[Anonymous]

Three years my parents separated, this was when I was twelve. They "got on" for the first couple of months, but from then on, things just went down hill. They cannot seem to agree on anything, and both of them think the other is poisoning me against them. Now they just don't talk, but instead expect me to pass messages on between them, and sometimes it's a case of "shooting the messenger".
I don't care about the fact they've split up; it was ages ago and they're both happier now, but I just wish they could have a civilized conversation together, and they would realize I can have my own opinions, and I'm not a child anymore.
Also when I approach either of them on the subject, it's NEVER EVER their fault.

Can someone tell me how I can make them understand me more, and get them to actually talk?

[BethaneyJ]

Any chance of getting them together and explaining that it's not your job to be messenger? And that they should be civil?

Alternatively next time you're asked to pass on a message, just say no or pass on the message for one to ring the other?

Parents eh?

[Cephalus]

It just seems like they would be happier if they were both permanently away from each other.

[fGDu]

I have been in a similar situation to you and it isn't nice, I think you need to take action. Next time they ask you to send a message to the other simply say no, you need them to take you seriously, and this would hopefully force them to talk to each other. Texting might be an option, that is what my parents do if they don't want to be near each other.

[t()m]

I can relate parents divorced when u was 4 didn't speak for ages, the only thing they agreed was on my brothers and mine education. But maybe suggest that they communicate through email and text. Allows them not to instant respond etc


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[bellazz]

car needs all its tyres to function properly and be in their place in order to move it from one place to another. the front two tyres are the parents and the rare two are the children..

try to make them realize this fact!

[Ice Constricter]

You have to realise that only they can it work it out between themselves. Besides its not your responsibility its theirs. Either that or they can avoid each other as much as possible.