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do you help out parents with household expenses?My mum wants me to start helping out with the household expenses because I just started working. She's got like 3 jobs herself and managed to pay the bills fine before without any help I don't see why I should start paying her. If she was facing financial difficulties and was struggling to pay I would help of course but thats not the case.
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Re: do you help out parents with household expenses?It's called learning some responsibility, you cannot freeload your whole life. When my sister started working full time she was expected to pay £100 a month, and I will do the same when I finish Uni.
Oh, and working 3 jobs in order to pay the bills evidently isnt "paying the bills just fine" - she's working her arse off
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Re: do you help out parents with household expenses?I know most people won't agree with this but I do find it REALLY weird when parents ask their kids to pay rent or whatever purely because the parents raised them No one made the parents have kids in the first place!
However, in your case, your mum's working 3 jobs which must be hard. The fact that she waited until you get a job is nice enough of her, but she's obviously under a lot of pressure if one job doesn't suffice. So you should help her out a bit. -
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Re: do you help out parents with household expenses?personally would change the R to a C in the last word...(Original post by goku12345)
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Re: do you help out parents with household expenses?Both me and my brother pay expenses for living at home. I'm at university but can still manage to give them money towards food etc, after all I am costing my parents money. I have lived out and paid rent so to me this is just the same, if you moved out you'd probably have to pay a lot more than your mum's asking. In my opinion, it's only fair to help your mum out, she's working her butt off to pay bills etc while you have one job and are not paying but are still eating the food your mum's paid for etc. I assume that you're 18 or over and, in that case, you're old enough now to take some responsibility. Don't like it? Move out, though I'm sure you'll get a massive shock.
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Re: do you help out parents with household expenses?No however I am in a different situation financially which is clearly not the case with your mother... 3 jobs to pay bills is not fine, stop being a selfish **** and help out.(Original post by khyuma)
Do you help out parents with household expenses?
Why? are you moving back home?(Original post by hvh)
I will do the same when I finish Uni.
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Re: do you help out parents with household expenses?no because they chose to have me
i didn't ask to be born... if they weren't up for the responsibility of children (0-18) then why did they have them... i am extremely grateful for EVERYTHING my parents do... but they are financially secure enough for me not to pay housekeeping. if i moved back after uni or something then i would understand having to pay... but while you are still 0-18... no, that is wrong unless they are struggling financially... then it is part of your duty to the family... if your mum has 3 jobs then i assume you fall into this category, so stop being selfish and help her out.
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Re: do you help out parents with household expenses?I had a friend with a similar opinion to yours. Although I understand that having the kid was the parents' choice, it's generally not expected that they will live with you forever, which begs the question, when do you start contributing the the house that you live/ take from? And, I think most people will agree that when you start working (perhaps full time/ more than just evening or weekend work) is the most suiitable.(Original post by throughthemonsoon)
I know most people won't agree with this but I do find it REALLY weird when parents ask their kids to pay rent or whatever purely because the parents raised them No one made the parents have kids in the first place!
However, in your case, your mum's working 3 jobs which must be hard. The fact that she waited until you get a job is nice enough of her, but she's obviously under a lot of pressure if one job doesn't suffice. So you should help her out a bit.
A friend of mine has a brohter who is a good few years past 30 and still lives with his parents free of board/ expense. I just think this is totally wrong as his parents are now both 65+ and quite frankly they deserve to be problem free, which is why I support the fact that an adult living with their parents should contribute - you take a lot of paying for as an adult, no more being bathed in the sink or consuming solely breast milk
- the only thing I think parents should take into account, is that charging their kid too much could make it difficult for them to save up to move out.
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Yes, I've been working part time since the age of 17 (I'm 21 now) and have been helping with the household expenses for 4 years, paying £250 a month. That is not including paying for half the grocery shopping (food) which I also pay for, costing approx £120 a month and sundries for the house and clothing etc for my mum as she doesn't work. On top of that, I have to pay for my travel costs (tube/bus), my own clothing, driving lessons, phone bills etc.
It's really tough for me as I've had to manage college and uni work. I've not been able to work towards my full potential in terms of my education, even though my A-Level and university grades are 'good'.
Seeing as your mum is working 3 jobs, I would assume that she is working her ass off to provide for the family. I'm quite offended from your attitude in not wanting to work and help your mum, even though she may only be asking for a small contribution to the household expenses.
Even if your mum is not struggling financially, you need to wake up and see how life is in reality. It's tough, and starting now will only help you in a few years time where you will need to take responsibility and become independent.
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Re: do you help out parents with household expenses?I haven't moved out for Uni. However, I am almost 100% sure that I will have no desire to move out into rented accomodation until I am settled in a job and have some savings behind me. In fact, I may just stay at home until I have the savings for a mortgage rather than paying dead money on rent.(Original post by tehFrance)
No however I am in a different situation financially which is clearly not the case with your mother... 3 jobs to pay bills is not fine, stop being a selfish **** and help out.
Why? are you moving back home?
However, I am lucky enough to have a double bedroom, an ensuite and my own transport and parents that are happy for me to come and go as I please. So I guess I don't really feel the pressure to move out for personal space and ****ty parents that alot of people do. -
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Re: do you help out parents with household expenses?Count yourself lucky - I've heard of people being charged rent from 14 (which I honestly think is wrong)
If you're working full time, or getting quite a few hours part time then you should be helping out. I would help my mum, but haven't been in a sufficient job to be able to do so (terrible pay and hours), however I've now got a better job which, which when I'm not at uni will help me help her out. Though saying that she probably won't accept anything, so at the very least I can be independent and not rely on her. -
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Re: do you help out parents with household expenses?I gave my parents £200 out of the pitiful £300 I earnt over the last month of uni as a student telephone campaigner. I even bought them some nice things when I went to visit a friend in Cambridge (my dad is rocking the same Supergas as me, so hip!) because what I was giving them was peanuts compared to how much they gave me during my first year. Tbh it's not unheard of for students to be asked to pay rent to their parents, especially if they are working.
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Re: do you help out parents with household expenses?Christ, stop being so selfish! You'd watch your mother work herself into the ground so you can buy crap? When I lived at home I paid £50 a week, which covered me for everything including car insurance etc. I was on benefits, but I gave the money to my parents so they wouldn't struggle. If you were my kid with that attitude I'd throw you at on your arse for such a little ****.
