko]

i have friend like that, who stopped when we all started making fun of his acne scars, and about how he thinks people care what he has to say.

now hes a pretty decent guy

just pick on his weaknesses!

[snailsareslimy]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi

I am anon 2. could you give me some advice too? I would appreciate it.

No problem
My background story: was friends with a girl who made my life a misery for 6 years, she bullied me pretty badly etc etc.
I decided enough was enough and started questioning her behaviour. One of my "friends" said to me that essentially if I didn't put up with the bullying, that my friends meant nothing to me. She huffed and ignored me for over a year and a half, just because she was too cowardly to stand up against said bully.
In the last year and a half, I haven't been happier. I became best friends with the girls in my group who never judged me or tried to ditch me, and my friend group rapidly expanded to around 15. I'm still going out with my boyfriend (over 2 1/2 years later!), and I'm the happiest I've ever been.
At the end of school, I went up to the girl who ditched me, and was incredibly polite and nice to her, and I wished her well for the future; she was squirming and hated it, it was a great day for me. Not only did I show myself as a friend not worth losing, I showed her how strong I was, and needless to say that group were in shock.
So my advice is, ditch who's not a true friend to you. It'll be hard but it's worth it; I had to sit by myself in the mornings every day for 15 minutes when the register was being taken... Although it was annoying, I much preferred making a stand against them than bowing down and sheepishly sitting with them.
Karma will get them eventually. You've just got to focus on your life and let them go to hell really.
So, a little update on said bully? She's a massive slag now, sleeping around (unprotected) with anyone, then stalking them afterwards for a "relationship". At the moment it's a 21 year old, 2 weeks ago it was a 20 year old. This girl also continues to play mind games with people, and likes to come across as "religious" at times, but an "atheist" at others; all for attention.
She also almost killed 4 people when she crashed her car at the weekend, due to reckless driving.
And an update about the friend who didn't stand up for me? She posts on her tumblr about missing me and being jealous of my friend group. She's trying to get some of my friends to go out with her (probably because she's realised how much of a mistake she's made). The funniest thing is that she comes across as highly religious, let lies like nothing else.
You have to ditch bad friends, or you'll regret wasting these years of your life.

[Vulcan]

Tell him to F off

[Ladyliesel]

(Original post by Anonymous)
btw we have been friends for quite a while and i've been able to put up with his behaviour and his antics but lately, I've realised how much grief he's given me and how angry he actually makes me

You shouldn't have to put up with it. Everyone has flaws but you're allowing him to be outright unpleasant. Confront him about his behaviour and tell him how bad he is acting. If he refuses to change but forget him. He's more of a habit than a friend.

[Zuki]

(Original post by Anonymous)
So he's the kind of person....well....who's a dick

He likes to make others feel self conscious about themselves i.e. pointing out certain characteristics such as looks or personalities to make them feel bad.

He likes to trick people...and not in a fun kind of way for instance he made one of my other friends believe that his mother had died. The only reason he does it is to 'see' if he would believe him, and he gets a kick out of it.

He's got a kind of 'dark' sense of humour....not sure how to explain it but he thinks making fun of people based on race or religion is funny or again making others feel self conscious. For example, when watching Wimbledon he kept on making jokes about Murray's scottish background...now I have to say I did laugh along with him but what I'm saying is that I don't know anybody else including myself who would make those kind of jokes in the first place.

He's not a high achiever, so when he does do something good he likes to rub it in everybody else's faces, I guess you could say he has the right but certainly not if everyone else is actually trying to congratulate him.

So yeah that's him...he's already pissed me off to the point I smashed my phone against the wall (and I had to get a new one).

Does anybody have any advice on how to deal with this kind of person?

My best friend is like this too... I'm thinking of just not being friends anymore. I hate these kind of people. Probably best you just do the same and move on.

[nombo]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Kind of like your friend...just good to have a laugh with and he does look up to me... but that's it really.

It's so not worth it though. You'll find other friends who have those qualities, or better ones. I have such great friends now, who are 10x funnier or whatever than said friend could be. If you don't want to confront him, like I didn't, just stop talking to him. She knew what she did anyway, it turned out, so she never spoke about it. It might happen the same, if you don't want to talk about it.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by nombo)
It's so not worth it though. You'll find other friends who have those qualities, or better ones. I have such great friends now, who are 10x funnier or whatever than said friend could be. If you don't want to confront him, like I didn't, just stop talking to him. She knew what she did anyway, it turned out, so she never spoke about it. It might happen the same, if you don't want to talk about it.

trouble is his friends are also my friends (who, btw are much more pleasant than he is). If I do stop being friends with him will it be awkward? And not just for me but for our other friends too?