[Anonymous]

Right so we've been best friends for 3 years, but for the past....well 2 years, he's been such a dick. Here's some of the stuff he says/ does.

-Whenever he needs money or food, I'd always give him money or buy him food, I'd never ask for the money back. But when it's me, even if it's 20p, he'd demand it back the next day.

-A bunch of us from our Secondary School started college together, but all of them left and went back to the sixth form, except me and him. So one day we were walking and just randomly said "You have no one".

-I had a crush on this girl, and as you may know, when you like someone they become the most beautiful person in the world. So when I told him that she was very attractive, he said "Surely she could do better than you".

-I told him the story about ow someone in my family died. The next day he said "That was hilarious".

-Just a few minutes ago, I sent him a text saying that I was going on holiday for about 6 weeks, so I'll need him to send me a text with the enrollment dates for second year, which would cost about 30p. He said "only if you pay me back"....So in my head I'm thinking, If I don't agree to pay him back... I don't get into A2..., and I said No, I'll find out some other way. Not because of the 30p, but because he's such an *******. And he replied "Fine, I hope you get kicked out because of your stubbornness, it's a valuable life lesson"

-We had this argument a few months ago, both of us saying that the other has turned into a jerk. He had to back to year 9 and 10 years, where the biggest insult was "Your mum" or "Wasteman", whereas I could go back a few months, to prove that he's a jerk. E.g. The point about the dead family member.

-He'd just randomly insult someone, or see a happy couple and say "How did he get with her", he's just a really shallow dick.

The problem I'm facing is that if I decide to break this so called friendship, I'll have absolutely no friends to hang out with in college, I would go back to my sixth form, but they do not have some of the courses I'm doing. And despite all this, we do get along and have a laugh. What should I do?

[game of james]

How long of college do you have left? You shouldn't have to leave just because of one person.
He sounds like a bit of a dick and I'd have hit him for some of the stuff he said.
Sorry but he seems way out of line to me. I'd ditch him and try make some new friends.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by game of james)
How long of college do you have left? You shouldn't have to leave just because of one person.
He sounds like a bit of a dick and I'd have hit him for some of the stuff he said.
Sorry but he seems way out of line to me. I'd ditch him and try make some new friends.

Well, depending on results day, it could be two or one. I agree, I probably should ditch him. But the problem is...I have a speech impediment, and so I really hate speaking to people I do not know. But I guess it's probably better to stutter a little, and try and make new friends than continue being friends with this *******.

[bingbob]

I think you need to distance yourself from this person ASAP, I doubt he is doing you any favours in any ways, but I wouldn't go as far as to move colleges - as cliche as it sounds, you could possibly try and join some kind of club or take up a new hobby so you can spend time with people who enjoy the things that you like, and appreciate you good luck!

[game of james]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Well, depending on results day, it could be two or one. I agree, I probably should ditch him. But the problem is...I have a speech impediment, and so I really hate speaking to people I do not know. But I guess it's probably better to stutter a little, and try and make new friends than continue being friends with this *******.

Just tell him direct, stop being a bellend or I won't be your friend any more.
That must be pretty scary talking to new people, just grit your teeth and try, after all people who would hold that against you probably aren't worth your time anyway.
Loads of famous people have speech problems, so don't let it hold you back bro.

[mobyfan101]

^ Agreed. Be blunt with him and tell him how immature and upsetting some of his behaviour is. If he refuses to change, then he was never a good friend to begin with.

Seriously, the mates worth keeping are ones that will accept you for who you are, not worry about a speech impediment and won't behave in such a hurtful way.

[Iqbal007]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Right so we've been best friends for 3 years, but for the past....well 2 years, he's been such a dick. Here's some of the stuff he says/ does.

-Whenever he needs money or food, I'd always give him money or buy him food, I'd never ask for the money back. But when it's me, even if it's 20p, he'd demand it back the next day.

-A bunch of us from our Secondary School started college together, but all of them left and went back to the sixth form, except me and him. So one day we were walking and just randomly said "You have no one".

-I had a crush on this girl, and as you may know, when you like someone they become the most beautiful person in the world. So when I told him that she was very attractive, he said "Surely she could do better than you".

-I told him the story about ow someone in my family died. The next day he said "That was hilarious".

-Just a few minutes ago, I sent him a text saying that I was going on holiday for about 6 weeks, so I'll need him to send me a text with the enrollment dates for second year, which would cost about 30p. He said "only if you pay me back"....So in my head I'm thinking, If I don't agree to pay him back... I don't get into A2..., and I said No, I'll find out some other way. Not because of the 30p, but because he's such an *******. And he replied "Fine, I hope you get kicked out because of your stubbornness, it's a valuable life lesson"

-We had this argument a few months ago, both of us saying that the other has turned into a jerk. He had to back to year 9 and 10 years, where the biggest insult was "Your mum" or "Wasteman", whereas I could go back a few months, to prove that he's a jerk. E.g. The point about the dead family member.

-He'd just randomly insult someone, or see a happy couple and say "How did he get with her", he's just a really shallow dick.

The problem I'm facing is that if I decide to break this so called friendship, I'll have absolutely no friends to hang out with in college, I would go back to my sixth form, but they do not have some of the courses I'm doing. And despite all this, we do get along and have a laugh. What should I do?

I've seen this type, sounds like the people I recall from my secondary school, which i'm glad I left.
He's stuck in his old school mentality of acting very childish and immature.........unable to take proper responsibility for himself and others when required.

Plus your being so nice, giving him money, but you never ever have asked your money back?
It must run up, it's quite clear that both your attitudes towards friendship is different, you appreciate it while he doesn't.

The thing about enrollment is that you should email your college about it.

You must have other friends at your college, you can move into other friendship groups, I met loads of other people during my 2nd year and had a few different friendship groups with different interests.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the advice guys.

[Wwalagb]

Mate, lifes too short to hang around with idiots like him. You could do so much better than him


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