[Anonymous]

(Original post by Delain)
If you're nervous about asking her out in person, ask her on Facebook or something. It's obvious she likes you a lot.

I've heard that asking over text/facebook is a complete no no? How would i do it anyway, i can't just go 'HUR DUR I LIKE YOU'. The only thing going through my mind at the moment is when i next get to see her and the thought of a relationship with her.

(Original post by Bollo's Lovechild)
Jesus man! She clearly likes you, ask her out for a drink after work.
The worst that could happen is that she says no and that she has a boyfriend, but surely that's nowhere near as bad thinking "What if?", for months, potentially years. And the best thing that could happen... Well I think it goes without saying that it's definitely worth the risk

Good luck dude!

I'm worried as her saying no will mean i lose a good friendship because we have lots in common and i love talking to her. Plus it would be so awkward having to see her again and my confidence about my physical appearance (which is already non existant) will get even worse. I know that any girl who doesn't look hideous will have several guys after her and can afford to be picky.

(Original post by TheEssence)
man the **** up!!!!!!!!!!! you want to get to know her do you not? you like her do you not? she seems to like you so you must be good looking enough for her, and if not she likes your personality.

I can tell that how i look is the problem because i know loads of girls as friends and i can tell they like me. I'm really comfortable around women (probably more so then men) but the thought of someone being attracted to me doesn't seem realistic. Which is why i'm so nervous.

[georgiawilson]

Ask her out for a drink or something, she definitely sounds like she's interested in you!

[Anonymous]

Tell her!!! I'm in this situation but I am the girl.

He is has loads of female friends and as soon as I think he likes me I question myself because he gets on so well with everyone.

Let her know you like her.
Buy her a drink and try to put your arm round her and see how she responds.

Good luck.

[systeric]

I had to post in here because I'm in a similarly puzzling situation.

Basically, there's this girl who let me put my penis inside her. She told me she loved me. She even produced a wedding ring out of her pocket and said 'I know this breaks with tradition, but I just couldn't hold back any longer.' I just can't figure her out. Do you reckon she's into me?


Seriously now dude. It's been three weeks since your OP. The girl clearly likes you. All you need to do is say is something like 'hey we should go out for a drink sometime, how's your week looking?' and she'll bite your hand off.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Tell her!!! I'm in this situation but I am the girl.

He is has loads of female friends and as soon as I think he likes me I question myself because he gets on so well with everyone.

Let her know you like her.
Buy her a drink and try to put your arm round her and see how she responds.

Good luck.

I know a lot of girls too, would that be off putting?

[TheEssence]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I can tell that how i look is the problem because i know loads of girls as friends and i can tell they like me. I'm really comfortable around women (probably more so then men) but the thought of someone being attracted to me doesn't seem realistic. Which is why i'm so nervous.

Maybe you're gay?

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I know a lot of girls too, would that be off putting?

It's confusing.
Make arrangements to see her away from everyone else, even if it's under acasual pretence .
xoxox

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
It's confusing.
Make arrangements to see her away from everyone else, even if it's under acasual pretence .
xoxox

Makes sense i guess because if a girl is surrounded by guys you'd think one of them was the boyfriend.

(Original post by TheEssence)
Maybe you're gay?

I've thought about this but i can't see how that could be true. I'm attracted to women and a relationship (with a girl...) strongly appeals to me.

Usually when i get to know someone the thought that they may want to take things further than friendship never crosses my mind. I think its a combination of inexperience and poor self esteem. I hate my physical appearance and my worry is every girl would just go ''ewwwww no way''. Hence why i've never asked a girl out before. Even if that wasn't the case I would have no idea how to proceed, as is the case here.

I'm friendzoned beyond beleif with most girls i know and i'm cool with it. I like getting to know them and having a laugh as i'll do with another guy.

[Umer786]

Maybe she only sees you as a 'good' friend?


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[Anonymous]

(Original post by Umer786)
Maybe she only sees you as a 'good' friend?

This is the fear i'm increasingly getting She tells me everything

(Original post by systeric)
Seriously now dude. It's been three weeks since your OP. The girl clearly likes you. All you need to do is say is something like 'hey we should go out for a drink sometime, how's your week looking?' and she'll bite your hand off.

I tried to ask her out the other day. Had planned all day what i wanted to say and after we finished work i pulled her aside but the words just wouldn't come out. I ended up telling one of my work colleagues that i liked her instead Think the only way i will be able to do it is online.

[Flibble22]

Smash the pasty.

[chockyUK]

(Original post by Flibble22)
Smash the pasty.

Worth posting in this just to rep the above response

Anyway, back to the OP. If you happen to be in Plymouth and work in a coffee shop that I frequent, and she's romanian, and extremely hot....... I dont care how much she might/might or not like you... I'm currently (attempting) to work some magic so Back off, she's mine

Na but seriously, get it done already. Deliberation is a man's worst enemy, the more you think about it the more you tell yourself 'Na, that can't be right' so just do it. Or don't and move on. Either way the deliberation messes with you, it can actually be quite stressful and we all know stress isn't good. I speak from experience btw, the girl I'm on about above is awesome. Truly awesome. Now I've never ever (not even once) had a problem approaching a girl/asking for a number/asking for a date or whatever. Never been fazed by rejection either so that doesn't ever stop me, but this chick stops me dead every time. And that makes me want her more, the curiosity is killing me but the deliberation is worse. Especially since I've never experienced it before (and I'm 28!).

