[im so academic]

(Original post by Starrstruck)
Listen to Beautiful by Christina Aguilera.

A stupid song changes nothing.

[my fifty]

Insecurity is actually a form of pride: you feel scared to do stuff because you fear what others might think. I find that the best way to get rid of my insecurity is to do something REALLY embarrassing not purposely fake though but something like changing your profile picture on the social networking site that you use to a weird, cheesy face or do a weird impression or singing voice<I'm still striving for this step lol! Maybe even doing some volunteer work could help because you'll be taking your thoughts off of you and onto a project

Hope this helped!

P.S What you don't want to do is revel in your insecurity, complaining "Why am I so shy/insecure?" as this makes you d e s c e n d further.

[Miryo]

My insecurity was never very severe but I fought against it by becoming arrogant. I just took peoples words as below my own and regarded the ones that annoyed me as "below me". It might not be the right way but it worked for me

[taylorg292]

When I feel insecure I eat my feelings. Mince pies mostly.

[Bellissima]

(Original post by RollandGarros)
lol name one thing which i should regard more important than money and my own body?

maybe my wife's chest size when i have one, my job but that counts as money, anything else?

you have to find what you enjoy, it is quite sad if it is limited to only 2 things.

oh man... you are kidding? that literally made me laugh... boobs are great but not the be all and end all...

[InternetGangster]

(Original post by im so academic)
You're hardly in my position though. Quit complaining, at least you can feel loved.

Not sure if trolling, or genuine heartless bitch.

[kaypc]

(Original post by sarahthegemini)
Hi there, this is mainly a question aimed at girls but guys feel free to answer too!

I am generally quite an insecure person, but I manage to keep it under control most of the time. I do however, have moments where I just, can't basically. My insecurities stem mostly from my appearance but there are other issues too. It gets to the point where I get so upset/angry, cry and over-analyse harmless comments that my boyfriend has made and just feel crap about myself.

What I'm looking for is some better ways to combat those moments when they do arise? It's usually when I'm alone in my room that it happens, and when it does I just say there until I feel better again. Now obviously I need a better method of overcoming it because I don't want to feel like that! My partner goes out of his way to reassure me if he senses that I am feeling particularly insecure but sometimes it just doesn't help.

Anyone?

i've realised that its confidence that makes people beautiful on the outside although it might sound cliche, its so true because at my school we have a girl who isn't classically beautiful but she's dating one of the hottest guys in school just because she has so much confidence but she's not very smart. and also, try to focus on your strengths like intellect or compassion because that gets people very far, its not about external beauty and i'm sure you're highly critical of yourself. i usually watch a comedy to cheer me up on the bad days.

[im so academic]

(Original post by InternetGangster)
Not sure if trolling, or genuine heartless bitch.

That's how I feel. Take it or leave it.

[Schmucks]

I overthink. I panic. I stress out. I have a panic attack. I eat loads of food. I feel sick. I mope. I then panic more. I'm ugly and i'm fat. I'll never be a trophy wife. I overthink again. Panic again. Stress out again. Too tired for a panic attack this time though. I just flop to the floor. Start flapping like a fish. I catch myself in the mirror. I look funny. I'm hilarious. I'm ****ing brilliant. I stand up. I feel victorious.

[Starrstruck]

(Original post by im so academic)
A stupid song changes nothing.

It's not a stupid song, keep your opinions to yourself.

[jon64]

i never feel insecure because i choose not to, it really is that simple

[fifi*]

(Original post by sarahthegemini)
Hi there, this is mainly a question aimed at girls but guys feel free to answer too!

I am generally quite an insecure person, but I manage to keep it under control most of the time. I do however, have moments where I just, can't basically. My insecurities stem mostly from my appearance but there are other issues too. It gets to the point where I get so upset/angry, cry and over-analyse harmless comments that my boyfriend has made and just feel crap about myself.

What I'm looking for is some better ways to combat those moments when they do arise? It's usually when I'm alone in my room that it happens, and when it does I just say there until I feel better again. Now obviously I need a better method of overcoming it because I don't want to feel like that! My partner goes out of his way to reassure me if he senses that I am feeling particularly insecure but sometimes it just doesn't help.

Anyone?

