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  1. ilem's Avatar
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    No. It's why I'm so ****ed up.
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    (Original post by Samrout)
    nope. My first exposure to sex was watching, with the rest of the kids on the street, a boy put his flaccid willy in a girl's fanny, saying "look it goes in!". I was about 5-6 at the time, the hot couple must have been about 4.

    Grim but funny.
    um... wtf????
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    (Original post by Samrout)
    nope. My first exposure to sex was watching, with the rest of the kids on the street, a boy put his flaccid willy in a girl's fanny, saying "look it goes in!". I was about 5-6 at the time, the hot couple must have been about 4.

    Grim but funny.
    I don't know whether it's better for this to be fictional or not...
  4. Tochai's Avatar
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    The bees are the men and the birds are the women, right?
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    My dad bought me a book of dirty jokes when I was pretty young, but I don't think that counts
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    I think Urban Dictionary pretty much extinguished the need for any awkward conversation ever again.
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    Nope had to find out from google :rolleyes:
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    (Original post by DontWantYourBloodMoney)
    I think Urban Dictionary pretty much extinguished the need for any awkward conversation ever again.
    This, except for me, the other way round. My dad asked me what a gimp was. And my mum asked me what BDSM stood for.

    I'm more disturbed that they expected their at the time 15 year old daughter to know.

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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    Nope, I was given a book! :lol:
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    Nope

    We did have a special evening in primary school where they invited in all the kids in the year and their parents and told us about periods and showed us a tampon and put it in a glass of water till it swelled up. They may have mentioned sex as well, but the only think I can remember was the tampon demonstration.

    I had heard a little bit of playground gossip about sex in primary school, but my understanding was that the man laid on top of the woman, put his penis in her vagina and laid still all night. It didn't sounds very comfortable

    We had proper sex ed in secondary school, though. Learned how to put condoms onto rolling pins and where to buy pregnancy tests etc.
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    No my mum thought that if we talked about it, I would be tempted. I must say she succeeded. She still is
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    Well my mum has always been really open about everything so I don't think there was any need for her to have the talk with me as she would've happily answered any questions I had about sex. I do remember her talking to me about periods when i was about 10 and her demonstrating what a period looked like by pouring some lager onto a bit of toilet paper! :lol:

    I also remember when I started high school and heard the term "BJ." I asked my mum what it was and she told me to ask my gran! :rofl:
    Last edited by ScottishShortiex; 22-07-2012 at 15:48.
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    when your grandad tells you about masterbating! ummmm awkward... my cheeks were on fire
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    They gave me a book to read :teehee: My mum asked did I want to read it through with her, or on my own. I'm glad I chose the latter.
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    I can't ever remember *not* knowing what sex is. I'm unsure of whether that's a good or a bad thing! I was given a book of knowledge at age eight which had detailed diagrams on sex and I remember it not being anything new to me. Did get basic sex ed at school - in P7 we watched the infamous Living and Growing, then in S1 studied "Making Babies" in science before then having a puberty talk or two in S2 ..

    One utterly horrific memory is of the school nurse at the time trying to explain how to look at and examine your own vulva! Thankfully it wasn't hands on but she did try to explain where one ought to position the mirror!
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    (Original post by Samrout)
    nope. My first exposure to sex was watching, with the rest of the kids on the street, a boy put his flaccid willy in a girl's fanny, saying "look it goes in!". I was about 5-6 at the time, the hot couple must have been about 4.

    Grim but funny.



    edit: lol at the disbelief. Yeah it happened, I remember it vividly. The boy didn't actually hump her, her just put it in, left it, and took it out a few of times. He looked like he was enjoying himself and the girl didn't know wtf was going on. All the kids who were watching found it interesting and funny. The boy was quite good friends with the girl prior to this encounter and used to play with her dolls etc. I grew up with them on my street, they've turned out fine.. ish.

    If you don't laugh, you'll be crying, apply this to everything, especially this tale of childhood experimentation.
    Awwh man, I feel sorry for the girl I hope they don't remember that now!
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    (Original post by daisydaffodil)
    One utterly horrific memory is of the school nurse at the time trying to explain how to look at and examine your own vulva! Thankfully it wasn't hands on but she did try to explain where one ought to position the mirror!
    I'd have thought that was fairly self-explanatory. :dontknow:
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    (Original post by Vohamanah)

    I had heard a little bit of playground gossip about sex in primary school, but my understanding was that the man laid on top of the woman, put his penis in her vagina and laid still all night. It didn't sounds very comfortable
    Same!! I thought they just kind of stood there. I remember feeling disbelief later on like...what!?!? They move??!?!

    My mum told me about it very sweetly when I was like 10. But I knew it all (how!?) and didn't want to hurt her feelings so I pretended it was new
  19. BeccaAnne94's Avatar
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    My mum is scarily open about this kind of stuff whereas my dad gets all embarrassed and refuses to talk about it (we enjoy winding him up about it ).
  20. Philbert's Avatar
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    Re: Did your parents ever give you the talk about 'the birds and the bees'?
    My parents gave me this scientific encyclopaedia that had a section on human reproduction, and I remember borrowing kids books on biology and anatomy from the library. I don't remember my parents ever speaking with me about sex, but I knew the basics before we had sex ed in year 6, so I guess I must have learned it from books.

    If I ever have kids, I want to be a bit more open with them about this sort of thing.
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