(Original post by Anonymous)
Think the only way i will be able to do it is online.

Under no circumstances do this. Not at all. EVER. You're friends with her just get it done. You're making it harder than it needs to be just stop listening to your subconscious. Have faith, you CAN and WILL do it!!
Good luck

Si

[Anonymous]

(Original post by chockyUK)
Na but seriously, get it done already. Deliberation is a man's worst enemy, the more you think about it the more you tell yourself 'Na, that can't be right' so just do it. Or don't and move on. Either way the deliberation messes with you, it can actually be quite stressful and we all know stress isn't good. I speak from experience btw, the girl I'm on about above is awesome. Truly awesome. Now I've never ever (not even once) had a problem approaching a girl/asking for a number/asking for a date or whatever. Never been fazed by rejection either so that doesn't ever stop me, but this chick stops me dead every time. And that makes me want her more, the curiosity is killing me but the deliberation is worse. Especially since I've never experienced it before (and I'm 28!).

I've never been brave enough to ask a girl out before. Would never dream of walking up to someone i don't know and asking them something like that, because i know nothing about them and it only works if you're good looking. I know loads of girls who are really lovely people but i can't shake the thought out of my head that no girl will give you a chance unless you're really good looking and have plenty of experience. My personality is obviously not an issue because i have plenty of friends but i am neither of these two. This is the first time i've ever believed someone might like me.

(Original post by chockyUK)
Under no circumstances do this. Not at all. EVER. You're friends with her just get it done. You're making it harder than it needs to be just stop listening to your subconscious. Have faith, you CAN and WILL do it!!
Good luck

Si

Its obvious she likes being around me but i can't work out if she likes me or not. Whenever she does something that makes me think she does she does something else to make me think she doesn't Thought it would be easier when i got her number but nope. I accidently let her name slip to my friends who are all convinced i'm seeing her but i'm still too scared to ask her

[TheEssence]

(Original post by anonymous)
i've never been brave enough to ask a girl out before. Would never dream of walking up to someone i don't know and asking them something like that, because i know nothing about them and it only works if you're good looking. I know loads of girls who are really lovely people but i can't shake the thought out of my head that no girl will give you a chance unless you're really good looking and have plenty of experience. My personality is obviously not an issue because i have plenty of friends but i am neither of these two. This is the first time i've ever believed someone might like me.



Its obvious she likes being around me but i can't work out if she likes me or not. Whenever she does something that makes me think she does she does something else to make me think she doesn't thought it would be easier when i got her number but nope. I accidently let her name slip to my friends who are all convinced i'm seeing her but i'm still too scared to ask her

you still haven't asked?? My lord!!

[Robin Scherbatsky]

ASK HER OUT!!! This is so frustrating.

If she says yes, great! If she says no, it's disappointing but now you'll have been rejected and it won't be so sad if it happens in the future.

It's very unlikely she'll smack you and say, "Ew, you thought I liked you?!" and then spit in your face.

You want to find out if she really likes you? ASK HER OUT. My God, please just ask her out.

[Philippexxx]

Yeah she does.

Just. Do. It.

Overthinking things always ruins things. Just go with your instinct and ask her out or whatever. Too often people miss out on opportunities due to hesistation etc.

[remiquaver]

Ask her out, if she likes you, and all the signs are pointing that way, I bet she's getting really frustrated by now and running out of hints to give! Just man up! Worse comes to worse, she'll say no but be flattered you like her and it really doesn't have to be awkward! Also, not everything is about looks! If you like someone's personality, they can become beautiful to you no matter what they look like! Don't forget, your perception of how you look tends to be offering to how other people see you!

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Robin Scherbatsky)
ASK HER OUT!!! This is so frustrating.

If she says yes, great! If she says no, it's disappointing but now you'll have been rejected and it won't be so sad if it happens in the future.

It's very unlikely she'll smack you and say, "Ew, you thought I liked you?!" and then spit in your face.

You want to find out if she really likes you? ASK HER OUT. My God, please just ask her out.

I know she won't do that because she is nice to me. Being rejected by the only person i've properly liked, as i'm expecting to happen, would destroy my self confidence. As you can figure it is not very high anyway. There isn't anyone else in my life who acts like this around me or who i'd have any chance of a relationship with so i'd feel even worse/less confident i'll ever find someone.

[Lumos]

she's obviously waiting for you to make the first move - man up and do it! just act casual, ask her if she wants to hang out some time, see a film... from what you've said she won't say no! if you like her reciprocate her advances, or she'll think you're not interested and move on.

[FemaleEinstein]

She almost certainty likes you! You should go for it, what's the worst that could happen!