Hey, I know exactly how that feels. My advice is to visit http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/ because it can be quite comforting to read about similar people with experiences like yours on a more centralised forum. Otherwise I would suggest just taking your mind off your insecurities by watching tv/doing things you really enjoy.

I usually get dolled up when i feel insecure, whether im going out or not! Or I watch frasier/play with the cats/go to sleep.

I hope this helps somewhat but the forum is really good

[Dinnes]

(Original post by sarahthegemini)
Hi there, this is mainly a question aimed at girls but guys feel free to answer too!

I am generally quite an insecure person, but I manage to keep it under control most of the time. I do however, have moments where I just, can't basically. My insecurities stem mostly from my appearance but there are other issues too. It gets to the point where I get so upset/angry, cry and over-analyse harmless comments that my boyfriend has made and just feel crap about myself.

What I'm looking for is some better ways to combat those moments when they do arise? It's usually when I'm alone in my room that it happens, and when it does I just say there until I feel better again. Now obviously I need a better method of overcoming it because I don't want to feel like that! My partner goes out of his way to reassure me if he senses that I am feeling particularly insecure but sometimes it just doesn't help.

Anyone?

I'm no expert but all the people I know who seem to be insecure tend to bottle a lot of issues up. You may do already, but if you aren't then grab your closest friends and talk about every issue you have, because they will almost certainly have similar ones.

As regards with appearance, who cares? You have a boyfriend and if you aren't attractive then either you are wrong (win scenario) or he loves you for who you are (win scenario). I appreciate with some people it can be harder to talk about issues with other people but I hate bottling stuff up because I end up feeling awful if I do.

At the very least talk to some of us lovely people on TSR we're totally anonymous I guess so that could always work

Also, something that really works for me and has done for lots of my friends, is that if you're really struggling just write down every single tiny thing you're worried about in a little book, and keep the book as your stress book. It might sound stupid, but having your worries written down means you're more in control of them and you don't have to think about them.

I don't know if this will help but I hope it does, and yeah, if you fancy a random dmc/chat with a complete TSR stranger I'm game

Dan x

[im so academic]

(Original post by Starrstruck)
It's not a stupid song, keep your opinions to yourself.

It is. "You are beautiful no matter what they say". Well beauty is based on what other people think. Who cares what you think if the men you fancy, every man you fancy, doesn't feel the same way?

[riotgrrl]

(Original post by sarahthegemini)
Haha, that made me chuckle. I also met my boyfriend on a night out Thanks

No worries. It's a bit of a weird circle really- I always think at first "of course he's saying nice things, he's my boyfriend", but then I have to remember the fact that he IS my boyfriend and IS saying nice things probably means he's attracted to me xD

On a more serious note- it can be really tough finding that self esteem and while these various tricks help dealing with it in the moment, if it's really affecting you on a longer term basis, you might want to think about talking to a counsellor, or if you're not up for that, look for some online resources for cognitive behavioural therapy, which might help you change your thought patterns a little bit. I've had some experience of it for my anxiety problems and it's not a quick fix and I wouldn't say I'm "cured" (if that's even possible) but it definitely helps.

[SophiaKeuning]

(Original post by im so academic)
You're hardly in my position though. Quit complaining, at least you can feel loved.

If you weren't so self-absorbed and thought you had the worse situation, you'd probably find yourself a bit happier.

[im so academic]

(Original post by SophiaKeuning)
If you weren't so self-absorbed and thought you had the worse situation, you'd probably find yourself a bit happier.

Either way, I still wouldn't be happy.

[SophiaKeuning]

(Original post by im so academic)
Either way, I still wouldn't be happy.

You do realise that your self-hatred is irrational. It's not true you silly thing.

OP, being an over-sensitive freak myself I have no condolences.

[im so academic]

(Original post by SophiaKeuning)
You do realise that your self-hatred is irrational. It's not true you silly thing.

OP, being an over-sensitive freak myself I have no condolences.

Easier said than done.

[shevi]

One word: therapy. Lots of it.
I'm not saying it's for everyone but a lot of my insecurity came from my past, so it was good to work through all that.
Other than that, I tend to just remind myself of the good parts. Have a good look in the mirror and just focus on the parts you do think are beautiful. It's really just about changing your own perception. No one else can make you love yourself.