(Original post by OkashiAddict)
so I suppose I'm just going to pour out my entire situation here so that those who actually want to provide me with useful advice can understand before doing so...
I'd also really appreciate if you did read all of this since I don't want people to misunderstand.
Well, it's now officially the summer holidays, and I've been thinking about this for a while during the school term too... I'm in a group of friends, and we've been friends in this group for almost 3 years—there's 7 of us altogether. And well, we're really close though I'm a bit more apathetic but that's part of my personality anyway. I'm definitely the most different in many ways from them all, and I tend to not involve myself in any activities or day-outs they might have outside of school. They don't mind this though, and they still really like me and I like them too, this is not the problem.
The problem I suppose is that, whilst they're really clingy, girly, typical, and they talk about things which bore me to the core, I'm just not interested in hanging out with them anymore. I really don't want to. And they talk about boys and crushes, and actors and lord... I'm dead by the time they're done! I don't want to be friends with most of the girls at school anyway, I just feel at unease or generally bored and drained-out around them. (And I know there are some who'll be thinking 'she's lesbian' but no, I'm honestly not, I'm a proud asexual).
There are some boys in my class who I thoroughly enjoy being around... we talk about video games, physics, and I'm just at ease around them. I want to be their friend. I want to hang out with them...
So whilst contemplating this, I thought it would be perfect to start this the next academic year (I'll be in year 10)!
But I mean, this girls are really sensitive and we're in the same groups for literally everything and it'd be a tad awkward if I just 'left' so as to speak. And it'd be especially awkward if I were to approach these boys all of a sudden and say 'hey, I'm gonna be part of your group now and hang out with you always' or something, right? I don't know how to bring this kind of thing up with either party. I don't like socializing in general and I'm an introvert.
I'm telling you, these girls love each other so much and every year for every single one of our birthdays, we organize a day whereby we each give that person a gift and then for the next and the next—it's like a horrible tradition!
Girls are too concerned and things like that, I'm more boyish I suppose and I really don't know what to do.
Please don't be mean and try to be understanding. I'm not going to be horrible about it with them, I'll still be their friend or like a classmate or whatever, but they won't be my first resort (I'm sorry, I don't know how else to word this idea!)
Advice would be appreciated vastly.
Thank you, if you read it all.